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You Can Live With An Angry Wife by PiccoloBrunelli(m): 7:37am On Mar 22, 2016
Like PiccoloBrunelli once said: "Na thread dey born thread." First there was that thread were this guy was asking for help to deal with his angry fiance. The very first advice he got was to call the relationship off. It was followed by another thread of a guy who just broke up with his fiance...based on her steady "angerciousness"....lol.

Anyways, in both instances the women were fiances. So what if you're married to this person already. I don't mean the "She lives with me and cooks for me and gives me steady boojoo" type. I mean real marriage recognized by the law. How do you manage her? By throwing her out? No nau. Oh....so angry women shouldn't get married? Don't they have other admirable qualities? Well...here is a reaaaaaally loooooooong article on how you can manage her.

Find Her Melting Point

Every lady has a few melting points. No, this doesn’t refer to the temperature at which she will melt into a pulp but typical things that drive her crazy. Make a list of these. Memorize them like your daily prayers or the national anthem. By mistake, if you commit the blunder of doing something that will invite her wrath, immediately inform her about it with a sullen, sorry look.

Don’t Present Any Reasoning For Your Actions

During her outburst, she is unlikely to hear your side of the story. Just remain focused on her. It should appear to her that you are paying attention to what she is saying. Not doing so can make her angrier, accusing you of ignoring her. Don’t argue or try to present counter-claims. Just get hold of a seating position and face her verbal assault like a soldier. Don’t ask her to calm down or take a chill pill. These are precisely the kind of things that adds more fuel to the argument. In fact, it isbetter to stay mute as long as she is animatedlyshouting at you.

Try to Agree With Her, Even Better, Surrender to Her

You don’t want to look foolish, i.e. presenting a fake sense of approval. Just use your body language to convey that youagree with herreason for getting angry. For instance, nod your head and occasionally, let out a slow sigh that indicates you have surrendered to her reasoning. Not doing so will make her shout more. The sooner you give-in to her anger, higher are the chances of placating her.

Don’t Let It Hurt Too Much

By now, you should have realized that women are prone to venting out their emotions in the form ofanger fits. It is a feature associated withwives across the world. So don’t let her attack on your integrity, job or even parents prick you. Most probably, she isn't even aware about most of the words dropping out of her mouth. Just tryto take it like a man. Sit back or lean against thewall and let her tire herself out. If you let these things bother you, it will ignite retribution in you.

Don't Run Away From the Scene

This is probably the worst thing you could do. You need to understand that though you are suffering in this scenario, in a way it is working towards calming her. For many women,verbal outburst of angeris induced by those unavoidable hormonal issues. Thus, you might be helping her and ensuring that the next few weeks would be more peaceful. Yes, it seems like a natural thing to do, i.e. ducking from the scene but this will make her more resentful and frustrated. Further, till what extent can you really escape any situation that involves your wife?

On a Serious Note: Her Anger Might be a Cry for Help

Many times, anger bouts are precipitated due todeep-seated issues. For instance, your wife might be getting angry since she sees a pattern in you which resemble her father’s mannerisms whom she resents. Such issues need to be tackled with extreme care. Firstly, you need to decode the underlying cause. If it is just anotherfault committed by you, you can seek an apology and diffuse the situation. However, if it turns out that there are someserious emotional issuesweighing on your wife’s mind, you need to be her guiding soul. Try to talk to her or tell her that you will accompany her to a counselor. In such cases, your wife needs your support to let bygones be bygones and forgive herself or someone else who had hurt her in the past.

P.S: Finally sha, after all this e no still easy to live with angry woman. But hey...Lions get tamed don't they?

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Re: You Can Live With An Angry Wife by takoi: 8:16am On Mar 22, 2016
A wild animal will always be a wild animal. Be docile in that kind of relationship at your own peril!!!
Re: You Can Live With An Angry Wife by Dyt(f): 8:47am On Mar 22, 2016
takoi:
A wild animal will always be a wild animal. Be docile in that kind of relationship at your own peril!!!


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Re: You Can Live With An Angry Wife by LewsTherin: 5:17pm On Mar 22, 2016
These threads and counter threads are all about living with angry women. What about living with angry men? grin
Re: You Can Live With An Angry Wife by raumdeuter: 5:46pm On Mar 22, 2016
You better flee for your life.

Dont live with any angry human
Re: You Can Live With An Angry Wife by yvelchstores(f): 8:50pm On Mar 22, 2016
Everything shld be done in love. Afterall, ppl who are addicts can get rehabilitated, an angry woman can change for the better, it only takes support and love. If most men will stop condemning and insulting their wives' short coming/anger problem and actually start nurturing , training and taming the woman, life will be a lot sweeter for both.

Lalasticlala , fp.
Re: You Can Live With An Angry Wife by dangotesmummy: 11:51pm On Mar 22, 2016
When they pour acid on your phenese at night while you're dead asleep or they pour hot water on your face at any slightest provocation and take off your head will be correct
Re: You Can Live With An Angry Wife by Nature8(m): 9:51am On Mar 23, 2016
yvelchstores:
Everything shld be done in love. Afterall, ppl who are addicts can get rehabilitated, an angry woman can change for the better, it only takes support and love. If most men will stop condemning and insulting their wives' short coming/anger problem and actually start nurturing , training and taming the woman, life will be a lot sweeter for both.

Lalasticlala , fp.



No matter how much love, care and support you give an angry woman, she'll never ever be happy no matter how hard you try.. She can be happy for some moments, but will eventually change later.. I once dated a sadist, I mean an angry woman.. I know what I went through trying to please her, I mean I went through hell trying to make her happy every time but she's never happy at all and she finds it very hard to forgive or to appreciate things.. It's even her pastor that advised me to leave her cos she doesn't deserve my love, after how she humiliated me at her place recently.. I thank God for my life now cos it seems to me like I was delivered from a marine spirit..

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