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Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Erums(m): 10:21pm On Nov 15, 2015
Agathabishen:
Good day house, I have a younger sister who is almost 17yrs. She gave birth to a baby boy june last year, the boy that inpregnated her denied the pregnancy but we rallied around her as a family and bought everything she need and also take care of her and the baby. But just some months after she gave birth she always argue and exchange words with my mum. She will always carry the baby to the baby daddy & stay till around 10pm. She doesn't want to help my mum in the house, I am a poultry farmer & she always steals egg from my farm & takes it to her baby daddy‘s mum. She disrespects me, my mum & my elder brother always. I have alot of dreams for my sister & i wanted her to have a good future but she is already a drop out. Now my mother wants to send her out of the house but i still want her to make good use of her life but she doesn't see it that way.

House what can i do to put her back on track? Thanks



still on it,talk to the baby father
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by flokii: 10:28pm On Nov 15, 2015
@OP you funny sha...

you didn't cry out when they were fvcking her useless yarnsh... na now wey water don pass garri you dey talk...

a Yoruba proverb says... a dog that'll surely go astray won't hear d whistle of d hunter...


sorry to say buh ur sis life na sara... jst forget am
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by bayinq25(m): 10:31pm On Nov 15, 2015
Agathabishen:
Good day house, I have a younger sister who is almost 17yrs. She gave birth to a baby boy june last year, the boy that inpregnated her denied the pregnancy but we rallied around her as a family and bought everything she need and also take care of her and the baby. But just some months after she gave birth she always argue and exchange words with my mum. She will always carry the baby to the baby daddy & stay till around 10pm. She doesn't want to help my mum in the house, I am a poultry farmer & she always steals egg from my farm & takes it to her baby daddy‘s mum. She disrespects me, my mum & my elder brother always. I have alot of dreams for my sister & i wanted her to have a good future but she is already a drop out. Now my mother wants to send her out of the house but i still want her to make good use of her life but she doesn't see it that way.

House what can i do to put her back on track? Thanks
Endtime family issues
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Seculent: 10:38pm On Nov 15, 2015
bayinq25:
Endtime family issues
gringrin
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Nobody: 10:56pm On Nov 15, 2015
davide470:


angry angry

[color=#serif]Uh...David? what'd Ah do? cry[/color]
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by shona2487(f): 11:01pm On Nov 15, 2015
So sad....teenage years r usually hard, it's nt easy to get a teenager to see things d proper way especially one dt hs got his/her head screws loosened by bad frnds. Ur mom may go ahead and send her out but pls, NOT with the baby. U guys can go to the baby father's house since u all knw dt she always go there, nd notify them of ur decision to send her to them on a long term loan.. ALSO i'd like to know when last the young lazy received "igbaju oloyi", it's a native medicine that puts things in d right perspective for some days. U can try a few dose if she keeps disrespecting ya'll. Pls pray for her too.

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Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by onatisi(m): 11:06pm On Nov 15, 2015
Erums:




still on it,talk to the baby father
judging from the story. The baby father family is not financially okay as the girl family. So the girl takes from her own family ,food and money to the baby father family. The baby father family accepts those gifts and may even be encouraging the girl with the promise that she will eventually marry their son. So talking to them is like strengthening their position of negotiations,they want recognition and they want the lady family to take them as one so that they can benefit. Another solution to the problem is asking the lady whether she wants to marry the boy or not. She will say yes ,then the op should ask the boy family too. I am sure they too will say yes with the condition that their son is helped financially. The lady family should organize a marriage for them and give them a lump sum amount of money. Once that is done ,they are free from the girl problems . Because with the way that girl is going there and still fvcking that boy ,she will soon get pregnant again
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by ugbah007: 11:06pm On Nov 15, 2015
Teach that your sister some lessons.well she is still learning sha.
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Nobody: 11:10pm On Nov 15, 2015
Igbawo ni maku o ni ku? I.E. When will a child called 'don't die' won't die? Your sister has sampled gbola, nothing can satisfy her anymore; let her enjoy herself but let her know you can't be responsible for her decision. She's now an adult and hence free to make her own decisions.
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by davide470(m): 11:19pm On Nov 15, 2015
Estharfabian:
[color=#serif]Uh...David? what'd Ah do? cry[/color]
angry You know.
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Nobody: 11:22pm On Nov 15, 2015
davide470:
angry You know.
Talk nah...cry puleeeease? lipsrsealed
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by ginggerxy: 11:23pm On Nov 15, 2015
misspicy:
slap sense into her head undecided
a typical 9ja mother, oshe
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by HaneefahRN(f): 11:27pm On Nov 15, 2015
jabojafa:
leaving to herself isnt d best decision. Our ppl say ''an okro plant can neva be taller dan d owner'' since she suckd ur mum's breast and der is absolutely nothing impossible for God to do den d place of prayer must neva be neglected. Also sending her away since she is nt married or becom an adult yet then u, ur broda n mum have to employ wot eva means to instill discipline into her. You guys hv to be hard on her especially ur elder broda. Dont eva neglect d rod of correction. Finally Shilow is starting on d 8th of Dec, and i think u shd mk it a date with d God of Shilow bring ur sista along to God physically or making her ur only prayer request.
I'm telling u if they don't let her leave, get her married to that guy soon, she'll leave herself. They'll just come back home oneday and find her gone. I know of a girl like that, she later left home and left her child with the parents, till today the parents av nt been able to trace where she lives. She removed her thn from d house one by one wtout them noticing till she finally left. So it's better they let her go honorably nw, if she sees gudness there 'unlikely' gud for her, if the other way round she'll realise what they were doing for her the hard way.
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by davide470(m): 11:35pm On Nov 15, 2015
Estharfabian:
Talk nah...cry puleeeease? lipsrsealed
My tooth has been aching me since, come and check it angry

