Is there anything wrong with getting married to a divorcee? What are the impending consequences?
She has all I want in a woman, but a divorcee with a daughter.

Nlander's I need your input as I am planning to walk to the altar soon. Thanx



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Lalasticlala, please help me take this to the front page. I need more input from fellow Nlanders.

Does she make u happy?

Nothing wrong bro, as long as you and your intended bride are in love and truthful to each other, then March on. Don't listen to negative people, follow your heart. Best wishes..

Cutehector:
Does she make u happy?

she does

eme1n:
Nothing wrong bro, as long as you and your intended bride are in love and truthful to each other, then March on. Don't listen to negative people, follow your heart. Best wishes..

Thanx

Why is this a question sef. What's wrong with a divorcee with a child?

Cutehector:
Does she make u happy?

ronald4lif:
Why is this a question sef. What's wrong with a divorcee with a child?

eme1n:
Nothing wrong bro, as long as you and your intended bride are in love and truthful to each other, then March on. Don't listen to negative people, follow your heart. Best wishes..

And some people will tell you that there are no good men out there.

Mbkite, enjoy your love and do whatever makes you happy.

Mindfulness:





And some people will tell you that there are no good men out there.
Mbkite, enjoy your love and do whatever makes you happy.

thanx bro.

Noting dey inside,if u love her n she loves u too i see nothing bad abt it

Mbkite:
Is there anything wrong with marrying a divorcee? What are the impending consequences?
She has all I want in a woman, but a divorcee with a daughter.

Nlander's I need your input as I am planning to walk to the altar soon. Thanx

There is nothing wrong.Ignore the stigma attached to divorces.As long as you are well equipped with the fact that she was faultless,or had to work out of her erstwhile marriage due to necessity,and she has all YOU desire in a wife,the carry go..

Mbkite:

she does

den marry her. U will be happy u did...

Mbkite:
Is there anything wrong with marrying a divorcee? What are the impending consequences?
She has all I want in a woman, but a divorcee with a daughter.

Nlander's I need your input as I am planning to walk to the altar soon. Thanx

As much as i want to encourage you to be happy, i must advice you to thread with wisdom, refrain from making the decision for a future with emotions, it must not be hinged on the amount of love you have for her alone or just because she makes you happy, people fall out of love in marriage..#fact; that is when other variables deemed inconsequential help in rebuilding the lost love and help keep the marriage. This is applicable to every relationship and not just relationships with a divorcee either with kids or not.

Can you step-parent? there are no assurances for step-parents, the law does not recognize step-parents thus whatever investment (emotional, financial and moral) you are going to build with the daughter is hinged on mere hope that it is reciprocated with acceptance, mutual love and respect.

Have you and your wife to be discussed the expectations with regards to the daughter? it might seem irrelevant now but i can assure you if not addressed now it would rear its ugly head soon. i am a firm believer that when you get married to your partner, you are married to their baggage vice versa.

what is the relationship of the biological father with the child? how much influence does he exert in her life? how old is the child? if she is old enough, have you had a conversation with the daughter? explain that you are not here to replace her biological father, daughters are especially close to their biological father and become sensitive when another man comes.

Why is she divorced? did she tell you everything that happened? i mean everything and not sounding like a victim, people who sound victimized never heal and are hard to please cos they rarely move on from the past..this is also applicable to yourself.

Divorcees with children are also human and deserve another shot at marriage.

I wish you all the best bro and would be praying that you succeed.

Mbkite:
Is there anything wrong with marrying a divorcee? What are the impending consequences?
She has all I want in a woman, but a divorcee with a daughter.

Nlander's I need your input as I am planning to walk to the altar soon. Thanx

Possible consequences:
1. Your family might not buy this. Especially if you are never married before.

2. You really don't know "THE TRUTH" about what led to the collapse of her previous marriage. She can only paint herself 'not guilty"


OK

Possible solutions: Involve your parents.. Seek their approval

...2. Do your personal findings about her past marriage PLEASE

Roland17:


As much as i want to encourage you to be happy, i must advice you to thread with wisdom, refrain from making the decision for a future with emotions, it must not be hinged on the amount of love you have for her alone or just because she makes you happy, people fall out of love in marriage..#fact; that is when other variables deemed inconsequential help in rebuilding the lost love and help keep the marriage. This is applicable to every relationship and not just relationships with a divorcee either with kids or not.

Can you step-parent? there are no assurances for step-parents, the law does not recognize step-parents thus whatever investment (emotional, financial and moral) you are going to build with the daughter is hinged on mere hope that it is reciprocated with acceptance, mutual love and respect.

Have you and your wife to be discussed the expectations with regards to the daughter? it might seem irrelevant now but i can assure you if not addressed now it would rear its ugly head soon. i am a firm believer that when you get married to your partner, you are married to their baggage vice versa.

what is the relationship of the biological father with the child? how much influence does he exert in her life? how old is the child? if she is old enough, have you had a conversation with the daughter? explain that you are not here to replace her biological father, daughters are especially close to their biological father and become sensitive when another man comes.

Why is she divorced? did she tell you everything that happened? i mean everything and not sounding like a victim, people who sound victimized never heal and are hard to please cos they rarely move on from the past..this is also applicable to yourself.

Divorcees with children are also human and deserve another shot at marriage.

I wish you all the best bro and would be praying that you succeed.

Thanx alot

Mbkite:
Is there anything wrong with getting married to a divorcee? What are the impending consequences?
She has all I want in a woman, but a divorcee with a daughter.

Nlander's I need your input as I am planning to walk to the altar soon. Thanx

Question for you: if everyone on here said, "no don't go ahead with it" what would you do?

EfemenaXY:


Question for you: if everyone on here said, "no don't go ahead with it" what would you do?

Everybody can be wrong, bt it's only in rare cases.

Mbkite:

Everybody can be wrong, bt it's only in rare cases.

That doesn't answer the question I asked you.

There's nothing wrong with marrying a divorcee. just be ready to step-parent.
If you're ready to step-parent, then you're good to go.

As efemenaxy asked if we all say no, will you call off the engagement with her?
You don't rely on people to make these kinds of decisions for you. It's yours to make.

But you can ask for tips on how to be a step-parent from those with experience themselves.

EfemenaXY:

That doesn't answer the question I asked you.

d best answer I can provide, bro.