I really admire singles on nairalist posting their ads looking for love especially in a society that loves to ridicule and scorn people when they let their guards down. I most especially believe they are much much more happier and more adventurous than the rest of us and it should be encouraged.

I especially admire the chicks who take the bulls by the horn to even put their pictures there. I hope they find the perfect partner to compliment their wishes.

May be me sef go put my own pisure as say na only ashewo de trip for me!

Nuff respect you guys and Seun nice one!

What do you guys think; Please no yabbing o!

I searched for the point of your post, couldn't find any

Ebony-Silk:

I searched for the point of your post, couldn't find any

The point is very simple; I admire their gutso. So many people would want to take advantage of the dating site but they are afraid that they will be ridiculed because its not a naija thing but slowly its picking up and even cute girls are taking the bull by the horn to search for their dream partner rather than waiting for him to pop out from the sky.

Its something that should be encouraged IMHO. What made me post this was the picture of that 21yr old pretty chick actually looking for someone to appreciate her. Normally girls of her age and stature would always want to pretend that they can get any man they want by forming, but by posting her pic, she has encouraged other singles to also not feel shy and express the true intention of their hearts and ignore any form of ridicule from other people.

That my friend is the point of my post and i admire them all because, i would be too shy to do something like that but with people like this, who knows by december, everybody posting on nairalist dating would be attaching their pictures and data without any form of fear of criticism or ridicule, thanks to these pioneers!

lawyer:

The point is very simple; I admire their gutso. So many people would want to take advantage of the dating site but they are afraid that they will be ridiculed because its not a naija thing but slowly its picking up and even cute girls are taking the bull by the horn to search for their dream partner rather than waiting for him to pop out from the sky.

Its something that should be encouraged IMHO. What made me post this was the picture of that 21yr old pretty chick actually looking for someone to appreciate her. Normally girls of her age and stature would always want to pretend that they can get any man they want by forming, but by posting her pic, she has encouraged other singles to also not feel shy and express the true intention of their hearts and ignore any form of ridicule from other people.

That my friend is the point of my post and i admire them all because, i would be too shy to do something like that but with people like this, who knows by december, everybody posting on nairalist dating would be attaching their pictures and data without any form of fear of criticism or ridicule, thanks to these pioneers!

Ever heard of "desperate times calls for drastic measures"? @bolded part, abeg, we can get any man at that age jor

LOL na that kain ppl our men dey admire

Strong, independent naija women dey struggle everyday, dem no admire that o.
Our women painfully gush babies out of their vagi, dem no admire am o.

Ok sha. . . .this must be a joke

Ebony-Silk:

I searched for the  point of your post, couldn't find any 

I'm sure it's Your pic that got his attention.
Stop searching. . . .I'm here now!!

you'll soon be on the front page as part of seuns promotion to promote the Nairalist

"THERE ARE 2 ADS BESIDES THIS ONE ON THIS SITE,, I DID NOT POST EITHER ONE, SOMEONE USED MY PHONE NUMBERS,EMAIL AND PICS TO POST. SINCE THAT TIME I HAVE BEEN GETTING CALLS ALL NIGHT LONG FROM AFRICA. PLEASE DO NOT CALL THIS NUMBER!!!!! I WILL BE CHANGING THE NUMBER AS SOON AS I CAN. I AM HAPPILY MARRIED AND AM NOT LOOKING, IF ANYONE KNOWS HOW TO DELETE THESE ADS PLEASE CONTACT ME AT ONLY CONTACT ME FOR THIS REASON ONLY, THANK YOU"

This is so funnyyyyyyyyy!!

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-247458.0.html

Missy B:

I'm sure it's Your pic that got his attention.
Stop searching. . . .I'm here now!!

Babyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy I no dey search. . . .you have all that I want na.
I've been searching sha, but for you and you only

Are You ready to forsake those men and women in Your life??
You know I hate sharing. . . . .

What men and womennnnnnnnnnnnn?
My eyes has always been on ya
No be you dey follow chamotex and tumfulu aroung the board? hmm?

Chamotex and Tum what??
I'll not have You betroth me to Your Part-time Husbands.
I'm hitting my bed now. . . .Night! night!!
You can use His_Grace's Bed tonight as Chamo is busy with my feet.

Night, baby. You take take care
And dream abt only me

@ebony silk and MissyB

You guys shouldnt make fun of people trying to secure a happy future for themselves by placing ads online. Alot of people pretend that things are okay with them waiting for that Mr Right or Miss perfect to show up but they keep on attracting losers every now and then. Matters of the heart are very fragile things and before someone can be so bold to say he or she is needs a particular kind of person to spend his or her life with in the open, that person must be encouraged and not humilated.

