In Nigeria, if you see a man opening the car door for the wife, it is either because they   are newly wedded or because the car door is bad,!
Anyone that shares the same view?

Is love & respect. I ll do it 4 my lady.

what did u see ur boyfriend opening a door for a lady, and then he lied and said that the door was spoilt, well guys do it to impress the ladies, if her dress is too tight or too big, on special occasions, and yes if the door is jammed

but its something everyman should do for a lady whether or not thy are interested in her, soemting a lot of men especially nigerian men dont do

hmmmmmmmmmm

In Nigeria it is also hard to find a lady that will open the car door for a man. After he has let her into the car first she will sit and wait for him to unlock his side too. (but this was b4 the days of central lock)

is it the Nigerian men that dont do that or is it their cultures that dont allow that. opening ur wife's door is seen as a sign of weakness not romance in our society so dont u go blaming the men, blame the culture that doesnt allow people to do it freely.

mazaje that is the dumbest excuse i have ever heard, go back and read what u wrote, i have had nigerian men open the door for me before, and trust me they are very manly men.

i will gladly do that for my wife to be.with the whole of my heart.

I do it when I can but sometimes, the opportunity doesn't just avail itself .Moreover, I agree with MAZAJE, the culture doesn't allow it. I see ntn wrong in opening the door for a lady just the way, I open the door for a lady to enter before me. However, in those days when i dey enter bus and molue, I no fit o o o, e mean say na bus stop i go sleep.

and trust me they are very manly men.

What does being manly have to do with being romantic?

A lot of Nigerian men interpret being manly as being macho, the ruler who say's how things go, as the one who should be waited on, as the one who should be coddled.

Don't get me wrong, I have seen some very sweet and poetically romantic Nigerian men. They know how to sweet talk their ass off but the point is, many Nigerian people are afraid to try out their urges because of the way their fellow Nigerians mite view them, is that really being true to your self?

wot of people wey dey open door for woman everyday and when dem don drink or take drugs, dem go give the woman black eye? na part of the romance?
make i hear word jo

lmao justgood true talk
infact sometimes they dont even have to take drugs to beat the woman black and blue lol. Romantico rubbish. Abeg you guys leave our men alone, they are fine. leave the romance to the french and italianos lol hiss. ah ha abeg u want men to buy ur pant, buy your hair sef. haba!

for one we havent had cars as long as the americans, italians and french, why dont we wait till we get to the point_{whatever that point is} when foreigners started opening doors for the ladies. then we can talk of romance

word!

With all the women lib that most nairalanders subscribe to they still want men to open doors for them, U cant eat your cake and keep it o

@ Topic,

As far as i am concerned, i like to keep things real. I probably wouldn't open the door for the lady not even on a first date. The reason being, the whole thing is a SHAM. Most guys will open door for the early few months of the relationship and stop. Its telling me one thing, EVERYONE IS GOIN BY THE SCRIPT

For something that i know i wouldnt be doin in the long run, why do it in the first place to impress and stop?. Only to be accused of fronting.

Same as the lady, they appear to be in accord with you. They don't seem to be bothered by your dressing styles, or friends during when you're "approving her application" As soon as the relationship goes to the next level then the rules start WTF?

I'll say just be yourself. If we got stuff in our hands while walking to the car, of course i will get the door for her. Except that,  i'll say NO. Thats why people get disappointed in relationship because "he don't do what he used to do for me". Meanwhile, the guy was just goin along just to score some browny points

The guy down the road is getting bombarded with so many rules. U start to think, "if i need someone to kick me around this much, i could have just stay at home with my Mom". all of a sudden my Mom's rule seems like a child's play

Culture or not, i will not do things that i can't keep up with in the long run. Period. You want the truth, i hope you can handle the truth.

promise72:

@ Topic,

As far as i am concerned, i like to keep things real. I probably wouldn't open the door for the lady not even on a first date. The reason being, the whole thing is a SHAM. Most guys will open door for the early few months of the relationship and stop. Its telling me one thing, EVERYONE IS GOIN BY THE SCRIPT

For something that i know i wouldnt be doin in the long run, why do it in the first place to impress and stop?. Only to be accused of fronting.

