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Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by coache(m): 11:21pm On Nov 29, 2015
Hello nairalanders, with respect to my last thread on my relationship challenges, after exhausting all the ideas I could think of she finally sent me a message today that we should breakup due to the pressure from her parents and pastor. After consuming the heartbreaking message, I was so short of words to reply her and I left it at that. The only thing I did was to blacklist her numbers from calling me. Now she has been disturbing me with several text messages pleading I should allow her to call me. Pls fellow nairalanders,I need your advice once again....what do she want again, what should I do....I really feel betrayed cos we agreed to fight till the end but finally its over before.......pls matured advice......Thanks in advance for your usual concern
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by immortalcrown(m): 11:23pm On Nov 29, 2015
Your tone reveals that you are aggressive. So, I won't interfer in this matter.
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by Nova15: 11:24pm On Nov 29, 2015
Allow her call you. Alteast get to know what ahe has to say.
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by IamLEGEND1: 11:25pm On Nov 29, 2015
.u don do the honourable thing by blacklisting that dumb bítch..... now comes ur period of temptation, where you either lose ur resolve & go back crawling to the hoe, begging her to take you back.

Or you continue on ur current trajectory & be over the bítch in no time.

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Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by coache(m): 11:28pm On Nov 29, 2015
Nova15:
Allow her call you. Alteast get to know what ahe has to say.
What if its still abt the breakup she wants to elaborate on.....you know how these things feel
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by Pheals(f): 11:30pm On Nov 29, 2015
Let her call
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by SUPOL(m): 11:32pm On Nov 29, 2015
Sometimes is better to be a spectator. Kip silent dnt talk n just be watchin everyone includin d pastor. Just kip listening n answer ok when necessary. Let no one no ur mind

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Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by SUPOL(m): 11:33pm On Nov 29, 2015
coache:

What if its still abt the breakup she wants to elaborate on.....you know how these things feel
U love dat babe shaa
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by coache(m): 11:37pm On Nov 29, 2015
immortalcrown:
Your tone reveals that you are aggressive. So, I won't interfer in this matter.
Pls sir intervene and I'm very far from been aggressive....my tone may be because I was trying to summarise the message.
My blocking her numbers from calling me was that for over a month now she has been acting so cold towards me, sometimes for a whole day she won't even remember to call unlike before dat there's hardly an hour dat she won't at least flash me.
I've always been calling and pleading for her to change the sudden snubbing attitude but she won't.....that's the main reason I blocked her from calling me after her breakup message.
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by coache(m): 11:40pm On Nov 29, 2015
SUPOL:
U love dat babe shaa
What else can I do.....its been three memorable years of a blissful relationship.
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by coache(m): 11:41pm On Nov 29, 2015
Pheals:
Let her call
Pls can you give me reasons why I should? At least from a female perspective.
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by PHATE007(f): 11:41pm On Nov 29, 2015
I "sense" she really loves u but the pressure shez receiving is weighing her down... I think she's as hurt as u are right nw... Allow her call u dear, hear what she has to say... It aint easy to b a woman bro
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by immortalcrown(m): 11:43pm On Nov 29, 2015
coache:

Pls sir intervene and I'm very far from been aggressive....my tone may be because I was trying to summarise the message.
My blocking her numbers from calling me was that for over a month now she has been acting so cold towards me, sometimes for a whole day she won't even remember to call unlike before dat there's hardly an hour dat she won't at least flash me.
I've always been calling and pleading for her to change the sudden snubbing attitude but she won't.....that's the main reason I blocked her from calling me after her breakup message.
Okay. Allow her call you so that you can gather more knowledge.
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by SUPOL(m): 11:45pm On Nov 29, 2015
Just hold ur peace, let God decide for u. D will of God is nt forced. It will definitely prevail. D storm will calm down
coache:

What else can I do.....its been three memorable years of a blissful relationship.
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by coache(m): 11:49pm On Nov 29, 2015
PHATE007:
I "sense" she really loves u but the pressure shez receiving is weighing her down... I think she's as hurt as u are right nw... Allow her call u dear, hear what she has to say... It aint easy to b a woman bro
I'm really speechless at this point.....I know she really loves me but I've also learnt in life to always leave the stage when the applause is loudest......I'm just trying to avoid loosing relevance in her heart as we go our separate ways cos in her message, she made it clear to me that she can't win the fight against her family and pastor. Pls think abt this and tell me what you feel...thanks.
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by Nobody: 11:55pm On Nov 29, 2015
Let bygone be bygone. Move ahead with your life, she can call, it only depends on what you guys talk about, if it is getting outta hands, then block her!
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by coache(m): 11:59pm On Nov 29, 2015
modelmike7:
Let bygone be bygone. Move ahead with your life, she can call, it only depends on what you guys talk about, if it is getting outta hands, then block her!
Thanks bro...but should that be now or later? I mean allowing her to call me.
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by MRBrownJ: 12:00am On Nov 30, 2015
so this morning she called to say that it was over, after trying to make her change her mind you blocked her, and now she is trying to call you again?! well i suggest you ask her what else she wants from you, just for peace of mind.
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by Nobody: 12:02am On Nov 30, 2015
coache:

Thanks bro...but should that be now or later? I mean allowing her to call me.
..... Now is okay, but if she isn't making sense in her conversation, then do the needful.
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by coache(m): 12:07am On Nov 30, 2015
MRBrownJ:
so this morning she called to say that it was over, after trying to make her change her mind you blocked her, and now she is trying to call you again?! well i suggest you ask her what else she wants from you, just for peace of mind.
Thanks bro.....I just hope she is not trying to say we should remain friends....its really amazing how we tend to cherish things when we no longer have possession of them....

