You and I have been taught by the society that it is not good to be single. This pressure makes you feel uncomfortable if you're unmarried. As a matter of fact, as soon as you turn 25 years or there about, people begin to wonder whether you are straight and begin to ask questions like "so when are you going to get married?", "you've found anybody yet?", "are you homosexual?". They begin to pressure you to make you feel like something is wrong with you because you're single and so you get this idea that you are not complete until you are married - that's not true.


You've got to understand the advantages of being single. Most of the people I know who are not married are not happy with their state, well, I'm writing this to make you happy about being unmarried and to show you that the Creator's desire is for you to be single not only for now, but for the rest of your life.


I've come across people who have been married for years and it still feels like yesterday to them. What I've noticed however is that the reason why many marriages are working so well is because they both (the husband and wife) are still single. The man was attracted to his wife because she was single and she was attracted to him because he was single, thus, they are enjoying their marriage because they are both still single. Mystery, right?




Now, let me digress a little. The number one source of stress among human is relationship. Many percentage of the problem in the society are related to relationships; children not getting along with their parents and vice-versa, girls not getting along with boys, husband not getting along with wife, wife divorcing husband, citizens angry with politicians, politicians confused about citizens - all relationship problems.



The key therefore to a successful relationship is knowledge. How much about yourself do you really know? Before you 'kill' yourself over being single, try and know who you are. Have a definite knowledge of yourself.


I have this to add, you don't need to be married to fulfill your purpose in life. Many people actually lose their focus and purpose in life because they got married, some are doing too well while they are still single. Don't rush into marriage, it is not a prerequisite to fulfill your life purpose. Most of the people who impacted the world was unmarried.


I'm not against marriage, don't get it twisted but I'm against you using it to try to solve your loneliness problem. Marriage does not end your loneliness, it rather exposes it. If you don't believe me, you ask your next door neighbour who is married and not getting along and s/he will tell you nothing is worse than being married and alone.


That is why I'm stressing the need to enjoy this moment of your life as an unmarried individual. This is that time in your life when you outline your future, I can tell you that if you're not happy now, you never can be in marriage. If you don't have a purpose in life now, marriage won't offer you one. If you are not on the verge of fulfillment now, you never can feel fulfilled in marriage.


Conclusively, marriage is a choice not a requirement. You need to know that the more you develop yourself, the more of a blessing you can be to somebody. The more value you add to yourself, the more value you bring to someone's life. The reason why some people are not married yet is because people are being protected from them. This is due to the fact that they are not yet prepared, not valuable, have not yet developed themselves, not learned enough to know how to be a blessing to someone.


Some people have put their life on hold until they become married. Your purpose is not in your marriage, it's in you.


Relax, take it easy. You've got a lot of time. Don't put no pressure on yourself. Being single is not a crime, it's a stage in life - a time you need to know who you are, develop yourself, add value to yourself, get prepared, learn what you need to learn and be complete while you're yet single



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