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Letter To Nigerian Parents: By Azuka Onwuka by eleburu(f): 12:17pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
Dear compatriots,
Let's be real.
I wish to start by adding the benefit of
my time as a
Nigerian who lived and studied in the UK
but now
resident in Abuja. The first thing that I
discovered about
UK-born, white, English undergraduates
was that all of
them did holiday or weekend jobs to
support themselves
- including the children of millionaires. It
is the norm over
there – regardless of how wealthy their
parents are. And
I soon discovered that virtually all other
foreign students
did the same – except status-conscious
Nigerians.
I also watched Richard Branson (owner
of Virgin Airline)
speaking on the Biography Channel. To
my amazement,
he said that his young children travel in
the economy
class – even when the parents (he and
his wife) are in
upper class. Richard Branson is a
billionaire in Pound
sterling. A quick survey would show you
that only
children from Nigeria fly business or
upper class to
commence their studies in the UK. No
other foreign
students do this. There is no aircraft
attached to the
office of the Prime Minister in the UK.
He travels on BA.
And the same goes for the Royals. The
Queen does not
have an aircraft for her exclusive use.
These practices simply become the
culture which the
next generation carries forward. Have
you seen the car
that Kate Middleton (the wife of Prince
William) drives?
VW Golf or something close to it. But
there's one core
difference between them and us
(generally speaking),
they (even the billionaires among them)
work for their
money, most of us steal ours
If we want our children to bring about
the desired change
we have been praying for on behalf of
our dear country,
then please, please let's begin now and
teach them to
work hard so they can stand alone and
most importantly
be content and not having to "steal"
which seems to be
the norm these days.
We have Nigerian Children who have
never worked for 5
minutes in their lives insisting on flying
"only" first or
business class and using the latest cars
fully paid for by
their "loving " parents.
I often get calls from anxious
parents"my son graduated
2 years ago and is still looking for a job,
can you please
assist!"
"Oh really! So where exactly is "THIS
CHILD?" is my
usual question. "Why are you the one
making this call
dad/mum?
I am yet to get a satisfactory answer,
but between you
and me, chances are that the big boy is
cruising around
Abuja with a babe in his dad's spanking
new SUV with
enough "pocket money" to put your
salary to shame. It is
not at all strange to hear a 28 year old
who has NEVER
worked for a day in his or her life in
Nigeria but "earns"
a six figure "salary" from parents for
doing absolutely
nothing.
I see them in my office once in a while,
26 years old with
absolutely no skill to sell apart from a
shiny CV, written
by his dad's secretary in the office. Of
course, he has a
driver at his beck and call and he is
driven to the job
interview. We have a fairly decent
conversation and we
get to the inevitable question- so, what
salary are you
looking to earn? Answer comes straight
out –
N250,000.00. I ask if that is per month
or per annum.
"Of course, it is per month."
"Oh, why do you think you should be
earning that much
on your first job?"
"Well, because my current pocket
money is N200,000.00
and I feel any employer should be able
to pay me more
than my parents."
No wonder corruption continues to
thrive. We have a
society of young people who have been
brought up to
expect something for nothing, as if it
were a birthright.
Even though the examples I have given
above are from
parents of considerable affluence,
similar patterns can
be observed from Abeokuta to
Adamawa.
Wake up mum! Wake up dad! This
syndrome – "my
children will not suffer what I suffered is
destroying your
tomorrow. You are practically loving
your child to death.
Henry Ford said "hard work does not
kill." We are getting
everything wrong in Nigeria now,
including family
setting. It is time to prepare your
children for tomorrow,
the way the world is going, only those
that are rugged,
hard working and smart working that
will survive. How
will your son/daughter fare. |
Re: Letter To Nigerian Parents: By Azuka Onwuka by eleburu(f): 12:20pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
Cc: Lalasticlala www.naijapopular.com/2016/03/letter-to-nigerian-parents-by-azuka.html?m=1 I think Nigerian Parents should get this |
Re: Letter To Nigerian Parents: By Azuka Onwuka by Itannooluwa(f): 12:26pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
Hmmmm |
Re: Letter To Nigerian Parents: By Azuka Onwuka by dsquare33: 5:08pm On Mar 31, 2016 |
I personally think it is the kind of wrong mindset that an average Nigerian parent have. Some have this mentality of what I suffered my children must not pass through it others believe is my money 'I worked for it' albeit through fraudulent means, hence I must spoil my children silly.As long as corruption thrives in the society, things like this will not cease, as long as we don't' use our wealth even if we sincerely work for it for the common good of mankind and the development of structural infastructure in the society problems like this will persist. |
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