As i write my story my heart is heavy with pain, i love this guy very much,much than i tot i do. i meet him 7 months ago in my mums resturant,my Mum told him to get a job for me in his company so he went to the company and place me as IT until i can be staff there since employment there seem difficult and he introduce me to every one there as the woman he wants to marry unknown to me ,as a result i was allowed to do my IT there and every one there refer me as his wife to be.

I was shocked and ask him why but he made his intentions knwn to me that he love me as much as i like him i did not want to get involve in a relationship with him cos of our religious denominations Differences, i knw i will not be allowed to marry him and i told him so.

But everyday he come around my office beggin me to marry him and that we can go to our seperate churches but i dont want that so i begged him to let me be sayin it wont work as i value my faith, he told his mum abt me and the mum told him not to try to bring me sayin any one comin to my church will become poor.

so i told him we should be friends but he kept beggin me kneelin down for me that i should just accept 1st later any thin can happen seein the way he has begged me i accepted him we became real close and i ve loved him more than the world itself.

But now he is askin me to disown my faith,and come to his church.and when i refuse he told me some one has arrange another girl for him from his church i could not help it but started cryin and beggin him to come to my church but he said that i will rule him and that he is no longer interested that a girl goes to the mans church wen i insiste he called my mum and asked my mum to advise me to leave him alone that he wants to be happy with some one who will go to his Church

To my greatest surprise the girl he has stared datin happen to be a girl next to my office i cried to the point of dying i discovered this girl is a staff too but with all of this i still love him with my heart his absence break my heart the more and i dont knw what to do .I knw he loved me very much and had no girl b4 but now since this girl is around i no longer mean much to him what do i do cos i am almost runing mad as everyone in my offfice stare at me each day should i quit the IT.?

Can you see how you just create unnecessary dramas for yourselves because of your religious beliefs?
My dear,let me tell you the simple truth,LOVE is not and never was present in your relationship.This is very clear.And i am talking about true,authentic love.For if it were to be present,you will each be able to look beyond the boundaries of your respective religious affiliations.And we are talking about denominational boundaries within the same religion here,aren't we?Both of you are christians,right?Can you see what a terrible situation you have created for yourselves?

You guys need to wake up in spirit and stop attaching so much importance on things of this world like manmade belief systems.Because the more you are attached and identified to these worldly forms(religious beliefs) the more you create suffering for yourselves and other people around you.

My dear,you need a hefty dose of spiritual teachings from a teacher like ECKHART TOLLE.Go get his book called,A NEW EARTH,and or "THE POWER OF NOW" and read them both.

ajbaby88:

As i write my story my heart is heavy with pain, i love this guy very much,much than i tot i do.
that he love me as much as i like him i did not want to get involve in a relationship with him cos of our religious denominations Differences, i knw i will not be allowed to marry him and i told him so.

But everyday he come around my office beggin me to marry him and that we can go to our seperate churches but i dont want that so i begged him to let me be sayin it wont work as i value my faith, he told his mum abt me and the mum told him not to try to bring me sayin any one comin to my church will become poor.

But now he is askin me to disown my faith,and come to his church.and when i refuse he told me some one has arrange another girl for him from his church i could not help it but started cryin and beggin him to come to my church but he said that i will rule him and that he is no longer interested that a girl goes to the mans church wen i insiste he called my mum and asked my mum to advise me to leave him alone that he wants to be happy with some one who will go to his Church

To my greatest surprise the girl he has stared datin happen to be a girl next to my office i cried to the point of dying i discovered this girl is a staff too but with all of this i still love him with my heart his absence break my heart the more and i dont knw what to do .I knw he loved me very much and had no girl b4 but now since this girl is around i no longer mean much to him what do i do cos i am almost runing mad as everyone in my offfice stare at me each day should i quit the IT.?

sorry!!!

however, the man said he's no longer interested, and these unresolvable church issues tend to cause a lot of friction when neither party is willing to budge.

I'd say wish him well and date someone else like he's already doing.

I would not advice you to quit your job,especially in this present economic climate in which jobs are so difficult to get.
Accept the situation as it is and let it go.Not as easy as it sound,but that should be your spiritual lesson on letting go of old forms of identities.Part of lessons of life.We all go through them now and again.
Sorry.

ajbaby88:

what do i do cos i am almost runing mad as everyone in my offfice stare at me each day should i quit the IT.?

Lord have mercy and some people on NL say mole and christians should have a go

Let's get something right here- You mean both of you are christians but attend different churches? And this is a big deal?

Hmmm religiousity

@ajbaby88
its bad to hear, but you're in chains. Don't sit in darkness, Jesus can save you. All you need to do is believe that he can save you and invite him to save you. You've tied your love and life to a man, thats why you're almost dying and 'running mad'. The best of your love should be for God, to love the Lord your God with All your heart and All your soul and ALL your might. After that, others can fall in including yourself. That's the Bible manual, thats what can keep you from being moved or having a 'heart heavy with pain'. As you give your life to Christ, allow Him to guide you in your next relationship, so that you don't FALL in love again.

i am not chained in any way is just natural to love someone which i did dont be overcritical about it .i need advice not abuse.

