How long both men and women can you stay without talking to your partners maybe as a way of punishing them for something they did to you like arguments, cheating, disrespect and others like those. What is the longest period? weeks, months or, ?

It depends on what he did. . .normal arguments can be settled in mins or hrs. . .but if we talking cheating. . .then we looking at.  . .  

Not talking to someone u are in a relationship with is childish - whether as a form of punishment or as a norm.

whitelexi:

Not talking to someone u are in a relationship with is childish - whether as a form of punishment or as a norm.

I agree.

it's norm 4 some girls not to get in touch which indicates she has another bf,apart frm u, around her. In such case scenerio, she can go for as long as 2wks (esp in a long distance relationship) even when there r no arguments.

it's norm 4 some girls not to get in touch which indicates she has another bf,apart frm u, around her. In such case scenerio, she can go for as long as 2wks (esp in a long distance relationship) even when there r no arguments.

whitelexi:

Not talking to someone u are in a relationship with is childish - whether as a form of punishment or as a norm.

well said!

if i dont talk to him i hurt too - why punish myself to punish him? - sometimes na chakara - sometimes na vex - i be woman and me sef sabi do!

but never above the limit make up quick quick and cuddle - same sense of humour helps - when angry i dont talk, but that is only until my anger passes - but when he tells me of the 'make-up' promises - i will be tlaking to him soonest - why let the devil steal one more minute of your joy than is necessary

As much as i try to be 'macho',one day kills me But if there's no love,what da f**k!

Diva1:

How long both men and women can you stay without talking to your partners maybe as a way of punishing them for something they did to you like arguments, cheating, disrespect and others like those. What is the longest period? weeks, months or, ?

take off that mind set. why purnish some one you love?

I dont understand why people want to still play games when they are grown.

Punishing your partner will only lead to them doing it to you, then you doing it to him then he doing it to you etc.

The cycle will never end until one person gets tired and then nothing is ever really settled, the problem is brushed under the rug.  To much sweeping under the rug can cause a huge pile and someone will trip and fall.

problems should be dealt with head on once the anger has passed.

When we have problems or disagreements the angry party asks for a little while to gather thier thoughts and calm down.  Then we sit and we talk.  We work it out and find a solution so that next time this does not happen.

Communication is key to a successful r/s.

If you shut off communication you are setting your r/s up for failure.

its not a way to punish ur guy its too childish abeg i no b children joo

@sisterwoman,
R u very old?cos wit d way u analyze issues,u do so wit (inculcated) experience.alot of ur post have been very reasonable.

ebila:

@sisterwoman,
R u very old?cos wit d way u analyze issues,u do so wit (inculcated) experience.alot of ur post have been very reasonable.

I guess if 34 is old then I am old.

I have had one failed marriage thus giving me a bit of insite on how not to do it this time around.

sistawoman:

I dont understand why people want to still play games when they are grown.

Punishing your partner will only lead to them doing it to you, then you doing it to him then he doing it to you etc.

The cycle will never end until one person gets tired and then nothing is ever really settled, the problem is brushed under the rug.  To much sweeping under the rug can cause a huge pile and someone will trip and fall.

problems should be dealt with head on once the anger has passed.

When we have problems or disagreements the angry party asks for a little while to gather thier thoughts and calm down.  Then we sit and we talk.  We work it out and find a solution so that next time this does not happen.

Communication is key to a successful r/s.

If you shut off communication you are setting your r/s up for failure.

FULL STOP no more comments cos dis one don cover everything.


@Sistawoman, na u biko, @34 ur still yung just dat d experiences u got is helpin u n odas too n ur wise enuf 2 learn 4rm ur past mistakes unlik odas dat wunt learn. i personally wil want to come in contact wit u, i mean ur email n stuff 4 personal issues mine s bless24sure@yahoo.com.

bblacky,

My yahoo is on my profile. Send me a friend invite and when I get home I will add you to yahoo (they dont allow yahoo here at the office).

ok will do just dat. thanks

yahoo!!
blessing is 24 lol.

@sistawoman
seriously u do have so much maturity in ur writeup.
that's said, sometimes learn to add some lighter tone, all seriousness sometimes send wrong signals.