Same as the lady, they appear to be in accord with you. They don't seem to be bothered by your dressing styles, or friends during when you're "approving her application" As soon as the relationship goes to the next level then the rules start WTF?

I'll say just be yourself. If we got stuff in our hands while walking to the car, of course i will get the door for her. Except that, i'll say NO. Thats why people get disappointed in relationship because "he don't do what he used to do for me". Meanwhile, the guy was just goin along just to score some browny points

The guy down the road is getting bombarded with so many rules. U start to think, "if i need someone to kick me around this much, i could have just stay at home with my Mom". all of a sudden my Mom's rule seems like a child's play

Culture or not, i will not do things that i can't keep up with in the long run. Period. You want the truth, i hope you can handle the truth.

Well put.

promise72:

@ Topic,

As far as i am concerned, i like to keep things real. I probably wouldn't open the door for the lady not even on a first date. The reason being, the whole thing is a SHAM. Most guys will open door for the early few months of the relationship and stop. Its telling me one thing, EVERYONE IS GOIN BY THE SCRIPT

For something that i know i wouldnt be doin in the long run, why do it in the first place to impress and stop?. Only to be accused of fronting.

Same as the lady, they appear to be in accord with you. They don't seem to be bothered by your dressing styles, or friends during when you're "approving her application" As soon as the relationship goes to the next level then the rules start WTF?

I'll say just be yourself. If we got stuff in our hands while walking to the car, of course i will get the door for her. Except that, i'll say NO. Thats why people get disappointed in relationship because "he don't do what he used to do for me". Meanwhile, the guy was just goin along just to score some browny points

The guy down the road is getting bombarded with so many rules. U start to think, "if i need someone to kick me around this much, i could have just stay at home with my Mom". all of a sudden my Mom's rule seems like a child's play

Culture or not, i will not do things that i can't keep up with in the long run. Period. You want the truth, i hope you can handle the truth.

nuff said

promise72:

@ Topic,

As far as i am concerned, i like to keep things real. I probably wouldn't open the door for the lady not even on a first date. The reason being, the whole thing is a SHAM. Most guys will open door for the early few months of the relationship and stop. Its telling me one thing, EVERYONE IS GOIN BY THE SCRIPT

For something that i know i wouldnt be doin in the long run, why do it in the first place to impress and stop?. Only to be accused of fronting.

Same as the lady, they appear to be in accord with you. They don't seem to be bothered by your dressing styles, or friends during when you're "approving her application" As soon as the relationship goes to the next level then the rules start WTF?

I'll say just be yourself. If we got stuff in our hands while walking to the car, of course i will get the door for her. Except that, i'll say NO. Thats why people get disappointed in relationship because "he don't do what he used to do for me". Meanwhile, the guy was just goin along just to score some browny points

The guy down the road is getting bombarded with so many rules. U start to think, "if i need someone to kick me around this much, i could have just stay at home with my Mom". all of a sudden my Mom's rule seems like a child's play

Culture or not, i will not do things that i can't keep up with in the long run. Period. You want the truth, i hope you can handle the truth.

**jus wanted to do the same thing the last 2 posters did**

promise72:

@ Topic,

As far as i am concerned, i like to keep things real. I probably wouldn't open the door for the lady not even on a first date. The reason being, the whole thing is a SHAM. Most guys will open door for the early few months of the relationship and stop. Its telling me one thing, EVERYONE IS GOIN BY THE SCRIPT

For something that i know i wouldnt be doin in the long run, why do it in the first place to impress and stop?. Only to be accused of fronting.

Same as the lady, they appear to be in accord with you. They don't seem to be bothered by your dressing styles, or friends during when you're "approving her application" As soon as the relationship goes to the next level then the rules start WTF?

I'll say just be yourself. If we got stuff in our hands while walking to the car, of course i will get the door for her. Except that, i'll say NO. Thats why people get disappointed in relationship because "he don't do what he used to do for me". Meanwhile, the guy was just goin along just to score some browny points

The guy down the road is getting bombarded with so many rules. U start to think, "if i need someone to kick me around this much, i could have just stay at home with my Mom". all of a sudden my Mom's rule seems like a child's play

Culture or not, i will not do things that i can't keep up with in the long run. Period. You want the truth, i hope you can handle the truth.

