This is the only girl I've ever known. I've never cheated on heri i dedicated my life to her with the aim of living the rest of my life with her .She has also always been faithful to me.we've always done everything together,my parents knows her and they believe i will marry her,and at least her mom knows me.

The problem is that i have completed my youth service for over 2 yrs ,and i have not gotten a job, which means i am not yet financially ready to take the next step.she is currently serving(nysc) and she feels she is more than ready to settle down.

What has even worsened my position is that it turned out that a guy which she dated 4 about 5 months who she was madly in love with is now in the picture .He actually travelled out of the country after graduating the distance actually made them lost contact.allthese happened b4 we met each other.When we met ,it was like love at first sight our love made her forget him. it was so strong that while we were young we went as far as taking a blood oath, but we had to go to a church to break it after lots of advice.But about 2 months ago, he reestablished contact with her with the intent of settling down.She thought she had forgotten him,but she now realised she still has love 4 him.she actually said the love she has for me and him is 50/50 .pls i want u guys to know that her family is also presurising her to make a decision because he was also well known to her family. well i love her so much that i dont know what will happen to me if it does'nt go my way. She has given me some months to achieve something b4 she will make her pick.I am 29 while she is 25yrs .We are appart for now because of her service.but we still talk on phone almost everyday.

pls what do you guys have to say about this.i need your advise.

Seems like love is over. Of course every girl wants a comfortable future but if u "become a man" in the 3 months she gave, what now happens if u lose that manhood to some unforseen circumstances like job loss after u are married? Would she leave u then? It is ok for her to give you a time frame to "become a man" if you actually are not doing any about becoming a man but just lazying around expecting jobs to come to you but if you are doing something real hard about your state, then she is meant to support u.

the truth is that the girl wants a comfortable life thats all. if you had a good job and this guy overseas came to her, she will not feel this love she is having now. so guy the truth is just be a man and feel challenged to change your situation.i know that it will hurt if you lose her, but sometimes life can be so unfair and cruel

Pray hard.
ask God to elevate you financially so that you can get her back.
co's anything apart from that, you 'll just have to forget about her as the 2 posters have said.
every girls wants a comfortable life.

so keep praying about the whole matter and i know that God will intervain in you situation.

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Just pray that God grant you a well paying job to take care of her but i strongly believe if she belongs to you ,no man can snatch her away from you.Your real love has been predestined by the Almighty God.So pray for the best.