Any suggestions? Someone needs an advise.

The moment you feel that you need to punish your spouse, is the moment you should ask yourself if you married the wrong person.

Knightngale:
Any suggestions? Someone needs an advise.

Do what you ought to do. As a woman, you should be seductive enough to lure your hubby into assisting you with house. if you start thinking of punishing him, then you will be causing more harm than good

Mindfulness:
The moment you feel that you need to punish your spouse, is the moment you should ask yourself if you married the wrong person.

so what's the way out?

Ibelong2God:
Do what you ought to do. As a woman, you should be seductive enough to lure your hubby into assisting you with house. if you start thinking of punishing him, then you will be causing more harm than good

hmmmm, so she should seduce him into doing the dishes and all, ok, makes sense

Here to read comments from the experience folks

Knightngale:
hmmmm, so she should seduce him into doing the dishes and all, ok, makes sense

Seduction is the most potent force at a woman's disposal, especially when dealing with her husband

Knightngale:
so what's the way out?

Know what you want and marry the right person.
The problem is that women believe that they can actually tolerate this behavior that makes them look all worn out by the age of 40 because they feel a need to rush into marriage and then they suffer. Or they believe that they can change a man with such an attitude and then they suffer.

If you got married to a man who is not interested in a fair division of labor that will serve not only him but also you, well, you have a choice to stay or to leave.

If you stay:

- ask him nicely for help
- get a help
- put up with a less well-organized and clean home

After he "bought" you with such a huge sum, you expect him to do your duties for you

What sort of rubbish is this..... it's his choice whether to assist in chores or nad... afterall he is d breadwinner...

Knightngale:
Any suggestions? Someone needs an advise.

In these days of scarce househelps, a man that truly loves the wife and is responsible needs not to be told to help the wife with chores, on the other hand, the wife must be wise in managing this scenario.
No woman is a slave to any man so in the absense of househelp, the man must help and the kids must be trained to help too

The woman should never think of punishing the man if he does not help rather talk things out with your spouse. If a man loves a woman, he can do anything for her. Wish you the best

Sex
Tell him you are worn our doing chores
If he wants all round
Tell him he should come have it in the kitchen
Play with his thing while he's doing the dishes
Walk around in your thong and bra while he's moping and do him pole dance while laundry

Someone said seduction
I have given the best way out
And you said punishment

Infact both works in line




Mtchew
BTW mindfulness has given you the best advice

Dyt:
Sex
Tell him you are worn our doing chores
If he wants all round
Tell him he should come have it in the kitchen
Play with his thing while he's doing the dishes
Walk around in your thong and bra while he's moping and do him pole dance while laundry

Someone said seduction
I have given the best way out
And you said punishment

Infact both works in line




Mtchew
BTW mindfulness has given you the best advice

No, you have. You are a master of motivational tactics.

Since he seems to believe in the traditional roles of marriage where chores is for women then you too stop helping with paying Bills. Tell him that paying bills is for men abi
He can't eat his cake and have it

Mindfulness:


No, you have. You are a master of motivational tactics.

As I no understand wetin to write ni

talk2alabama:
What sort of rubbish is this..... it's his choice whether to assist in chores or nad... afterall he is d breadwinner...

How many men are full breadwinners these days When the woman helps you pay the bills it's also only fair you help with chores

Mamatee07:


How many men are full breadwinners these days When the woman helps you pay the bills it's also only fair you help with chores

madam if u need help with chores den u should employ a maid. He is ur husband for Christ sake and u gv him some sense of respect! All these end time wives.

talk2alabama:
madam if u need help with chores den u should employ a maid. He is ur husband for Christ sake and u gv him some sense of respect! All these end time wives.

A man cleaning up after him self is disrespect all you lazy men of these days. I am sure there is a reason they don't have a maid probably the same man will say no to maids
Plus the fact that you have maids doesn't mean you won't pick up after yourself as a decent human being who raised these spoilt men sef.

You too have respect for your wife. She goes to work for the same hours as you, takes care of kids and pays bills and yet you can't help with household chores and you'll call yourself the stronger sex yet leave the most work for the so called weaker sex what a joke

Simple, no food for him, and if he's the type who can't cook, better, but if he's like me who knows his kitchen mathematics...

Punishment ke? Do the ones you can do and leave the rest till further notice.

None...do the chores you can and leave the rest.

Punishment
It's the punishment I've come to check.



On a more serious note, what happens to you politely discussing what displeases you in the house. And if that doesn't work, then what you think you're capable of doing later and do the rest when you can.