Also. you had a problem with an 'ish' has it been rectified yet?
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by jabojafa(m): 11:42pm On Nov 15, 2015
HaneefahRN:

I'm telling u if they don't let her leave, get her married to that guy soon, she'll leave herself. They'll just come back home oneday and find her gone. I know of a girl like that, she later left home and left her child with the parents, till today the parents av nt been able to trace where she lives. She removed her thn from d house one by one wtout them noticing till she finally left. So it's better they let her go honorably nw, if she sees gudness there 'unlikely' gud for her, if the other way round she'll realise what they were doing for her the hard way.
i stil think its better she runs away on her own accord dan for her mum to send her away. U dnt throw d baby n d dirty bath water together.
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Speakdatruth: 11:45pm On Nov 15, 2015
octopusfreaky:
17yrs,she still young pls don't let her go,,this is what we call youthful exburance...Youths at D's stage are usually restless..
she can't be tied
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Speakdatruth: 11:48pm On Nov 15, 2015
Politicos:
Parental failure. Before I put forward workable suggestions, let me state categorically that you all have failed to raise a child. Who feeds her? Who buys her clothes? Who shelters her? Unless this story is fictional, I am shocked that after begetting a baby through reckless sexual exploration you guys still cannot stamp your authority over her. You gave her too much room too early. Here is the return!

1. Ground her. She is a dependent minor who is not up to an adult by law. Do this religiously! If she must be cared for, she must submit herself to guardian authority.

2. When last was she spanked? Occasional spanking expels foolishness! I see a pampered brat, raised with buttered words.

3. Confront the randy dude and severe their bond using social, lawful and spiritual measures.

4. Force her to work in the family business or she forfeits whatever luxury it offers.

5. Be warned! Don't send her away! She will return again with a greater bag of shame for the family.

Let's start from here...
in as much as u tried writing, all these will not work. if the pregnancy experience alone was not enough to make her remorseful, forget all these epistle.
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Nobody: 11:49pm On Nov 15, 2015
davide470:
My tooth has been aching me since, come and check it angry

Also. you had a problem with an 'ish' has it been rectified yet?
LoL! I'm Not A Full dentist Yet...I still have 4Years to go...cry

Errrrm...It broke down again...cry
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by 185mikel(m): 11:50pm On Nov 15, 2015
stop talking to her to change because she will never change. instead pray for her to change and hope for the best possible result that she would be changed by God sometime very soon.
your mother should not send her away even though she is much wayward. but if your sister decide to leave the house herself, she should let her go. REMEMBER the prodigal son in the Bible?

no matter how wayward she might seem to be, one day she will definitely come back to her real sense.
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by mercielizzie(f): 11:53pm On Nov 15, 2015
@op your sister needs to learn the hard way. Just pack her bags and drop her in the guy's house. She cannot survive for more than a few weeks. She will come back crawling and pleading.

Reminds me of a young girl like that, she got pregnant for an irresponsible boy, the girl's parents took responsibility. She never learnt her lesson. They enrolled her in a school after the delivery, but the girl packed her bags and left the house one day. For over a year, the parents would go and bring her back home and she would have disappear the next day. They later left her and moved on with their lives. The day the guy kicked her out, she came back to her parents crying and begging. The dad simply gave her an handkerchief to wipe her tears, gave her food and drink, then drove her back to the guy's house. She almost died of weeping on the way back. No one told her to gather the family elders to beg on her behalf before she was taken back by her parents.