You might have a bf or chick that you are dating presently but that doesnt mean you are happy with that person? Nairaland is awash with so many tales of relationship woes and they all want to find happiness like some of us that have stable relationship. Maybe in real life they are shy and cant muster the courage to meet people or they are scared of rejection, but using this medium alleviates a lot of problems they might encounter in meeting the right person they want. Why not encourage them and see how it goes. At least we all want our neighbours to be happy, why not be happy for them and encourage them to find happiness as it suits them?

As to your allusion that i was probably tripped about that 21 yr old girl, sorry to say, i am way older than her for me to be her love interest but i admire her courage and maturity to seek for someone she can flow it and probably spend the rest of her life with in blissful joy and i know someone on nairaland would probably be happy that he has seen his Miss right!

Personally, i think seun has started a very very good trend that will yield positive results in future because little by little, the shy and humilating factor will give way to reality and it has nothing to do with the word desperation as you so eloquently put it. Matters of the heart has nothing to do with desperation but trying to banish the "ALONE" syndrome.

I wonder how many years you will go through being alone without someone to care for you before you become desperate and place a big billboard loking for your Mr/Miss Right!  

2 Of you could be tagged as seniors of the romance thread dishing advise to lonely hearts on a regular basis and i believe loads of people read your posts to handle their love lives, so why dont you step up your counselling by encouraging people to seek happiness through this medium if they feel like instead of discouraging them?

I think you might have more positive responses if you move this to the general discussion.

I wonder how many years you will go through being alone without someone to care for you before you become desperate and place a big billboard loking for your Mr/Miss Right! Undecided

2 Of you could be tagged as seniors of the romance thread dishing advise to lonely hearts on a regular basis and i believe loads of people read your posts to handle their love lives, so why dont you step up your counselling by encouraging people to seek happiness through this medium if they feel like instead of discouraging them?

na me e don yab finish oooooo!!!

I rebuke you I'm young, dnt worry, it'll take me a while to start thinking abt the spinster shelf.

Why should I encourage ppl to do what I won't think of doing?
It's like giving your neighbor a pot of food that your other neighbor gave you to eat.

@lawyer,u have said it all.if u want something go 4 it.nobody wants to be lonely;life is too short 2 live without someone 2 call ur own.

I really think dere's freedom of advertise,if d chicks think dey'll get deir loves online,more power 2 deir elbow (or shld I say fingers?), as 4 me I've not finished dealing with d ones in real life,what would I need virtually?

These people are sumthin else.

There are other ways for them to find a lover but they choose to advertise it on the world wide web.

Anyway,Whatever works for them!!

@Poster

Thanks for bringing this up.  When I saw the first Ad yesterday, I smiled and thought about starting a topic. When I saw the second Ad, three things came to mind

1) Seun should separate the Christian dating service from the general dating service
2) Should Christian use forum (on-line dating services) to find boyfriend/husband
3) are these ladies seeking partners their way (because they think their biological clocks are ticking) or God’s way (depend on God to meet someone)?

Even though the Bible doesn’t tell us exactly how to date, personally I feel uneasy when I see Christians trying to find partners on line.  I guess because where I come from, our teaching on finding a partner (if you can’t find one in your church) is to visit other churches, conventions, church rallies, programs, Christian  plays etc.  there was never an option about on-line dating.

Hope they find what they are looking and that they be very very careful

brw, it's best topic i've seen in this section for a long time.

1love

epi:

@Poster

Thanks for bringing this up. When I saw the first Ad yesterday, I smiled and thought about starting a topic. When I saw the second Ad, three things came to mind

1) Seun should separate the Christian dating service from the general dating service
2) Should Christian use forum (on-line dating services) to find boyfriend/husband
3) are these ladies seeking partners their way (because they think their biological clocks are ticking) or God’s way (depend on God to meet someone)?

Even though the Bible doesn’t tell us exactly how to date, personally I feel uneasy when I see Christians trying to find partners on line. I guess because where I come from, our teaching on finding a partner (if you can’t find one in your church) is to visit other churches, conventions, church rallies, programs, Christian plays etc. there was never an option about on-line dating.

Hope they find what they are looking and that they be very very careful

brw, it's best topic i've seen in this section for a long time.

1love

And who told you that your partner will ONLY be found in a christian church program? Many of these "we met in church" relationships are no better than the "we met in a bar" relationship. Wherever you find your partner is wherever you find him/her.

epi:

@Poster

Thanks for bringing this up.  When I saw the first Ad yesterday, I smiled and thought about starting a topic. When I saw the second Ad, three things came to mind

1) Seun should separate the Christian dating service from the general dating service
2) Should Christian use forum (on-line dating services) to find boyfriend/husband
3) are these ladies seeking partners their way (because they think their biological clocks are ticking) or God’s way (depend on God to meet someone)?

