I am a local man, I am a bush man, I live in the dark ages etc I accept those assertions and many more. I am proud that I wanna believe in methodologies and school of thoughts which work and can stand the test of time, the mind of Man is a deep and vast as the universe itself which entails that man can think and create the most beautiful things as well as despicable things. Control of our thoughts and beliefs is what differentiates the sane from roaming insane (since many insane are not yet roaming), religion is a good control mechanism, culture is also a good control mechanism, I am local and backward cos I place alot of precedence on culture as a control mechanism. It's cos of this that I believe gay marriage is wrong as an African cos it opposes our cultural value even though I accept the right of free will, it is also why I believe feminist idiosyncrasies are dead on arrival and can't stand the test of time nor will be accepted by majority of our women folk to the letter because it opposes their cultural upbringing of role playing. By african culture, men love your wives, respect them as yourself, provide for them and take pride in doing so for your family, women respect ur men, accept he is the head and Wear him proudly as your crown irrespective of status, these are the cultural duties of a spouse towards the other, quarrelling will still come, anger as well as normal in any relationship by never forget your duties to each other, I love this school of thought because it makes bad marriages not look so terrible afterall which is predominantly the norm since the roman times. I object this modern world's penchant to over define everything, to explain everything, to argue and justify everything such as what is love, how do u measure it, how does Mr chima and Mrs chima do it, how do we ascertain when it's over or valid to withdraw our love from our spouse, even whether I should love my fellow man romantically or my fellow woman, or whether I should emasculate my spouse in the name of Oprah's definition of true love. As Africans our love and marital problems won't appear so big anymore if we apply methodologies that are custom made to us. our culture. To those who see this view as something to try out, I wish u success but please as man is an ever teachable being if via trying you put yourself in harms way of an abusive partner, pick up your slippers and dust the Sands bearing the memories of that fellow and walk away. God will always provide. Have a blessed week

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