hello nairalanders, its with a heavy heart that I type this but I will try to be descriptive as possible.

I got a lady am in love with, we have been dating for some months now, we started off on a good note, but along the line , I started to notice a lot of attitudes.
she was a bit demanding and frequently complaining about issues. she complains about some of my attitudes but does not give a listening ear when i try to tell her about hers.I still rendered my full support and show that I love and care. was a listening ear, and companion. i stayed committed through it all.
she always complain that I don't tell her things ,but the truth is that I do ,and majority of the times when I tell her, her attitude and response is not encouraging and uplifting.
breeze into the new year , I came over to her crib. she was not feeling too well .and in the process of our discussion, I asked her what are her plans for the two of us. she told me its between she and her God.
I gave much respect to that but kept my fingers crossed. as she went out of the room. I decided to lie down on the bed. just beside me was a paper and it was written in it .prayer request. I looked through the page without any negative intent. to my surprise there was not one prayer request for me or us..
what even baffled me was when I read that she want god to reveal her husband and they get married this year,and that lord knows she wants a tall and handsome man. she is taller than me and am not ready for marriage this year. so its evident I am definitely not the guy in the description.
I was sad and surprised , pondered on the issues through the whole day. but I did not tell her until the next day. I proposed that we go off cos its glaring as to what she wants. but she didn't take it lightly .saying that she never had it in mind to do such that its me. and that she still got plans .of which am to help with. now she is accusing me of reading her prayer request that I am very wicked.
I did it with a clear intention until I found put.
am I wrong for doing so and knowing the truth? am I being played and used for the moment? a lot of things I want to know. pls I need to know your views on this.

This land is not for sale.

she obviously have no feelings for u

& the problem is not about ur not being handsome neither is it about u being too short

its about u not being able to play ur game well prolly from the onset

never make a girl feel too important less her head start swelling

Op you did the right thing joor

Life's too short man, u just gotta move on, tho u'll feel sad initially...but I knw time's suppose to heal ya

She will never marry you.she will dump you when she finds dat rich tall guy.wise up don't take her too serious anymore...u need a good backup.hope you understand..

Sir you are just a side guy to her, your lady has got no plans 4 u, to her you are just feeling the blank space for now, I did advice u go out there & look for that woman who will respect & Cherish u more. Don't waste your village & family's time & resources on that lady please, we are counting on u. Thanks

rawpadgin:
she obviously have no feelings for u

& the problem is not about ur not being handsome neither is it about u being too short

its about u not being able to play ur game well prolly from the onset

never make a girl feel too important less her head start swelling

This playing of game very well is bullcrap it is living a fake life,you say don't make a girl feel important,yes I agree but when you make a good woman feel important she loves you more not kids and those who doesn't know what they want. Nothing is wrong with making a woman feel important,let's stop using people who doesn't know what they want as a basis for advise.

taiyegibbs:
hello nairalanders, its with a heavy heart that I type this but I will try to be descriptive as possible.

I got a lady am in love with, we have been dating for some months now, we started off on a good note, but along the line , I started to notice a lot of attitudes.
she was a bit demanding and frequently complaining about issues. she complains about some of my attitudes but does not give a listening ear when i try to tell her about hers.I still rendered my full support and show that I love and care. was a listening ear, and companion. i stayed committed through it all.
she always complain that I don't tell her things ,but the truth is that I do ,and majority of the times when I tell her, her attitude and response is not encouraging and uplifting.
breeze into the new year , I came over to her crib. she was not feeling too well .and in the process of our discussion, I asked her what are her plans for the two of us. she told me its between she and her God.
I gave much respect to that but kept my fingers crossed. as she went out of the room. I decided to lie down on the bed. just beside me was a paper and it was written in it .prayer request. I looked through the page without any negative intent. to my surprise there was not one prayer request for me or us..
what even baffled me was when I read that she want god to reveal her husband and they get married this year,and that lord knows she wants a tall and handsome man. she is taller than me and am not ready for marriage this year. so its evident I am definitely not the guy in the description.
I was sad and surprised , pondered on the issues through the whole day. but I did not tell her until the next day. I proposed that we go off cos its glaring as to what she wants. but she didn't take it lightly .saying that she never had it in mind to do such that its me. and that she still got plans .of which am to help with. now she is accusing me of reading her prayer request that I am very wicked.
I did it with a clear intention until I found put.
am I wrong for doing so and knowing the truth? am I being played and used for the moment? a lot of things I want to know. pls I need to know your views on this.

Sorry about that. What you really have to know is; she doesn't love you. You should also have your own standard for a woman and not just go out with any girl.

I would advice you to drop her otherwise she'll hurt your feelings more later.

It's hurts but you have to move remove all emotions,not easy but it will be the best thing to happen to you.

You are absolutely right.

henryhemon:


This playing of game very well is bullcrap it is living a fake life,you say don't make a girl feel important,yes I agree but when you make a good woman feel important she loves you more not kids and those who doesn't know what they want. Nothing is wrong with making a woman feel important,let's stop using people who doesn't know what they want as a basis for advise.

Op, drop her b4 she drops u. D reason she said u ar d one is because of d financial assistance she sees frm u. You av been bobo-ed. Look elsewhre 4 ur gf.diz is new year,dnt work ursef up ova notin

henryhemon:


This playing of game very well is bullcrap it is living a fake life,you say don't make a girl feel important,yes I agree but when you make a good woman feel important she loves you more not kids and those who doesn't know what they want. Nothing is wrong with making a woman feel important,let's stop using people who doesn't know what they want as a basis for advise.

& how many women know what they want

Op sorry about that

She is just using u to pass the time until her dream guy comes along
Just try nd move on, it's d new year, try nd be happy
Someone good will come along wen u least expect it

rawpadgin:
& how many women know what they want

Dere r good women out dere who knows what dey want, it's just dat dey have not found d right guy yet nd r be taken for granted

I'm sorry bro, but this sounds so funny to me. Well, I can only advice to ditch her cus she's got her aims and objectives and you just a current care taker, we all human you know, the real you is all up in your brain, she's using hers, I employ you use yours eventhough I'm not gonna pay you for the employment.

myfantasies:
Op sorry about that


She is just using u to pass the time until her dream guy comes along

Just try nd move on, it's d new year, try nd be happy

Someone good will come along wen u least expect it

Thank u. It's a very rough and sad ending really wish it could be matured and cordial. Tried to still let her know what she did wrong but it ended up in an unresolved argument. I guess the time to argue is over. I tried to ask for her to give meaning to the post. But we kept going in circles. Very sad

taiyegibbs:

Thank u. It's a very rough and sad ending really wish it could be matured and cordial. Tried to still let her know what she did wrong but it ended up in an unresolved argument. I guess the time to argue is over. I tried to ask for her to give meaning to the post. But we kept going in circles. Very sad

I understand how you feel

We all have had our own fair share of betrayal wen it comes to relationship, just give it time, u will get through it

I believe dere is someone for everyone