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Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by davide470(m): 12:07am On Nov 16, 2015
Estharfabian:
LoL! I'm Not A Full dentist Yet...I still have 4Years to go...cry

Errrrm...It broke down again...cry
Does not matter. angry

So any alternative till it is resolved?
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by coldgate(f): 12:21am On Nov 16, 2015
No need sending her away. Op, your sister is no longer an innocent child. She has eaten the forbidden fruit. Both families should work together to set them up in a business then ensure they are married. Let them experience real adulthood. There is so little that you can do to a child that is ready to self-destruct.
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Nobody: 12:23am On Nov 16, 2015
Khaffi:
My Guy, u couldn't have said it any better. God bless u.
OP this is the real shit, the most sensible post so far.
You people have failed in raising her well, I'm sorry to say but that's the fact. She's been too overpampered.
For goodness sake, she's just 17, still a minor. How did the whole brouhaha get to this stage

I wish she had my kinda mom kiss

Bless you too sister!
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by kolawole247: 12:44am On Nov 16, 2015
Check your family history maybe your parent did a proper marriage and ask deep questions before to know what to do. She's a great child but the devil is at work that's why they ve given her what won't make her to fulfill her purpose on earth. Having sex with someone she's not married have produced a bastard and the child will definately slow her down if she's not careful

Solution : pray for her for 3 days at exactly 12am just for 30mins and tell God to show you the secret behind this problems I tell u a lot shall be reviewd to you from there you will know what to do . Because this seems to be a problem of troublesome foundation and is only God that can solve this problem for you

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Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by deetomee: 1:21am On Nov 16, 2015
Agathabishen:
Good day house, I have a younger sister who is almost 17yrs. She gave birth to a baby boy june last year, the boy that inpregnated her denied the pregnancy but we rallied around her as a family and bought everything she need and also take care of her and the baby. But just some months after she gave birth she always argue and exchange words with my mum. She will always carry the baby to the baby daddy & stay till around 10pm. She doesn't want to help my mum in the house, I am a poultry farmer & she always steals egg from my farm & takes it to her baby daddy‘s mum. She disrespects me, my mum & my elder brother always. I have alot of dreams for my sister & i wanted her to have a good future but she is already a drop out. Now my mother wants to send her out of the house but i still want her to make good use of her life but she doesn't see it that way.

House what can i do to put her back on track? Thanks






Obviously she is still a minor; hence the youthful exuberance. Woz her befitting slaps to reset her. When She has finished crying and all the gragra talk to her as an elder sister. If she doesn't yield then let her be. When fools refuse to listen, it is better they learn first hand from experience. it's the best form of correction. At least if she doesn't get it right, she will make sure her children get it right cos she wouldn't want what happened in 1978 to repeat itself in the lives of her children. Either ways, through this means, a dreams lost in her will be found in her children if and only if she is ready to be a mother after wasted years (I pray it doesn't get to the level)
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by ChynoBEATS: 3:46am On Nov 16, 2015
Agathabishen:
She disrespects me, my mum & my elder brother always. I have alot of dreams for my sister & i wanted her to have a good future but she is already a drop out. Now my mother wants to send her out of the house but i still want her to make good use of her life but she doesn't see it that way.

House what can i do to put her back on track? Thanks

Dear pray for her o,

don't forget that you can always talk to her
You just have 2 sit her down when its midnight

N please dont exchange words with her even if youre angry

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Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Anijay1212(m): 5:07am On Nov 16, 2015
Politicos:
Parental failure. Before I put forward workable suggestions, let me state categorically that you all have failed to raise a child. Who feeds her? Who buys her clothes? Who shelters her? Unless this story is fictional, I am shocked that after begetting a baby through reckless sexual exploration you guys still cannot stamp your authority over her. You gave her too much room too early. Here is the return!

1. Ground her. She is a dependent minor who is not up to an adult by law. Do this religiously! If she must be cared for, she must submit herself to guardian authority.

2. When last was she spanked? Occasional spanking expels foolishness! I see a pampered brat, raised with buttered words.

3. Confront the randy dude and severe their bond using social, lawful and spiritual measures.

4. Force her to work in the family business or she forfeits whatever luxury it offers.

5. Be warned! Don't send her away! She will return again with a greater bag of shame for the family.

Let's start from here...
The most sensible advice.
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by HaneefahRN(f): 5:08am On Nov 16, 2015
jabojafa:
i stil think its better she runs away on her own accord dan for her mum to send her away. U dnt throw d baby n d dirty bath water together.
I neva said they shld send her away, that wld be a rash decision, but they shld call the boy and his family and get them married, after then she is free to go and live with the boy since that's what she wants. If they don't do this She might leave of her own accord very soon and they might nt even be able to trace where she lives.
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by bummyla(m): 5:44am On Nov 16, 2015
Imagine You Are 12 years Older Than Her, And You Also Have An Elder Brother! And A 17 Year Old Is Very Difficult To Control! I Don't Know What To Say! First Who Introduce Her To Sex In The First Place!? Apple Does Not Fall Far From It's Tree! You Guys Have Spoil Her, No Doubt. But To Me Let Her Be!
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by mzclare(f): 5:54am On Nov 16, 2015
pray for her,
then leave her, let her experience a bit of hardship she will understand better by then.
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by jabojafa(m): 6:30am On Nov 16, 2015
HaneefahRN:

I neva said they shld send her away, that wld be a rash decision, but they shld call the boy and his family and get them married, after then she is free to go and live with the boy since that's what she wants. If they don't do this She might leave of her own accord very soon and they might nt even be able to trace where she lives.
hw sure are we if d bf is able to support a family yet?

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