Best post so far. You spoke my inner mind.

promise72:

@ Topic,

As far as i am concerned, i like to keep things real. I probably wouldn't open the door for the lady not even on a first date. The reason being, the whole thing is a SHAM. Most guys will open door for the early few months of the relationship and stop. Its telling me one thing, EVERYONE IS GOIN BY THE SCRIPT

For something that i know i wouldnt be doin in the long run, why do it in the first place to impress and stop?. Only to be accused of fronting.

Same as the lady, they appear to be in accord with you. They don't seem to be bothered by your dressing styles, or friends during when you're "approving her application" As soon as the relationship goes to the next level then the rules start WTF?

I'll say just be yourself. If we got stuff in our hands while walking to the car, of course i will get the door for her. Except that, i'll say NO. Thats why people get disappointed in relationship because "he don't do what he used to do for me". Meanwhile, the guy was just goin along just to score some browny points

The guy down the road is getting bombarded with so many rules. U start to think, "if i need someone to kick me around this much, i could have just stay at home with my Mom". all of a sudden my Mom's rule seems like a child's play

Culture or not, i will not do things that i can't keep up with in the long run. Period. You want the truth, i hope you can handle the truth.

is it the Nigerian men that don't do that or is it their cultures that don't allow that. opening your wife's door is seen as a sign of weakness not romance in our society so don't u go blaming the men, blame the culture that doesnt allow people to do it freely.

TRUE WORD MAZAJE!

yankidelta:

is it the Nigerian men that don't do that or is it their cultures that don't allow that. opening your wife's door is seen as a sign of weakness not romance in our society so don't u go blaming the men, blame the culture that doesnt allow people to do it freely.

TRUE WORD MAZAJE!

why do you want to blame the culture for not encouraging deception?
i'm glad the culture does not encourage things that are so fake and temporal. even those whose culture permits it, how many of them do it after the first few weeks of dating?
i hope you've not been believing everything you watch on TV. or you think what celebrities do when there are cameras around is what they do when there are no cameras?

Sometimes when i evaluate what women consider as 'romantic', i can't help but wag my head in utter disbelief. Women indeed are from Mars , Little wonder they keep falling into the hands of playas who know how to act smoothly albeit for a short time

I can only open the door (car or whatever) for a woman/girl, if i got there before her, if she is a child or elderly or if it is physically impossible for her to do so. I've often rushed to help ladies pushing their baby buggies open a door. But to routinely open a car door which requires no extraordinary effort? Never, it's not in my xter.

hehehehe

u know what girls

to solve this problem just buy a remote control for ur boyfriends' car doors.
that way when u guys are approaching the car all he has to do is push the button and surprise, the door flies right open. so u still get the feeling that he was romantic and pushed the button, and the guy is happy that he didnt have to walk his ass all the way to the other side

Who cares if he opens the door? lol. . that's complete bullshit to me. Most guys do that 'cause they feel insecure!

Sometimes when I hear guys speak, I'm like "geeez"! You guys can be really insecure. OK! So what if you open the door for a lady? That means she got you in her palms? INSECURITY!!! Guys get over yoursleves

Me i have a good laugh if a man opens the car door for me.

mazaje that is the dumbest excuse i have ever heard, go back and read what u wrote, i have had nigerian men open the door for me before, and trust me they are very manly men.

wetin any of dem don achieve as dem dey rush to open door for you or as a result of it?

rumpy pumpy? perhaps  After the groove is gone, its back to let your self in my darling

dat's why dem say women too dey do like mumu sometimes.
and na de women wey dey always find these kind things dey end up miserable after the relationship don pafuka

mamaput:

Me i have a good laugh if a man opens the car door for me.

Lol, i agree with u mamaput. It looks quite 'suspicious' especially if the guy is black. It leaves u thinking, 'hmmm, so what's the catch?' but few 'cool' guys can be sincere sometimes