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@ajbaby88
its bad to hear, but you're in chains. Don't sit in darkness, Jesus can save you. All you need to do is believe that he can save you and invite him to save you. You've tied your love and life to a man, thats why you're almost dying and 'running mad'. The best of your love should be for God, to love the Lord your God with All your heart and All your soul and ALL your might. After that, others can fall in including yourself. That's the Bible manual, thats what can keep you from being moved or having a 'heart heavy with pain'. As you give your life to Christ, allow Him to guide you in your next relationship, so that you don't FALL in love again.

how have you said anything that has made any sense? .

Jugunlabi
I quite appreciate ur replies is not really easy .We love each other but u knw marriage is a life long thing u can imagine both couples goin to different churches that was wat i tot and held back,that is just the first step to us not been united my childred and i going else where and thier father going somewhere else it takes alot of maturity to understand this.

I dont expect u to completely understand,not withstanding i appreciate those comment.
i will let go really
Thanks

Accept the situation as it is and let it go.Not as easy as it sound,but that should be your spiritual lesson on letting go of old forms of identities.Part of lessons of life.We all go through them now and again.
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@poster,
What on earth is this church thing,you were proud,haven't you heard that a woman has no church?
I guess its a lesson to you and others.

If u value ur faith u will see the reason why i chosed my God inplace of love, cos i think if he has the same faith in the kind of my practice in church he will be willing to follow.

I want him to be save with me. besides is not that he cant worship where i worship ,he is just scared of been poor wen he comes,But how can he when he knws God gives riches and knwing that he is going to his church becos of the favor he gets gives me concern. Cos the Blessings of the true God is wat makes one happy and adds no sorrow .

This has got nothing to do with pride.
U will understand wen u re in the rit place of worship

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Van
If u value ur faith u will see the reason why i chosed my God inplace of love, cos i think if he has the same faith in the kind of my practice in church he will be willing to follow.

I want him to be save with me. besides is not that he cant worship where i worship ,he is just scared of been poor wen he comes,But  how can he when he knws God gives riches and knwing that he is going to his church becos of the favor he gets gives me concern. Cos the Blessings of the true God is wat makes one happy and adds no sorrow .

This has got nothing to do with pride.
U will understand wen u re in the rit place of worship


What on earth is this church thing,you were proud,haven't you heard that a woman has no church?
I guess its a lesson to you and others.

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@ajbaby88
I'm truly sorry if I sounded insulting or abusive. Its far from what I wanted to sound like. I'm just giving you the truth. You need to sit down to read your initial post and to rethink of your life. So if I had said something in the lines of 'well, it happens take heart, OR o I wish you'll both come back together again and have a happy wedding, OR simply abused the man.maybe you'll have thanked me for 'understanding'.
ajbaby88, look at some of the things you said. You said your relationship or even meeting him started just 7months ago. You said His Mum doesn't want you, You love him more than the world itself, he has ANOTHER girl from his church, He is NO LONGER interested, he told your mum to advise you to leave him alone. You said your heart is heavy with pain, you cried to the point Of DYING, you said you're almost running mad and that you NO LONGER mean much to him! What more will qualify as chains. He's long gone. You're not married, you don't have children together and He's doing THESE? Well you asked 'what do I do?' that's why I told you to give your life and your love to Christ and allow Him to guide you in your next relationship. It's an advice anyway, not a command. I wish you the best.

@mazaje
What are you doing in such a thread as this? Love is not for the 'intellectuals' o. Love is not a thing of the brain, its higher. Its above rational minds who only depend on their brain. Little wonder, you find it impossible to love God. Love hardly makes much sense to the brain-led.

@ajbaby88
I'm truly sorry if I sounded insulting or abusive. Its far from what I wanted to sound like. I'm just giving you the truth. You need to sit down to read your initial post and to rethink of your life. So if I had said something in the lines of 'well, it happens take heart, OR o I wish you'll both come back together again and have a happy wedding, OR simply abused the man.maybe you'll have thanked me for 'understanding'.
ajbaby88, look at some of the things you said. You said your relationship or even meeting him started just 7months ago. You said His Mum doesn't want you, You love him more than the world itself, he has ANOTHER girl from his church, He is NO LONGER interested, he told your mum to advise you to leave him alone. You said your heart is heavy with pain, you cried to the point Of DYING, you said you're almost running mad and that you NO LONGER mean much to him! What more will qualify as chains. He's long gone. You're not married, you don't have children together and He's doing THESE? Well you asked 'what do I do?' that's why I told you to give your life and your love to Christ and allow Him to guide you in your next relationship. It's an advice anyway, not a command. I wish you the best.

@mazaje
What are you doing in such a thread as this? Love is not for the 'intellectuals' o. Love is not a thing of the brain, its higher. Its above rational minds who only depend on their brain. Little wonder, you find it impossible to love God. Love hardly makes much sense to the brain-led.

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@mazaje
What are you doing in such a thread as this? Love is not for the 'intellectuals' o. Love is not a thing of the brain, its higher. Its above rational minds who only depend on their brain. Little wonder, you find it impossible to love God. Love hardly makes much sense to the brain-led.

i rather love the people around me than claim to love some imaginary deity.