Thats what your here for right??

LOL

Diva1:

How long both men and women can you stay without talking to your partners maybe as a way of punishing them for something they did to you like arguments, cheating, disrespect and others like those. What is the longest period? weeks, months or, ?

ur bf still aint talking to u for cussing him out?

tope5000:

ur bf still aint talking to u for cussing him out?

Well as it is, I have begged my life out, pleaded n all, n told him the reason. Though he doesn't want to let go of me according to him,but he still isn't talking to me.

sistawoman:

I dont understand why people want to still play games when they are grown.

Punishing your partner will only lead to them doing it to you, then you doing it to him then he doing it to you etc.

The cycle will never end until one person gets tired and then nothing is ever really settled, the problem is brushed under the rug. To much sweeping under the rug can cause a huge pile and someone will trip and fall.

problems should be dealt with head on once the anger has passed.

When we have problems or disagreements the angry party asks for a little while to gather thier thoughts and calm down. Then we sit and we talk. We work it out and find a solution so that next time this does not happen.

Communication is key to a successful r/s.

If you shut off communication you are setting your r/s up for failure.

Hey sistawoman, greetings to you. I agree with the above and everything else you all have had to say. It beats me hard when someone says it's a punishment especially to someone they claim to love.

I don't know why the hell you are still begging to have that boy back.  He has you as Plan B right now.  He's over there fucking another woman and you're waiting around for him to come back when he's ready.

pshtttttiu shiorrrrrr there is such a thing as stupid in love indeed

me sef i know.

JJYOU:

take off that mind set. why purnish some one you love?

Same here, wondering why?

bblacky:

its not a way to punish ur guy its too childish abeg i no b children joo

I'm not punishing my guy rather he is the one doing so to me.

zerocool:

it's norm 4 some girls not to get in touch which indicates she has another bf,apart frm u, around her. In such case scenerio, she can go for as long as 2wks (esp in a long distance relationship) even when there r no arguments.

Really?? since when?

C2H5OH:

I don't know why the hell you are still begging to have that boy back. He has you as Plan B right now. He's over there fucking another woman and you're waiting around for him to come back when he's ready.

pshtttttiu shiorrrrrr there is such a thing as stupid in love indeed

me sef i know.

Haba, who says I'm still begging him? I am not. This was what happened when it was still fresh not now. Also I am not waiting around for no one, this was just in my thought.

And you still consider him your guy or someting?

If he comes back tomorrow you would take him back wouldn't you?

you can do so much better. you deserve much better. if you distance yourself from his madness you will see it for yourself. the sky is really the limit.

I know I deserve better, I'm working on myself more like healing myself from all the things that has happened with him. I mean he made mistakes I forgave him, when everyother person warned me about, and then I snapped with words just one day I almost pleaded my life out, and this. Yeah it hurts honestly 'cos when you love someone, it's not easy to just let go but the game is getting too old to be stuck with such. It's been long, I decided to finally let go, whenever he's tired of his non communicating he claims as punishment, hopefully it would be too late by then.

rite now myself and my girl are havin a serious shaky problem
and i have decided 2 stay off contact 4rm her for a while
since talking 2 her dosent help
although i dnt know how long but i'll wait for like 1month or so

Diva 1,

is this the same guy you have been having issues? What's with the silence ?

@sisterwoman,

I have had one failed marriage thus giving me a bit of insite on how not to do it this time around.

Sorry 'bout that.

@diva1,
Let dat jackass go and look for somebody more deservin'.

sistawoman:

I dont understand why people want to still play games when they are grown.

Punishing your partner will only lead to them doing it to you, then you doing it to him then he doing it to you etc.

The cycle will never end until one person gets tired and then nothing is ever really settled, the problem is brushed under the rug.  To much sweeping under the rug can cause a huge pile and someone will trip and fall.

problems should be dealt with head on once the anger has passed.

When we have problems or disagreements the angry party asks for a little while to gather thier thoughts and calm down.  Then we sit and we talk.  We work it out and find a solution so that next time this does not happen.

Communication is key to a successful r/s.

If you shut off communication you are setting your r/s up for failure.

this says it all. just the perfect answer