Even though the Bible doesn’t tell us exactly how to date, personally I feel uneasy when I see Christians trying to find partners on line.  I guess because where I come from, our teaching on finding a partner (if you can’t find one in your church) is to visit other churches, conventions, church rallies, programs, Christian  plays etc.  there was never an option about on-line dating.

Hope they find what they are looking and that they be very very careful

brw, it's best topic i've seen in this section for a long time.

1love

honey, u need to break loose! pple who met their partners online r no better or worse than those who met elsewhere. remember the devil himself also goes to church n sometimes he is the pastor himself and all those "church programs" u mentioned aren't safer neither and there are many christian online dating sites folks use to meet their partners. so i really dnt see the reason of all this fuss about online dating

epi:

@Poster

Thanks for bringing this up.  When I saw the first Ad yesterday, I smiled and thought about starting a topic. When I saw the second Ad, three things came to mind

1) Seun should separate the Christian dating service from the general dating service
2) Should Christian use forum (on-line dating services) to find boyfriend/husband
3) are these ladies seeking partners their way (because they think their biological clocks are ticking) or God’s way (depend on God to meet someone)?

Even though the Bible doesn’t tell us exactly how to date, personally I feel uneasy when I see Christians trying to find partners on line.  I guess because where I come from, our teaching on finding a partner (if you can’t find one in your church) is to visit other churches, conventions, church rallies, programs, Christian  plays etc.  there was never an option about on-line dating.

Hope they find what they are looking and to be very very careful

brw, it's best topic i've seen in this section for a long time.

1love

Thanks for your posts; Anyway i have 1 or 2 observations and reservations about it:

Seun should separate the Christian dating service from the general dating service

a) I dont think people should generalise love and romance with religion. Its too sterotype for my liking. Personally i abhor topics or comments that tend to trivialize relationship and religion. Whats wrong in you dating a kind honest Muslim man that would turn out to be a responsible and respectable family man and would love you like there is no tomorrow? Why should i date a girl who proclaims to be a born again christian but is anything but born except a born fire at home all in the name of she is christian and God ordained it? It makes no sense to me. I know of many inter religious relationships and marriages that are waxing stronger by the day.

So there is no need for seun to separate christian dating from muslim dating to hindu dating just because the majority of nairalanders are christians. Its very very wrong and people should determine their love lives by their emotions and not through faith. I accept faith plays a major role in some people's choices and preferences but it shouldnt be generalised hence the need to keep the mode and manner of the dating classified free of tagging.

Tommorrow, we would start hearing we want hausa dating sites alone or Itsekiri lesbian dating sites alone. It makes no sense whatso ever. If you use that as a parametre, then you shouldn't be chatting and making online friends with muslims and atheists on nairaland and should just stick to the religious section alone to find your boo!

Should Christian use forum (on-line dating services) to find boyfriend/husband

Secondly in respect of christians using dating sites to find their spouses, i think its a knee jerk reaction on your part because how you find your spouse is of no consequence. People meet different people through different modes and manners of communications either through networking, church meetings, parties, introductions, batch eves etc. How you meet and know each other is not the question but whether your compatible. The reason your feeling weird about this is because it is a novel idea that is just cropping up which is actually alien to our society but nigerians had no problem using this same medium to find spouses during the yahoo yahoo era where every tom dick and harry felt important posting their pictures online to attract maga or over seas lovers due to the harsh economic reality that time.

How you meet your spouse is of no consequence and you shouldnt judge a book by its cover. For example, while i was doing my youth service some years back, i attended this very popular club filled with all these manner of people that you can think of. In short if the world was to end that day, satan would not hesitate to branch into that club first to carry all of us. I met this chick there and out of boredom i began to chat with her and i took her number. Ordinarily i thought she was a loose girl and didn't expect anything substantial from her, but i later realised that she was the daughter of the speaker of the house of assembly of that state i served and it was her first time going clubbing because her wild friends forced her to come. She was the most homely girl i have ever dated and she was muslim by the way and totally 100% wifey material. The only thing that sepaated us was the fact that she had to leave the country after some time for her masters and we both agreed that long distance relationship wouldnt augur well for us.

In a nutshell, what i am trying to say is that, its not how long but how well. Whether it is a church you meet, club, networking, online dating etc, it makes no difference. Its just everyday life in man's quest to communicate and get closer to people.

are these ladies seeking partners their way (because they think their biological clocks are ticking) or God’s way (depend on God to meet someone)?  

Finally in respect of your third opinion in terms of whether the biological clocks of these women are ticking or not either through their way or God's way, well i cannot expressly answer that for them but if i see a chick's picture that her profile connects with what i would want, why shouldnt i break the ice to get in touch with her. It has nothing to do with her biological clock or whether God wants it. Its her life and she is seeking happiness and i respect her the more for it for coming out to tell the world that she is available if she meets her kind of guy. In fact she would get more responses from potential suitors daily compared to a chick who thinks she is all that and waits for her mr right who might never show up or might not be compatible with her leading to a break up and starting all over again.