This punishment nkwa can not work for an Africa man o.
Bitter truth.
Pele.

Talk to him first. If there is no improvement, divert your financial contributions in the home towards outsourcing chores that can be outsourced.
Let him also outsource the role of providing.

greatgod2012:
Punishment
It's the punishment I've come to check.
On a more serious note, what happens to you politely discussing what displeases you in the house. And if that doesn't work, then what you think you're capable of doing later and do the rest when you can.

This punishment nkwa can not work for an Africa man o.
Bitter truth.
Pele.

All these chores talk is becoming ridiculous to me, i won't even waste my breath commenting on such issue. I am having a good read.

edwife:


All these chores talk is becoming ridiculous to me, i won't even waste my breath commenting on such issue. I am having a good read.

Very true my sister, today, house chores, tomorrow, same. Its wiser doing what one is capable of doing than all these complaints. Or better still, communicate, voice out your displeasure. I wonder why some find it easier to come online and complain but find it difficult to discuss with their spouses. Personally, the latter is easier for me. Abi, why do we have speaking organs.

greatgod2012:


Very true my sister, today, house chores, tomorrow, same. Its wiser doing what one is capable of doing than all these complaints. Or better still, communicate, voice out your displeasure. I wonder why some find it easier to come online and complain but find it difficult to discuss with their spouses. Personally, the latter is easier for me. Abi, why do we have speaking organs.

They know what they are looking for. But tell me something greatgod, i have some questions tho.

How many families in Nigeria can afford a maid?

How many families live in a 3 bedroom flats without an help?

How is it for young girls growing up ? mum and dad go to work and leave them with their younger ones?

What are the chores done by most girls/boys in Nigeria, especially after school?

How many families can actually afford a washing machine, dishwasher?

I am talking about families in 1970 - 2000.

Knightngale:
Any suggestions? Someone needs an advise.

how about stabbing him in his sleep or putting a nail tru his head that should help you na. or you can get a cane or better still koboko and use it as well . the use of the word " punishment " showed the grudge you already have against your husband.

@greatgod2012 and edwife you couldn't have said it better.

taryour:


how about stabbing him in his sleep or putting a nail tru his head that should help you na. the use of the word " punishment " showed the grudge you already have against your husband.

@greatgod2012 and edwife you couldn't have said it better.

I am waiting for the answers,if you could also help taryour, i want to analyse something.Because i honestly don't understand these chores brouhaha.

edwife:


They know what they are looking for. But tell me something greatgod, i have some questions tho.

How many families in Nigeria can afford a maid?

How many families live in a 3 bedroom flats without an help?

How is it for young girls growing up ? mum and dad go to work and leave them with their younger ones?

What are the chores done by most girlsanyboys in Nigeria, especially after school?

How many families can actually afford a washing machine, dishwasher?

I am talking about families in 1970 - 2000.

1. Not many!

2. Many!

3. Yes, to take care of their younger ones.

4. Taking my children as example, wash their food flasks, water bottles and their lunch box. After which their home tutors come around to guide them in their home works, and do some revisions with them. Tidy up their room, and ready for dinner.
(my kids are ajebutters)

5. Washing machines are common here, can't say about dish washers, because I don't have one.

And this is not before year 2000 o. Washing machines actually became very common around year 2007, I think.

Satisfied?

greatgod2012:




1. Not many!

2. Many!

3. Yes, to take care of their younger ones.

4. Taking my children as example, wash their food flasks, water bottles and their lunch box. After which their home tutors come around to guide them in their home works, and do some revisions with them. Tidy up their room, and ready for dinner.
(my kids are ajebutters)

5. Washing machines are common here, can't say about dish washers, because I don't have one.

And this is not before year 2000 o. Washing machines actually became very common around year 2007, I think.

Satisfied?

Lol, @4 i wasn't talking about this new generation.That is why I mentioned the year.

Thank you for your answers, you just confirmed some points and answers i had all along.

taryour:


how about stabbing him in his sleep or putting a nail tru his head that should help you na. or you can get a cane or better still koboko and use it as well . the use of the word " punishment " showed the grudge you already have against your husband.

@greatgod2012 and edwife you couldn't have said it better.

see all these evil wives acting like saints on the internet first of all, the use of punishment does not in anyway suggest the existence of a grudge, if you weren't a retard, you would have observed the tone of the post and know that I didn't mean punishment in the way you have painted it secondly, where did I mention it's about me? Rubbish!