I'm posting this topic as a result of virtually endless summons I've had from friends, male that is as regards their relationships and stuff. The case: A fella going out with a lady still in her sophomore year or whatever. He's busy at work or whatever he does to make ends meet and sees her occasionally, more often than not they are not in the same town, she may be schooling far away. My take on the issue is that the ladies are hardly trust worthy which I understand,cos they really have to allow the institution pass through them, it aint easy turning a blind eye to all the fun you can avail yourself by virtue of being in school, so the thought of a so called fiancee or boyfriend or whatever who's many miles away and sometimes in the same city trying to knock your hustle doesn't come as quite a palatable delicacy to the palate. End of story, accusations and counter accusations, guys you know where I'm coming from, so I keep arbitrating and end up the enemy most times cos I tell it like it is, let the lady go do her thing!, you are not an undergraduate and busy making a living, go date someone do does same, granted there are exceptions,but even the so called christian sisters are in the take also, what with the funky campus fellowships we have with even more funky parent church bodies there are a whole lot of campmeetings,student conferences, and student ecumenical conclaves which affords our christian sister to just happen to meet a dignified christian brother, and out goes bro. Samuel,whio works in a bank and just happens to be the head usher in the parent church.
So I tell em, let like meet with like, leave the campus girls alone with their male contemporaries, at least they understand each other, should they end up getting married after school fine, cos I know this,should a well informed youngster in school decide to go after your so called priceless jewel, well,it takes the grace of God,for her not to give in, why?, you aint there to take her mind off of him, and oh yes! the calls aint enough so kill that noise!, you just have to be there! period, I know a lot of guys are under this yoke right now,fellas yáll know I'm telling the truth, save yourselves the heartache,do not 100% give her ur heart when she's still in school and if she's the pretty type you are finished! After the club boy are done with her,in comes the lecturer with a larger than life libido.All this goes down save she's very ugly, yeah!, even the average looking ones cheat too, there's someone for everyone, come to think of it, her looks don't matter, guys can be merciless, she'll be had for the heck of it!
Need I mention the risk she faces from the so called aristos, so as you can see fellas it isn't just her course mates and fellow students that you have to contend with but the shameless politicians and randy husbands and recalcitrant playboys who are stacked to the teeth, they come cruising in in their fancy cars, wave some cheddar and tah dah!, she's gone. Now if you do not know about her cheating waysit's all good (ignorance is surely a blessing in this case),but somehow misery takes delight in exposing its source,so like we all know you'd eventually hear stories someday and my cell rings and the tale begins, another meeting again for the same ole cause, a working bachelor dating an undergrad. What's ur take on this people, I apologise for the epistle just wanted to come clear.

lol, so nothing is ideal it can only be real!

Ain't nothing wrong with it

Well it depends. . . .
There's no universal convention on how undergraduates behave, so i guess it differs from girl to girl.

its a personal thing, everyone has the right to choose where and who to date, afterall, you r the one that bears the consequence wen burnt. however it also depends on individuals experience, if you try it and it doesnt favour u, then u will learn from there. hav fun!!!

Undergrads, dating one now seems to be a distant reality as far as am concerned. I can't easily forgive my ex-queen, lol, I was serving in the Cold Jos and I kept my promises and Walahi I was faithful, where as a corper medical doctor was helping me back home taking care of my Civic duties .

All these small small girls dem own too much. And the funniest thing is that she has the gut to say to me that "Do i want to tell her i wasn't dating anybody"? imagine! They are very flexible and this youthful blood in them will make them to want to do some dejavu stunts! If you can't witstand that pls stay off them.

Catch them young and they shall be yours forever, man na lie o.

TheSeeker:

Shouldn't you have dealt with her ruthlessly? I mean not beat her but deal a bad blow with her emotions and make her cry her heart and eyes out?

@TheSeeker
Dont mind her,her MAMA is part of the problem. Who dosent want to have a Medical doctor as in-law? oh oohhh. Me wey no be medical ogini, na to relax na. Now the guy is through with NYSC and has moved out. what did she stand to gain? Because of today,girls mostly forgets tomorrow especially these girls of nowadays.

Yes they need to treat us like kings. A friend of mine use to say this to me that "Most girls of today during courtship/dating period has collected their bride prize and spent it themselves instead of their parent, on the wedding day the rest is formalty"

I have heard of a case where on the wedding day, the groom was asked to postrate for his in laws, the guy said never cos they way the girl has been presenting her parents like king and queen and collected enough money on their behalf cos the guy lives overseas before. bros come and see serious persuations/pleads before the guy did it once, why becuase, the girl has over praised her folks.

So girls, they are neccessary evils. We have no options

I don't about Naija sha.

But here I believe its better if undergrad dates themselves. . . .each side understands their circumstances and dnt bother with "spend on me" phase.
I mean, they're both in same situation, so you know, they know what to demand and how to limit it.

Should an undergrad date a grad? I don't think a person's education should determine who they date, but I think it'll be more comfortable

TheSeeker:

With the kind of girls we have now, I wonder what the rest of this generation and the next will be like

Girls will be the one paying dowry like its been practised in northern parts of india, even in Ghana, its happening