I have been dating a guy for a while and we have what someone can call a perfect relationship. We are students and he always have problems with school. I try everything possible everytime to help him through advice and materials in our courses to make things easier for him. Yesterday he told me that he needed a break in the relationship to help him sort somethings out, i was really hurt becos i have been trying everything possible to help out. I felt as if he was pushing me away, so i told him i will give him all the space he wanted without asking questions. This morning in school, he told me that everything he said about needing a break was all a test and he was suprised in the way i was so willing to let him go, he said i acted as if the relationship meant nothing to me. I was even more hurt that he even decided to test me at all. Was i wrong in the way i reacted? Should i apologise? I think he was expecting me to be moody this morning but i looked so happy and he was disappointed. I was hurt, but i put up the happy mood this morning so that my friends will not ask questions but he took it as if i dnt care. Pls help, was i wrong?

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I really want people's opinion pls

You did the right thing sister. Why fix something if it isn't broken?
Keep the happy face and don't let anyone dull your shine.

U did d right thing dear, if u notice changes in his attitude or he wants to end d rlatnship cos of dat. Pls let him go.

You did the right thing next time he try that cheat on him

U don't have any problem.


The boy however has all d problems. He is trading his future over fantasy rather than focusing on his life.

LIFE IS HARD. Believe that

Well... I was surprised to read that you accepted his request without asking questions. If I were you, I would have felt angry at him and disappointed, for giving him everything, and all of a sudden "he needs a break". So if he was really testing you, I understand his doubts. Do you love him? Why didn't you ask him any questions? I would have gone crazy had I been in your shoes...

i love him, i just didnt know the right question to ask him that moment cos that was the last thing i was expecting. And the way he sounded, it was as if he had already made up his mind about it

Not to be too harsh… But u shouldn't have just accepted it like that… Now he thinks u don't care about the relationship. Maybe u should apologise.

graciousisi:
i love him, i just didnt know the right question to ask him that moment cos that was the last thing i was expecting. And the way he sounded, it was as if he had already made up his mind about it

Still, u should av asked questions. You did wrong.

Are u for real? She did notin wrong. Actually I tink dat was a childish tin for the guy to do.. I tink the guy actually needs the break buh wen he saw ur reaction, he saw how strong u cud be and he felt like a loser


My 2kobo.

You did wrong. You should have asked for an explanation when he told you about the break. Not doing so, means you don't care about the relationship. Everyone likes to feel special. He just wanted to know if you scared to loose him or not. Your ego/pride made you not to utter a word.
Do away with the ego, go apologise to him. Let him know his words broke your heart, you coudn't accept it that's why you kept quiet. Relationship is all about sacrifice. Sacrifice your ego/pride to make it work.

graciousisi:
I have been dating a guy for a while and we have what someone can call a perfect relationship. We are students and he always have problems with school. I try everything possible everytime to help him through advice and materials in our courses to make things easier for him. Yesterday he told me that he needed a break in the relationship to help him sort somethings out, i was really hurt becos i have been trying everything possible to help out. I felt as if he was pushing me away, so i told him i will give him all the space he wanted without asking questions. This morning in school, he told me that everything he said about needing a break was all a test and he was suprised in the way i was so willing to let him go, he said i acted as if the relationship meant nothing to me. I was even more hurt that he even decided to test me at all. Was i wrong in the way i reacted? Should i apologise? I think he was expecting me to be moody this morning but i looked so happy and he was disappointed. I was hurt, but i put up the happy mood this morning so that my friends will not ask questions but he took it as if i dnt care. Pls help, was i wrong?

Wow! that's manipulative of him.

no face ur book. dey follow fellow student wey go fuk u and dump u later

Young woman, please face your studies i beg you.

