hi guys, so i have been living with my aunt in abuja for a while now, i lived with her during my Nysc and i was able to get a job after service with her help. now i am thinking of leaving and staying on my own, though the job is paying 50k,and thats small money to survive abuja with,but i think i am good to go, you know how aunties can be,with wahala and at 27 i think i should be on my own,i told her i want to leave but from her body language she doesnt want me to go yet, but i can live with her forever. i am confused as to what to do. i just feel i need freedom as a man to take over my destiny. i need advice please.

With 50k?
In abuja?

My dear you are still 27
Pls stay and enjoy free food and roof
I don talk my own

U should set out and leave.. pls find a batcher to stay tho..


Just sayin

Dyt:
With 50k?
In abuja?

My dear you are still 27
Pls stay and enjoy free food and roof
I don talk my own

he is disobeying the will of God..

Cutehector:
he is disobeying the will of God..

How?

Dyt:


How?

by not leaving his father and mother( or anybody Dat he is indirectly under their care)

Cutehector:
by not leaving his father and mother( or anybody Dat he is indirectly under their care)

Oh
He sees himself as a big boy already
By the time he starts feeding alone
He will know eba is not only made with hot water

Dyt:


Oh
He sees himself as a big boy already
By the time he starts feeding alone
He will know eba is not only made with hot water

I think he should get a place even if it's a shantie

Dyt:
With 50k?
In abuja?

My dear you are still 27
Pls stay and enjoy free food and roof
I don talk my own

i appreciate your contribution, but only the person wearing the shoe knows where it hurts, yes free stuffs, only if you have an idea what i go through, i literally dont have time for my self, yet complains here and there, and if 27 is not old enough for me to leave, is it when i am 30?

justmi1:
i appreciate your contribution, but only the person wearing the shoe knows where it hurts, yes free stuffs, only if you have an idea what i go through, i literally dont have time for my self, yet complains here and there, and if 27 is not old enough for me to leave, is it when i am 30?

I know what its like to live with people
But when you get there
You will know what I mean

justmi1:
i appreciate your contribution, but only the person wearing the shoe knows where it hurts, yes free stuffs, only if you have an idea what i go through, i literally dont have time for my self, yet complains here and there, and if 27 is not old enough for me to leave, is it when i am 30?

This means you've made up your mind to leave,why still ask for advice?

Dyt:



I know what its like to live with people
But when you get there
You will know what I mean

i know what u mean, and i dont think its a condition i cant adapt, you know sometimes free lunches dont make you think well, i need to leave my "comfort zone", worse case i live in a forest, but it will be my space, thats all that matters, even if i stay, for how long more? how much can i possibly save, its even difficult to save because i have this "free stuff" feeling.

Am sure the main reason why you want to leave is because of ur privacy...

You want to start servicing those abj babes and it's like ur aunty is burning ur cable.

Forget those girls joor...stay with ur aunty and save some money.

Melahou:
Am sure the main reason why you want to leave is because of ur privacy...

You want to start servicing those abj babes and it's like ur aunty is burning ur cable.

Forget those girls joor...stay with ur aunty and save some money.

lol, its not about that, ok she is not my biological aunt, she is a family friend i have known for long like 15years, (my parents and her parents are friends and she is quite older, so i refer to her as aunt)

@Op. there is a saying that "U rub my back i rub urs" mayb u av not been appreciating/bribing her with gifts .... Just Saying

justmi1:
lol, its not about that, ok she is not my biological aunt, she is a family friend i have known for long like 15years, (my parents and her parents are friends and she is quite older, so i refer to her as aunt)

I suggest u stay for awhile i save some cash...
Then you can move out

Give ursef another 15months

Melahou:
Am sure the main reason why you want to leave is because of ur privacy...

You want to start servicing those abj babes and it's like ur aunty is burning ur cable.

Forget those girls joor...stay with ur aunty and save some money.

lol

Humans are so so unapreciative. Feed them clothe them give the a roof to lay their head they will still find a way to stab you. You lived with this woman for a year sleeping in her house eating her food. Nysc is over she also helped you get a job and now suddenly she is a pain in the ass you need space. Aunty with wahala you said. Typical character of ingrates. And you even have the audacity to come to niara land to talk about her. Mr man the list hotel you will find in Abuja a night is 5K multiply it by 350days + 350days of 500naira let's say that is the list of her food you have eat. If you think running away now that you can aleast help buy Maggi in the house even for a little while while b4 leaving is a good way to pay her back then go. May God help your journey

Endure and leave whenever you get a better job offer that pays well

From that money, give your aunt 5k or 10k
10k for you and the rest 25 - 30 thousands you must put in an account. Then at the end of the 12 months you can start talking about leaving.

justmi1:
i appreciate your contribution, but only the person wearing the shoe knows where it hurts, yes free stuffs, only if you have an idea what i go through, i literally dont have time for my self, yet complains here and there, and if 27 is not old enough for me to leave, is it when i am 30?

FORGET what people attacking you are saying.Leave if you feel you need to. You are not anyone's slave. People should learn how to help others without expecting anything back. I got my own place with a salary less than 50k in Abuja 5 years ago. And that really opened doors for me. I had more time to think and to follow up on clients. The Curfews, children disturbing you, Waking up when u really need rest can make you live the life of a married person when you should be making way for yourself. I'm not saying these family members should not be honoured when they provide shelter and food. But using that to guilt-trip you into staying with them to assist in their house is very wrong.

OP: When you get that freedom, use it wisely. You don't have to get a place solely by yourself. Look for a bestie who also wants a place . Share rent until u are doing better to be fully on your own. A man needs his full freedom. Serious Deals in Nigeria are made late at night.

justmi1:
hi guys, so i have been living with my aunt in abuja for a while now, i lived with her during my Nysc and i was able to get a job after service with her help. now i am thinking of leaving and staying on my own, though the job is paying 50k,and thats small money to survive abuja with,but i think i am good to go, you know how aunties can be,with wahala and at 27 i think i should be on my own,i told her i want to leave but from her body language she doesnt want me to go yet, but i can live with her forever. i am confused as to what to do. i just feel i need freedom as a man to take over my destiny. i need advice please.

27 and u have the urge to leave. You are blessed. some will remain in that comfort zone till they become useless.

I was about 23 when I left my father's very own house even with no steady job and no salary. I knew it would not be easy but as a man, you have to face your Goliath one day.

moving out wil give you liberty which would require lots of discipline to handle. such liberty will ruin you if you do not have self respect, life expectations , daily plans , self control, endurance and general discipline.

U have salary of 50K. if you can save enough to rent a small apartment in low cost areas of Abuja then be sure your salary is steady. do you know how to save money? if you can, then good for you cos it would be furked up for u to go rent a house and not be able to pay the next rent or no HUSTLE plan that brings money.

on the the other hand, and my humble advice, don't be in a hurry to leave your aunty and free house and free food. you can still be patient and live with your aunt and save money, learn more skills, draw your life and business plans for living alone, make better friends that will strengthen you advantageous point, draw closer to God and let Him help you sharpen your axe.

Fortune favours the Brave.