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| My Man Is Rough With Me by unitee(f): 6:10pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
When I call him on his mobile he does not pick sometimes and when he picks I ask him why he was not picking he shouts at me and say I nag him too much. Do you think he loves me or not?? |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by IFELEKE(m): 6:16pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
why not ask him? |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by TheSeeker(m): 6:21pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
How long have you been together? |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by MissyB1(m): 6:23pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
unitee:He scolds You for being a nag and that's enuff reason to doubt 'his love'?  Examine Yourself. . . . Do You really nag? |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by unitee(f): 6:26pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
@ ifeleke he says I nag him and it pains me so much because I want to connect with him all the time but when I ask he says I nag him too much I have not been talking with him for over a week because I am hurt inside with it @The seeker its about 3 months now as a b/f but we have nbeen friends for some time |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by unitee(f): 6:29pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
@ Miss B I really love him I have been reflecting this whole week and not talking to him though painful, I cant be with him physically but then calling is the option at the moment |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by TheSeeker(m): 6:29pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
You need to find out why he's acting that way. Modestly asking you, have you had sex? Did he tell you why he says you're nagging? How many times do you call him a day? |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by unitee(f): 6:30pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
no not yet we agreed after marriage we can have sex and not before |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by TheSeeker(m): 6:32pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
Why does he think you're a nag? How many times do you call him daily? How busy is he? To the best of your knowledge, is he quickly infuriated? |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by unitee(f): 6:39pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
he is a very level headed man than me most of the time, there are times I just feel like talking to him all the time I believe he should be available for me especially weekends but I understand when he is at workso I call him a lot sometimes |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by tonykahe(m): 6:47pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
may be u should have him some space, and know what he want |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by Busybody2(f): 6:49pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
Search yourself deeply and answer this question to yourself, as honestly as possible. Do you think you call/nag him too much? If yes, then cut it down, and if the answer is no, start looking for another boyfriend. |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by Nobody: 6:50pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
Busy_body:Bravo  |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by na2day2(m): 7:13pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
unitee: unitee: unitee: girl, check urself.  |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by TheSeeker(m): 7:18pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
There are some girls who are lousy callers and always don't know the right time to call, this pisses men off to no limits. You should find out what time is best for him to talk to you, some men don't like you stalking them from time to time because it makes them lose concentration. From what I deduce here, your incessant call is the problem and that's why he's not answering your calls. Don't call him again until he does. What you're going to do next is send him a text message and express an apology that you're sorry if you've made him feel uncomfortable lately and that you just needed to hear his sweet voice from time to time and you didn't know it wasn't good for him, so you'll not do that again. Leave it at that and don't call him until he calls you. After he calls you, limit your calls to at most three times daily. Morning, afternoon and night and try to keep your morning and afternoon calls as short as possible. Make sure your night call doesn't coincide almost with the time he's about to go to bed as he'll have been weak then. |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by rilla64: 7:20pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
Unitee, I feel your pain. My Man Is Rough With Me. https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-298333.0.html If you are a devoted christian as you say and dont believe in sex before marriage, then you should reach a compromise with guys rather than making it all about your christianity. You have issues that require you to be less assertive and needy towards your partner (most hollier than thou girls who don't date much have this problem). Be less aggressive and more submissive ok. |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by unitee(f): 7:21pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
@ na2day I agree if only I know where to check how to check and exactly what to check I would do that honestly I am asking for advice because I am slowly going into heartbreak |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by Kelvinj(m): 7:22pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
'We agreed on no sex till aft marriage' C'mon girl u no d solution! |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by Nobody: 7:22pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
Not telling you to compete with him dear, but, how often does this guy call you? |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by unitee(f): 7:27pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
@ Ibkaye I gave him permission to call me anytime 24/7 @ The seeker Thank you will try your therapy @ Rilla 64 I am not holier than thou I think I love him |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by Kelvinj(m): 7:29pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
'We agreed on no sex till aft marriage' C'mon girl u no d solution! |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by unitee(f): 7:31pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
ahh kelvin I dont think so because its not an issue we agreed to revisit that area whenever we feel the need. why would he do that |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by Nobody: 7:34pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
No dearie, not necessarily the permission you give him, but how often does he take his time to call you? On average say? Another thing, I don't quite get why people who just generally have made the decision to not sleep with their boyfriend's/girlfriend's before marriage are immidiately plastered 'holier than thou' or are 'trying to be so etc', if it's the decision you have made, no matter for what reason, if you want to stick to it I'd advise you not to be swayed by what other's think or say, it's your decision, if you change your mind, no problem either, it's your decision dear  |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by TheSeeker(m): 7:36pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
unitee:Trust me, it'll work. If after you try that, he doesn't call you, he's not worth the hassle. |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by Kelvinj(m): 7:38pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
Bt u jst said u guyz agreed on no sex bt nw ur sayn wen we feel lyk No hard feel, jst askn ar u a virgin |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by unitee(f): 7:41pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
@ Ibkaye ohh sorry did get it first he calls usually once in the evening after work but that one I do understand because his work demands him in office early so I don t wanna disturb him in the evening we talk for hours mostly 2 to 3 until maybe we fall asleep |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by rilla64: 7:43pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
I've seen many like you b4. At the end of the day, the virtue that you held unto for years may be swallowed in this debacle. You are so going to lose your virginity(If you haven't lost it already) and still have nothing to show for it. Players love girls like you. Trust me I know what I'm saying |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by TheSeeker(m): 7:44pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
rilla64:Dumb! Kelvinj:What's this noise about virgin and sex before marriage? That's not the problem here because if it was, it'd have manifested a month ago. |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by unitee(f): 7:45pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
@ kelvin I said we agreed to wait until marriage rite but our agreement allows for change in that area if need be , at least thats what he said, since we dont wanna marry now or in 2 years to come because of school commitment on my side but at the same time that time could be too long for him, at least we agreed to be open in all respects including that one am I clear now |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by rilla64: 7:47pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
honestly I don't like girls that want to prove "sister virginia" in church and pretend that they dont get laid often. It sucks, so just drop the act. |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by kok(m): 7:48pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
in just 3 months and its already getting rough then, there is no future in it. I advise you move ahead. |
| Re: My Man Is Rough With Me by Phoenix042(m): 7:50pm On Jul 18, 2009 |
Firstly, whether you are truly nagging or not, try and bring it down a notch. You guys really need to talk but you need to let him come around at his own pace Secondly, the decision of no sex before marriage, whose's was it? Yours or was it a mutual thing. Cos I feel this may have an influence on his behavior if it were not a mutual compromise. Give him some time, and when he comes around, try and find out why he's keeping away (and u might want to talk about the sex thing too). However, dont wait for eternity. If it takes too long for him, then he might have already drifted away long ago. |
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