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Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by coache(m): 12:17am On Nov 30, 2015
Thanks everyone for your contributions I'll allow her call me tomorrow and then I'll update you guys.....Gudnite everyone
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by imsuboi(m): 12:20am On Nov 30, 2015
Nigerian females are the most confused species on the planet cheesy

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Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by MRBrownJ: 12:24am On Nov 30, 2015
coache:

Thanks bro.....I just hope she is not trying to say we should remain friends....its really amazing how we tend to cherish things when we no longer have possession of them....

she has the right to say what she wants, but at the end of the day, it will be your call and your decision as to what you want to do.
remaining friends is not such a good idea because it will be more difficult for you to move on, and she may want to keep you in limbo for god knows how long, until she can sort her head out (aka it could be forever)
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by PHATE007(f): 6:45am On Nov 30, 2015
coache:

I'm really speechless at this point.....I know she really loves me but I've also learnt in life to always leave the stage when the applause is loudest......I'm just trying to avoid loosing relevance in her heart as we go our separate ways cos in her message, she made it clear to me that she can't win the fight against her family and pastor. Pls think abt this and tell me what you feel...thanks.
don't leave her alone dear... Tell her exactly how u feel. She told u hw she felt right? I suggest u do same... I think u guys shud come to a compromise concerning dis issue.. But what's truely important nw is for u to let her call
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by jackpot(f): 8:10am On Nov 30, 2015
It's difficult, OP. But moving on, you must. She isn't your wife.
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by austine4real(m): 9:13am On Nov 30, 2015
Heartbreak evrywia.


PLEASE WHAT CAN I USE MY D1CK IS ITCHING,SMELLIN AND IT'S PRODUCING MILK ANYTIME I URINATE :-P;-):-)
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by coache(m): 12:47pm On Nov 30, 2015
Hello everyone,I finally allowed her to reach me in the early hours of today because she kept sending me messages pleading to speak with me as if her life depended on it....during the conversation, she couldn't control her crying and I had to be consoling her as if I were the one that broke up with her.....summary of everything is that she's so confused and not willing to let go anymore like her initial message said....she wants us to remain best of friends which I declined and after much pleading from her which I declined, she made up her mind to continue fighting for us and to face her family again, maintaining she's never going to let go.
Pls guys what does this mean?
where do you think this is heading this time around.......
should I let go and move on....
will she wake up one day again and say she's really ready to say goodbye to me?
Could it be she wants me to hang around her till someone else comes into her life?
Pls I'm totally confused this time around, what should I do?
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by coache(m): 12:49pm On Nov 30, 2015
austine4real:
Heartbreak evrywia.


PLEASE WHAT CAN I USE MY D1CK IS ITCHING,SMELLIN AND IT'S PRODUCING MILK ANYTIME I URINATE :-P;-):-)
Pls get a life and be useful.....just compare your post to your signature....smh
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by Nobody: 12:53pm On Nov 30, 2015
Op, hear her view first b4 deciding on wat 2 do
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by MRBrownJ: 1:06pm On Nov 30, 2015
coache:
Hello everyone,I finally allowed her to reach me in the early hours of today because she kept sending me messages pleading to speak with me as if her life depended on it....during the conversation, she couldn't control her crying and I had to be consoling her as if I were the one that broke up with her.....summary of everything is that she's so confused and not willing to let go anymore like her initial message said....she wants us to remain best of friends which I declined and after much pleading from her which I declined, she made up her mind to continue fighting for us and to face her family again, maintaining she's never going to let go.
Pls guys what does this mean?
where do you think this is heading this time around.......
should I let go and move on....
will she wake up one day again and say she's really ready to say goodbye to me?
Could it be she wants me to hang around her till someone else comes into her life?
Pls I'm totally confused this time around, what should I do?

this gal doesnt know what she wants, and her confusion will simply have you waste your time... UNLESS she is 150% standing by you and your r/ship.
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by raydatluvs(m): 1:31pm On Nov 30, 2015
immortalcrown:
Your tone reveals that you are aggressive. So, I won't interfer in this matter.
what are you taking about agreesion, the young man was hurt and I do not see any abnormality in his actions. Wana expantiate?

I feel most people read with their minds closed so they don't try to understand the situation before commenting. Most people do this on NL.
Re: Please Help, I'm At A Cross Road by Vikky014(f): 2:00pm On Nov 30, 2015
coache:
Hello everyone,I finally allowed her to reach me in the early hours of today because she kept sending me messages pleading to speak with me as if her life depended on it....during the conversation, she couldn't control her crying and I had to be consoling her as if I were the one that broke up with her.....summary of everything is that she's so confused and not willing to let go anymore like her initial message said....she wants us to remain best of friends which I declined and after much pleading from her which I declined, she made up her mind to continue fighting for us and to face her family again, maintaining she's never going to let go.
Pls guys what does this mean?
where do you think this is heading this time around.......
should I let go and move on....
will she wake up one day again and say she's really ready to say goodbye to me?
Could it be she wants me to hang around her till someone else comes into her life?
Pls I'm totally confused this time around, what should I do?
she wants u to hang around her till sme1 else comes. jst play a fast one on her by telln her u hv found sme1else.

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