We are all familiar with betrayal. Partners, friends, and even family members can
make a commitment and then disappear.Some of us take this in good faith while to some of us it can create what we know as paranoid personality disorder making it impossible for us to trust again
Here are the strategies you can
employ when someone you care about pulls a
disappearing act.
1. Don’t take it personally.
While relating this story to another friend, she laughed and said,
"You, too?" That got me out of my head, reminding me this
happens to everyone. Rejection hurts, but it often has nothing to
do with our how worthy of love we are. People’s behavior is a
reflection of their own beliefs, values, feelings, and thought
patterns. When we personalize their behavior, we start to spiral
into self-blame and unworthiness. Viewing it as a choice made
independently of your behavior or nature allows you to address it
from an objective perspective.
2. Avoid the impulse to start thinking of them as "other."
It’s very natural to want to develop a sense of otherness from
people in your life. It's differentiating them from you. But when
we actively separate ourselves from people as a response to pain
they've caused, we sacrifice our empathy for them. We can no
longer relate to them.
On the other hand, identifying similarities between ourselves and
others, we reconnect to our shared humanity. The Buddhist
Loving-Kindness Meditation involves sending goodwill to
ourselves and all those who have hurt us. You can begin to practice
this, saying
“just like me, you want love,” I found a space where I
could identify with and feel compassion for both myself and my
friend.
3. Take responsibility.
Brené Brown said, "Love and belonging are irreducible needs of
all men, women, and children. We're hardwired for connection —
it's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives." This very need
is often ignored when we blame others and shrug off our own
culpability.
Deep down, we just want love, and we get so afraid of losing that
person that we ignore the reality of the situation. By owning what
we did or did not do, we share the responsibility of creating that
reality. This empowers us to make better choices in the future
rather than just being a victim of someone else's choices.
4. Focus on wholeness.
“What a jerk!” another friend remarked. “Don’t say that," I
squealed. “She’s really supported me, too." My friend muttered
something about me being crazy. But there’s logic to this. When
relationships go sour, our bad moments become the focal point. In
truth, there is good and bad in every relationship.
Acknowledge the hurtful events, but remember the laughter and
joy, too. Seeing the whole picture neutralizes the negative and
creates an equilibrium in our minds. It keeps us from stewing on
old wounds and letting resentment grow.
5. Set an internal standard.
We all have to love and honor ourselves. That starts with
recognizing our own values and acknowledging our priorities. If
we don’t set internal standards for what we want and don't want,
what we will or won't accept, we unconsciously give people
permission to treat us according to their own standards. Once we
set and enforce our own boundaries, people will treat us
accordingly.
Clinging to memories, doubts, or questions about the people who
have abandoned us won’t bring us peace. Certain questions might
never be answered. The most loving thing you can do — for both
the person who left and for yourself — is to move on. Moving on
affirms your worth and your choice to treat yourself as you
deserve to be treated.http://okoyetech..com.ng/2016/02/how-you-can-heal-from-heartbreak.html

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Unto the matter on ground....there's no better pills to take that can heal heartbreak than time, O yes time, give it time...heartbreak does not heal instantaneouslly, it heals with time, especially when you love the person.

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@psalm121, i will lift up my eyes unto the hills from whence cometh my help, my help comes from the lord who made the heavens and the earth...





Unto the matter on ground....there's no better pills to take that can heal heartbreak than time, O yes time, give it time...heartbreak does not heal instantaneouslly, it heals with time, especially when you love the person.

very correct