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No broken r/s both ur lives. U both nid 2hv one 4xperience.
But b4 dat, do U luv dis gal strongly enuff 2marry her. U mite/wud say yes, but Uv nt cum in2 d outer world. A university is just a microcosm of d outer world.
U r just goin 2finish skool dis year-end. So many things/obstacles lie ahead of U.
I once tot like U, luving sum gal like U r nw. Bring urself 2reality, d problem is she is ready 4marriage nd confused nd U r nt confused nd yet, not ready.
U both nid 2hv a serious tètè-a-tètè focusing on urselves in d past, present nd future.
U both can then decide 4urselves wat nxt.
But, if i were U. . . . . . . . .there r so many biutiful gals out there, @least more than 4.5billion. D remaining,
GO FIGURE.

Thanks Mate ,
What you're asking me to do now is , "Let Go" ? , you think it's gon' be for a greater good?
Mehn! , I dont even want to Imagine it , Am I really living in DreamLand?
OMG!!! "I dont enter ,

Are you sure you really love this girl? She came telling you rosy tales and you say "Do whatever you please"? Were you just being nice or what?

Yo! mate , I didnt know what to say ,
I was just acting cool but inside me I was loooooooosing strenght mehn! ,
I guess I shouldnt have said that but that was all I could think of at the time.
Yeah I do love her ,
L I F E 'S a b**ch sometimes ,

Let me tell you. You would be taken for granted all the time if that's how you approach issues. Women will take advantage of that and probably label you a wimp. Why do you think she could come to you, her supposed boyfriend for "advice" pretentiously looking for a way to date another so that she won't feel any guilt while she slices your heart into two? She obviously has been nurturing second thoughts about future prospects with you.

I'll advice you leave dating for now and face your studies. Make a man out of yourself. No offense intended o.

I luv dat "pretentiously looking 4a way 2date anoda w-out feeling any guilt"
Stillwater is rite. She (ur supposed gf) has spotted ur weakness nd is trying 2capitalise on dat.

None taken.
U sound like my Elder sis.  
I and ma GF have had issues before now and we settled via Dialogue ,
I dont really see the whole authoritative acts (some dudes protray) as necessary in a/every relationship!
I've always thought that dialogue can solve any kind of issue in relationship but my Elder sis advices me to learn how to discipline me GF and act like a man. The fact that I'm gentle doesnt mean I'm stupid ,
I dont think hitting a lady is appropriate , Shouting also doesn't go well for me , Me sis thinks I haven't got d balls (I know I do) as a man.
My GF does respect me and my attitude towards issues but I think this act (her coming to me with this bullsh!t) has shown the highest level of disrespect for me because as her boyfriend she shouldn't be asking me such a retarded question, I feel sick

Well , I do well in ma Academic field mam' so I can "walk & Chew gum" thanks for your advice ,
What exactly should I do? Pls?

I believe there's a difference between being authoritative and being an authoritarian. Being authoritative does not mean you get to act like a callous bastard who hits a lady at any given time, but exercising a rightful influence on your woman. It helps to show some angry emotion once in a while. Women understand that better and will respect you more often than not.

I know you're not stupid but her attitude towards you stems from the fact that your calm and collected manner translates to you being  pudding in her hands she can manipulate. I tell you this is just the beginning, you'll get more disrespect in future.

I bet the other guy wouldn't take the nonsense she threw at you.

As for advice, well Man up!!!

wow
are you sure you have a "RELATIONSHIP" with this girl?
If you do, she shouldn't in the first place be asking you for advice regarding another dude who wants to marry her? Where is her love and respect for you? It seems to be she doesn't take you seriously enough as a 'boyfriend'
Im also surprised you told her to go with her heart blah blah blah. Don't you love this girl? why do people take love for granted? You want to give away someone you care so deeply about just like that?

She expected you to assure her that you love her, and would want to be with her all the time, that you cant handle her being with another guy, you should be firm about your feelings. If you were my boyfriend, id take it you re not that serious about me or you'\re probably not manly enough. A real man who is in a real relationship will step up, act like one.

Its not too late, you shouldn't sit and fold your arms and act like this doesnt matter, it does (if you truly love her) Let her know how you feel, that she cannot have someone else, that you will be there for her. call her, plan a date and discuss this with her, and let her know exactly what you have put on this topic, how its bothering you.
I promise you if she's re assured of your love and she also 'TRULY' loves you, she will ignore the other guy and focus more on you

With ur responses, sorry but to me u sound like a kid
How old are u? marriage is for MEN and am sure u dnt sound like one that is ready in the next 5 years
I agree with puskin, life in school is different
all this i love u inside campus are different in the real world
Be a man pls and handle this issue like one

this is serious.
looking at the age of the girl, am tempted to say'oh she is still young' as evident in her gut to table such a slap provoking issue before her 'boyfriend' but on a second thot, drawing from shared(not personal) experiences, even older ladies could do same.

no longer do women desire emotional security, they want financial security as much as the latter. they want a secured future, but there is notin such as a secured future.no one knows 2morow.

relationship is becoming riskier than investing in the stock market.(punchline)

@poster.We were all once in ur shoes.With benefit of hindsight,we appreciate the stupidity in all that we call love while in univ, nostalgic!U hav to face ur project and final exams.Some folks had series of academic problems 'cos of the so calle 'love'affairs.[b[i]]My coursemate then was 'waffed' out of medical school while his gf graduated cos he paid more attention 'dragging' this snake with a senior Dr in the teaching hospital then[/b][/i].U also hav NYSC ahead.When ur thru wiv all this,u'll now join the labour,favour market and work for a while before u stabilize;then u will be in good standing to answer this seemingly difficult question!Use ur head not ur d**k.A word is enough for the tutored! Goodluck!