All i am saying is that these people should be encouraged to express themselves and not feel ashamed to find love because they themselves know where the shoe is pinching. Its not an act of desperation but an act of courage which most of us lack!    

Cheers!

Yeah. . . . . . Thumps Up to them all and SEUN especially

If a girl is loose for going to a club, what are you for seeing her there?

DeReloaded:

If a girl is loose for going to a club, what are you for seeing her there?

a big boy and a well respected player.

*waka*

~Sissy~:

honey, u need to break loose! pple who met their partners online r no better or worse than those who met elsewhere. remember the devil himself also goes to church n sometimes he is the pastor himself and all those "church programs" u mentioned aren't safer neither and there are many christian online dating sites folks use to meet their partners. so i really dnt see the reason of all this fuss about online dating

davidylan:

And who told you that your partner will ONLY be found in a christian church program? Many of these "we met in church" relationships are no better than the "we met in a bar" relationship. Wherever you find your partner is wherever you find him/her.

Points taken with respect. 
1love

epi:

Points taken with respect. Here is a question I am going to throw into the air - should Christians follow the word of God? If your answer is yes, please tell me exactly how dating was done back in the Biblical days? Upon your response, I'll ask the other question.

Also, can you give your interpretation of these scriptures listed below

Psalm 109:21;
Romans 8:38-39)
Psalm 109:21;
Romans 8:38-39

1love

I think your question is going to derail this thread since it is more of a religion thread topic than an average romance thread topic. This question is extremely pregnant with so many interpretations both from the angles of christians, muslims and atheists and it is going to get very very ugly if allowed, so i will prefer you throw this topic open in the religion thread to see your desired response.

My only comment on this is that, you should stop seeing online dating as something strictly for christians or something God wouldnt approve. It has nothing and i repeat absolutely nothing to do with what faith you worship. Its just like saying when you meet a christian brother for dating, you will have to analyse whether there is an approved way of kissing that conforms with the bible or a prefered mode of having sex with your partner that conforms with the bible.

All these things are irrelevant. The main issue and keeping on topic is that people especially women who advertise on nairalist for dating are very courageous and should be applauded because it is something most women would be scared of or extremely shy to do and would do anything to make fun or humiliate those doing it meanwhile they secretly wish they had the balls to do like wise and would want to see how it turned out by monitoring the progress daily.

I have to go so I'll answer l8r
1 love

lawyer:

Thanks for your posts; Anyway i have 1 or 2 observations and reservations about it:

Seun should separate the Christian dating service from the general dating service

a) I dont think people should generalise love and romance with religion. Its too sterotype for my liking. Personally i abhor topics or comments that tend to trivialize relationship and religion. Whats wrong in you dating a kind honest Muslim man that would turn out to be a responsible and respectable family man and would love you like there is no tomorrow? Why should i date a girl who proclaims to be a born again christian but is anything but born except a born fire at home all in the name of she is christian and God ordained it? It makes no sense to me. I know of many inter religious relationships and marriages that are waxing stronger by the day.

So there is no need for seun to separate christian dating from muslim dating to hindu dating just because the majority of nairalanders are christians. Its very very wrong and people should determine their love lives by their emotions and not through faith. I accept faith plays a major role in some people's choices and preferences but it shouldnt be generalised hence the need to keep the mode and manner of the dating classified free of tagging.

Tommorrow, we would start hearing we want hausa dating sites alone or Itsekiri lesbian dating sites alone. It makes no sense whatso ever. If you use that as a parametre, then you shouldn't be chatting and making online friends with muslims and atheists on nairaland and should just stick to the religious section alone to find your boo!

you are correct so I remove the question. Could you remove yours that you quoted

lawyer:

I think your question is going to derail this thread since it is more of a religion thread topic than an average romance thread topic. This question is extremely pregnant with so many interpretations both from the angles of christians, muslims and atheists and it is going to get very very ugly if allowed, so i will prefer you throw this topic open in the religion thread to see your desired response.

My only comment on this is that, you should stop seeing online dating as something strictly for christians or something God wouldnt approve. It has nothing and i repeat absolutely nothing to do with what faith you worship. Its just like saying when you meet a christian brother for dating, you will have to analyse whether there is an approved way of kissing that conforms with the bible or a prefered mode of having sex with your partner that conforms with the bible.

All these things are irrelevant. The main issue and keeping on topic is that people especially women who advertise on nairalist for dating are very courageous and should be applauded because it is something most women would be scared of or extremely shy to do and would do anything to make fun or humiliate those doing it meanwhile they secretly wish they had the balls to do like wise and would want to see how it turned out by monitoring the progress daily.

Which ever way
Dating is dating as far as u got wat u want and are with it