To slap you dey hungry me no face your studies dey play love in tokyo..

ednut1:
no face ur book. dey follow fellow student wey go fuk u and dump u later

Tell her ooo. See the childish guy sef haba. If it were me, ill break up with d guy... No one plays with my emotions like that and expect any sorry from me. Tufiakwa!

graciousisi:
I have been dating a guy for a while and we have what someone can call a perfect relationship. We are students and he always have problems with school. I try everything possible everytime to help him through advice and materials in our courses to make things easier for him. Yesterday he told me that he needed a break in the relationship to help him sort somethings out, i was really hurt becos i have been trying everything possible to help out. I felt as if he was pushing me away, so i told him i will give him all the space he wanted without asking questions. This morning in school, he told me that everything he said about needing a break was all a test and he was suprised in the way i was so willing to let him go, he said i acted as if the relationship meant nothing to me. I was even more hurt that he even decided to test me at all. Was i wrong in the way i reacted? Should i apologise? I think he was expecting me to be moody this morning but i looked so happy and he was disappointed. I was hurt, but i put up the happy mood this morning so that my friends will not ask questions but he took it as if i dnt care. Pls help, was i wrong?

Lady, I tell you this. Your boyfriend is a drama queen and likely immature. Don't let him disturb your mood as a student. A guy that tests his gf is a b*tch n*gga, it's usually the other way round and that even is unacceptable. If he wants a break, let him go. You seeM like a good girl, you can do better.

graciousisi:
I have been dating a guy for a while and we have what someone can call a perfect relationship..... . I was hurt, but i put up the happy mood this morning so that my friends will not ask questions but he took it as if i dnt care. Pls help, was i wrong?

Meet him, take him to a secluded but open place where it is just the two of you.

then VENT out all this things you have just told us.

Make sure you don't allow him speak. Make sure you really VENT and let him know how WICKED he is for putting you through emotional blackmail.

then walk away. and don't pick his calls or talk to him.

you will see how his brain will go back to factory reset mode.

look for me and thank me layra.

I get ur situation perfectly
U try ur best to understand him which prevents you from showing ur own reactions
U do really love him but show him u also have boundaries

The next time he toils and cajols with your emotions break up with him...there's this saying that until you lose what you have you will never see the value...guys should learn to appreciate their girlfriends especially such one as you...good girls are scarce to date these days and that's why i'm still "I".

Dear sister, why not face your studies and leave him alone. Your words depicts you are a serious student but I see that boy dragging you down from 2:1 to 3rd class if you don't leave him now.

He's unserious and has complex issues, a serious-minded sister like you doesn't need such a jerk around.

READ YOUR BOOKS, boyfriend no dey finish for market. Make a good grade and date people at the top.

You did the right thing...


But listen to the truth graciousisi, he actually meant it when he said it was over...he only came back cuz he tot it meant nfn to u..Guys dont like it when u move on b4 them...

mzhorlah:
You did the right thing...


But listen to the truth graciousisi, he actually meant it when he said it was over...he only came back cuz he tot it meant nfn to u..Guys dont like it when u move on b4 them...

You were actually right until you made your last statement... It's not a gender thing, you should've said people who initiate break up don't like it when you move on before them.

OP, not asking him questions and not causing drama when he dropped the bomb doesn't mean you don't care, it means you respect his decisions and you are matured enough to keep your emotions in check.
He actually has no idea what treasure he just lost.
My opinion tho... I stand to be corrected

Hello Sis,

From the content above, it's obvious that you truly love the guy. From experience, I think the guy is either being immature or is fishing out excuses to cut u off his slack.

You agreed to give him all the spaces he needed because u wanted the best for him, you respected his decision. You didn't want to be a distraction of some sort to him. I understand my sister. For him to order for a break, he sees you as a burden to him even after all you did for him(if they are true tho')

Ur boyfriend is only trying to get u off his back. So, he expected you to carry the relationship on your head like fried fish abi

Y would u fix a non-broken material, you tried ur best na. Concentrate on ur studies


HE HAS BEEN MEANING TO BREAK-UP WITH U. HE ONLY USED THAT DUMB TEST AS AN EXCUSE

A person like me would never fall for such

Kick the ungrateful asslicker outta your life and move on. Come out with good grades and date a better man