@ poster, reassure her of ur luv _{but dont act as if u're jealous.} The truth is that she has started dating the other man who promise to marry her. Make up ur mind, so dat maybe or maybe not u loose her u won't be too disturbed emotionally, but i advice u not to allow ur relatnship to hinder ur academic progress. Focus on ur academics and fight for ur future to be bright. Guy when u make it u will become every lady's man.

stillwater:

I believe there's a difference between being authoritative and being an authoritarian. Being authoritative does not mean you get to act like a callous bastard who hits a lady at any given time, but exercising a rightful influence on your woman. It helps to show some angry emotion once in a while. Women understand that better and will respect you more often than not.

I know you're not stupid but her attitude towards you stems from the fact that your calm and collected manner translates to you being  pudding in her hands she can manipulate. I tell you this is just the beginning, you'll get more disrespect in future.

I bet the other guy wouldn't take the nonsense she threw at you.

As for advice, well Man up!!!

Noted 

Sasha009:

wow
are you sure you have a "RELATIONSHIP" with this girl?
If you do, she shouldn't in the first place be asking you for advice regarding another dude who wants to marry her? Where is her love and respect for you? It seems to be she doesn't take you seriously enough as a 'boyfriend'
Im also surprised you told her to go with her heart blah blah blah. Don't you love this girl? why do people take love for granted? You want to give away someone you care so deeply about just like that?

She expected you to assure her that you love her, and would want to be with her all the time, that you cant handle her being with another guy, you should be firm about your feelings. If you were my boyfriend, id take it you re not that serious about me or you'\re probably not manly enough. A real man who is in a real relationship will step up, act like one.

Its not too late, you shouldn't sit and fold your arms and act like this doesnt matter, it does (if you truly love her) Let her know how you feel, that she cannot have someone else, that you will be there for her. call her, plan a date and discuss this with her, and let her know exactly what you have put on this topic, how its bothering you.
I promise you if she's re assured of your love and she also 'TRULY' loves you, she will ignore the other guy and focus more on you

Way to go, thats what I did and I think it worked ,  Thanks Mate 

charminme:

With ur responses, sorry but to me u sound like a kid
How old are u? marriage is for MEN and am sure u dnt sound like one that is ready in the next 5 years
I agree with puskin, life in school is different
all this i love u inside campus are different in the real world
Be a man pls and handle this issue like one

Thanks, Is 21 a Kid? IDTS
I'm not talkin about gettin married to her now  ,  I love her and would like her to be mine till I'm due for marriage. 
Thanks for your advice. 

fizzybaba:

this is serious.
looking at the age of the girl, am tempted to say'oh she is still young' as evident in her gut to table such a slap provoking issue before her 'boyfriend' but on a second thot, drawing from shared(not personal) experiences, even older ladies could do same.

no longer do women desire emotional security, they want financial security as much as the latter. they want a secured future, but there is notin such as a secured future.no one knows 2morow.

relationship is becoming riskier than investing in the stock market.(punchline)

Dude you're feeling me! Its all about the benjamins these days ,  I know she does appreciate my little efforts but I hope we can be together till I'm outta sch and on a more stable financial ground.

karl ken:

@poster.We were all once in ur shoes.With benefit of hindsight,we appreciate the stupidity in all that we call love while in univ, nostalgic!U hav to face ur project and final exams.Some folks had series of academic problems 'cos of the so calle 'love'affairs.[b[i]]My coursemate then was 'waffed' out of medical school while his gf graduated cos he paid more attention 'dragging' this snake with a senior Dr in the teaching hospital then[/b][/i].U also hav NYSC ahead.When ur thru wiv all this,u'll now join the labour,favour market and work for a while before u stabilize;then u will be in good standing to answer this seemingly difficult question!Use ur head not ur d**k.A word is enough for the tutored! Goodluck!

Thanks Bro ,  Now that I'm not in a good position to answer the question and since you also know its difficult ,  how do I get along without using ma pr**k  ? Thanks for your advice though.

pop247:

@ poster, reassure her of ur luv _{but dont act as if u're jealous.} The truth is that she has started dating the other man who promise to marry her. Make up ur mind, so dat maybe or maybe not u loose her u won't be too disturbed emotionally, but i advice u not to allow ur relatnship to hinder ur academic progress. Focus on ur academics and fight for ur future to be bright. Guy when u make it u will become every lady's man.

Thanks Bro ,  I fee Ya!



@ Everyone ,  thanks for your advice as I really appreciate. We talked and she recently sent me like 3-page-long sms apologising and stuffs telling me she'll never do anything to hurt me again (I hope it'll stay that way) ,  Thanks Everyone.