My wife and I have had fifteen years of struggle over how much loyalty we should hold toward each other's family. For example, during a recent discussion over a family problem, my wife said, "Why should we cater to you?" This alarms me because my wife explained her comment by saying, "You didn't just marry me; you married my family." I don't know what to do. I don't think I can compete with her family much longer. She sees my attempts at getting us to be one as an attempt to take her totally away from her family. Can you help me with some answers?

are you a man or a woman

@michelin ,am a woman , i brought out this topic cuz of my uncle , he his in a big trouble with his wife , still strugling to earn money , but his wife proves sturborn

I was thinking you were into a lesbian marriage.

maybe he is not using the right tactic with her. She might have her own way of seeing things so she thinks that he is threatening the relationship between her and her family. he should try to sit her down and explain things to her. he should let her know that he is doing this to strengthen their union. I am sure if he opens his mind to her she will understand and stop being stubborn!