hglmkope:
Hello! I just could not pass by without saying a word about this. What if he does not plan to live in Nigeria? Would you prefer that they both stay apart after wedding. Although there are Nigerian women who will cheat on their spouse, history also has record of those that have remained faithful despite all odds (you attest to this yourself).

At op, please only you can decide if you want her to come over there with you. You know her so well more than anyone here. Besides, I think if she is worth being your wife, then she is worth living with you wherever you are. Please don't make her wait for you. It does not always work out that way.

Justdulla:
Bros Abroad could be congo or uganda as well oooh

janellemonae:


Unfortunately for you i have experienced it, my parents have experienced it and some of my siblings have experienced it. Yes, i have family all over the world. You cant even begin to imagine the effects a green card/residence permit can have on a family when its not done right.

oshaosha2014:
That is how it is most of the time; a lady that was humble before, when she gets to america, she learns that she can push her man out of the house whether she's at fault or not. she starts misbehaving so that she can trap you with the feminist law over there. If she bleeps a stranger right before your eyes, the law over there don't recognise that. But if you make her angry or annoy her, the law will come after you and take it full course.

OP, take your wife along with you. And please, when you get a divorce or she gets you jailed, I want that update here please.

If paraventure she didn't maltreat treat you or force you out of your own house because she is a woman, then accept my apologies in advance.

This is what's happens most of the time. You will be a lucky man if you don't end up like several other guys who made the mistake of taking a woman from to there.

janellemonae:


@op hope ur not taking this advice. This is not good advice. Im just telling u cos the whole thing is predicated on the highlighted. I can tell u for a fact dt personal statistic is not factual. Dt guy probably knows one person wt a bad marriage & peppered it wt other nairaland stories.

The factual statistic though is dt long distance marriages dont work. Take dt to the bank.

Mcayofficial:
Please help me fellow nairalanders
I'm in a confused state of mind as I type this,I and my fiancee are planning to get married soon this year God willing,I'm presently out of the country,while my wife to be is in Nigeria,we really don't wanna exceed 200invitees in attendance on our wedding day,but here are some limitations to this:

1. My wife to be is a worker in a big church,where she's an active one
2. Her family members might not support this,as they tend to love parties from their end
3. I'm planning on taking her along with me to the country where I'm based presently,so as to settle down there,all these will gulp cash,and we are trying to be very conservative with our spendings as well



Please we need your matured advice as on how to go about this,our plans include church wedding,introduction,engagement and reception in a day...Thank you

samhay:
So, person no fit organize private ceremony? Make i sit down and read comments

hglmkope:
I understand your point. I just don't buy the idea of generalizing. Op's fiancée might be an exception to the norm. I just think that we should be careful when advising others.

Mcayofficial:
Please help me fellow nairalanders
I'm in a confused state of mind as I type this,I and my fiancee are planning to get married soon this year God willing,I'm presently out of the country,while my wife to be is in Nigeria,we really don't wanna exceed 200invitees in attendance on our wedding day,but here are some limitations to this:

1. My wife to be is a worker in a big church,where she's an active one
2. Her family members might not support this,as they tend to love parties from their end
3. I'm planning on taking her along with me to the country where I'm based presently,so as to settle down there,all these will gulp cash,and we are trying to be very conservative with our spendings as well



Please we need your matured advice as on how to go about this,our plans include church wedding,introduction,engagement and reception in a day...Thank you

agarawu23:
my father ode

Mcayofficial:
Please help me fellow nairalanders
I'm in a confused state of mind as I type this,I and my fiancee are planning to get married soon this year God willing,I'm presently out of the country,while my wife to be is in Nigeria,we really don't wanna exceed 200invitees in attendance on our wedding day,but here are some limitations to this:

1. My wife to be is a worker in a big church,where she's an active one
2. Her family members might not support this,as they tend to love parties from their end
3. I'm planning on taking her along with me to the country where I'm based presently,so as to settle down there,all these will gulp cash,and we are trying to be very conservative with our spendings as well



Please we need your matured advice as on how to go about this,our plans include church wedding,introduction,engagement and reception in a day...Thank you

ronald4lif:


It's not an act of insecurity if a woman insist she lives together with her hubby, it's her right and the most apt thing to do, couple should live together.

The problem is that some women have abuse it and prompted guys to leave their women in Nigeria. And about impregnating women and leaving them home isn't abandoning per say, as they
frequently wire money to take care of them. No one abandons their wives and kids.

And no man likes to live separately with their woman, everyone loves to live together with their spouse. That's the point of getting married, live together. Some guys just don't bring their wife instantly until after a kids or two prolly to gauge her character and be certain she won't be troublesome. So, eventually these wives still join their hubby.

True, there are some guys who are married to whites but the marriage is usually a temporal engagement until they secure their complete paperwork. Such men can marry in Nigeria and leave their wives home until they secure what they want before considering she joins him. Is that a problem?

oshaosha2014:
It is left to him what he wants to do. But the truth has to be told. I have a bro abroad. When he is ready to get married, I will give him this same advise.

Mcayofficial:
Please help me fellow nairalanders
I'm in a confused state of mind as I type this,I and my fiancee are planning to get married soon this year God willing,I'm presently out of the country,while my wife to be is in Nigeria,we really don't wanna exceed 200invitees in attendance on our wedding day,but here are some limitations to this:

1. My wife to be is a worker in a big church,where she's an active one
2. Her family members might not support this,as they tend to love parties from their end
3. I'm planning on taking her along with me to the country where I'm based presently,so as to settle down there,all these will gulp cash,and we are trying to be very conservative with our spendings as well



Please we need your matured advice as on how to go about this,our plans include church wedding,introduction,engagement and reception in a day...Thank you

Henrique4real:




Who is this person sef? Some people would just spread their fingers and start typing without weighing their words. So its okay for the man to marry a Nigerian wife, keep her here to check her character and then go abroad and be banging another woman for green card after which he wud bring his wife over but its not okay for d wife to come and join him there to bang other white men. Msheew! [b][/b]

Mcayofficial:
Please help me fellow nairalanders

oshaosha2014:
That is how it is most of the time; a lady that was humble before, when she gets to america, she learns that she can push her man out of the house whether she's at fault or not. she starts misbehaving so that she can trap you with the feminist law over there. If she bleeps a stranger right before your eyes, the law over there don't recognise that. But if you make her angry or annoy her, the law will come after you and take it full course.

OP, take your wife along with you. And please, when you get a divorce or she gets you jailed, I want that update here please.

If paraventure she didn't maltreat treat you or force you out of your own house because she is a woman, then accept my apologies in advance.

This is what's happens most of the time. You will be a lucky man if you don't end up like several other guys who made the mistake of taking a woman from to there.