I am a regular Nairalander with a different moniker, had to open this new one for privacy reason.


It is with heavy heart I write this, I will try and give details as much as I can. I have been dating my girl for about four years now (my first and only relationship), she is going to 28yrs and me 31yrs (3 & 1/2yrs age difference). We are both devoted christians.


It all started with my elder sister telling me to start praying for God to reveal my wife to me (I was 25 then). Personally I got my revelation/conviction of her being my wife about a year later I also involved some minister friends(advice on my revelations), and took about another one year later before we started dating. No sex until marriage rule agreed (it has been tough sticking to that especially for me as a man of my age but thanks to God).


And so the Journey began, we became best of friends, great lovers, we are just the perfect Couple, plan and execute every targets together, Sponsored ourselves to finish our education (me weekend part-time, she open university). I supported her financially as best as i could, even once postponed payment of my school fees to pay hers (without her knowing mine was due, thank God my school later had strike) because she is managing a teaching job.


Her mom has not been in support especially with the fact that I am not a "big boy" but her father maintains a neutral ground (although he loves me so much and I am closer to him than his two sons). I am the only male among seven children, One of My elder sister (the same one that initiated my prayer) never approved of her because she doesn't feels okay with her spiritually and warned me.


Fast forward now, I have been able to buy the consent of my family, informed her dad of my plan to bring my family to begin the marriage process and now here comes the issue.


Although on my own I have had revelations personally informing me of her family having spiritual issue but being blinded by love I never took it serious.
Now my best friend went out to see a prophet and was told that in my fiancee's family (her mother's side) they have a problem that anytime they get married (the females) they pass through a phase of mental instability. In reality am aware the elder sister whose family am close to just recovered from hers after over two years. I was aware of the sister issue but never knew it was a family routine. The revelation of my friend made me to remember her mother's sister had serious sickness (not mental) that lasted over a year after she married.


Now am in a fix, I love her so much, a greater part of me is willing to take the risk with her but my greatest fear is this; if this routine is not broken, can I be able to face the fact that I knowingly drag my future daughters into this mess?



Advice please!

Note: am not the prophecy freak person, never for once consulted a prophet myself and I tried avoiding it in this case.

Cc: lalalasticlala

And how many times will you create same thread?

Prophet said fam africans say such stupid things..... they probably have alzeihmers or something genetic and thats a big "IF"

If you have cold feet just leave the girl to look for someone else jeez

Mr man,your problem is over-religiousness... just make a decision already and leave all this vision stuff .. the.real question is "does she wants to get married to you?".. if the answer is YES.. then you are good to go.. *iN olamides's voice* "F**k da shiit!!"

freakthingz:
Prophet said fam africans say such stupid things..... they probably have alzeihmers or something genetic and thats a big "IF"

If you have cold feet just leave the girl to look for someone else jeez

The gene thing is my thought initially but. I could remember when the sister was having her trouble the mom mentioning during an open chat that there's an idol their fathers use to sacrifices to that the current generation has abandoned.

HarkymTheOracle:
Mr man,your problem is over-religiousness... just make a decision already and leave all this vision stuff .. the.real question is "does she wants to get married to you?".. if the answer is YES.. then you are good to go.. *iN olamides's voice* "F**k da shiit!!"

Over religiousness indeed, if I leave vision stuff, will you also tell me to leave the two examples of the sister and aunty that I am a witness to?

ronald4lif:
And how many times will you create same thread?

Sorry for the double thread, you should know its network issue (don't know anyway of removing one).

Dude thought you are a Christian, if you are then don't be superstitious.
You shouldn't be afraid. What will be will be.
Follow your heart and tackle challenges if they arise as they arise.

rose54321:
Dude thought you are a Christian, if you are then don't be superstitious.
You shouldn't be afraid. What will be will be.
Follow your heart and tackle challenges if they arise as they arise.

Thanks! Its no superstition, I have witness the family members go through the trial. Yea, am always ready to face consequences of my decision but my major fear is taking that decision on behalf of my unborn children.

@op just let the lady go, its obvious u are not ready to marry her. if wish to marry her, you ought to take her for deliverance, rather than spreading the news and countering all opinions that have been given to u so far.

Agbgift:
@op just let the lady go, its obvious u are not ready to marry her. if wish to marry her, you ought to take her for deliverance, rather than spreading the news and countering all opinions that have been given to u so far.

Don't rush into conclusion because you are a lady, did I attach her picture or address? If you read well you will see me mention that "a greater part of me is willing to take the risk".

Coincidentally you share something in common with her
Anyway thanks for you advice on deliverance.

Mr op. I don't tink u nid any advise here.. its obvious non of d advise given to u by faithful nairalanders seem to b working... n for d record u ar too aggressive... even if d advise isn't d best, its not for u to counter it here, all u nid do is say a big thank u... not dat attitude of urs..

You are in a beautiful relationship
the type many dream of having
First you prayed and God gave you her
you just had to go consult some prophet
for what reason, I dont know
Since you chose prophet over common sense
you can continue with the prophet.. heck marry the prophet sef

Oh and by the way that shìt you posted could have been a lot shorter. Im out

PREVENTION IS BETTER THAN CURE...
I hope u understand me

Goghelpme:


Over religiousness indeed, if I leave vision stuff, will you also tell me to leave the two examples of the sister and aunty that I am a witness to?

Hmmn.. thats true.. but u stil av to make your decision... to get married to her or NOT...
We actually cannot tell u what decision to make as regards who to marry.. if u think the visions are a bad sign,then its simple,dont marry her.. all relationship must not always lead to marriage (no matter how long)... i hope i helped.. and i pray u make the right decision..God bless you

HarkymTheOracle:

Hmmn.. thats true.. but u stil av to make your decision... to get married to her or NOT...
We actually cannot tell u what decision to make as regards who to marry.. if u think the visions are a bad sign,then its simple,dont marry her.. all relationship must not always lead to marriage (no matter how long)... i hope i helped.. and i pray u make the right decision..God bless you

Amen! Thanks

biazarre:
Mr op. I don't tink u nid any advise here.. its obvious non of d advise given to u by faithful nairalanders seem to b working... n for d record u ar too aggressive... even if d advise isn't d best, its not for u to counter it here, all u nid do is say a big thank u... not dat attitude of urs..

Funny you, guess you didn't read the thank you attatched to the post above you, if I claim okay with a view when I have something against it, how will others know give another solution?

Anyway BiG THANK YOU to you

Babzilla:
You are in a beautiful relationship
the type many dream of having
First you prayed and God gave you her
you just had to go consult some prophet
for what reason, I dont know
Since you chose prophet over common sense
you can continue with the prophet.. heck marry the prophet sef

Oh and by the way that shìt you posted could have been a lot shorter. Im out

Read again, I never consulted a prophet. Thank you

It's better u take a walk now or u regret later

Goghelpme:


Don't rush into conclusion because you are a lady, did I attach her picture or address? If you read well you will see me mention that "a greater part of me is willing to take the risk".

Coincidentally you share something in common with her
Anyway thanks for you advice on deliverance.

I share nothing in common wit her abeg o.

Agbgift:

I share nothing in common wit her abeg o.

Lol. You see you don't even want to be associate with her yet you are quick to castigate me, on the contrary I am 100+% proud of her. Seriously from your moniker you share name with her

With prayers,nothing is impossible

pretydiva:
With prayers,nothing is impossible

Amen! Thanks

It all started with my elder sister telling me to start praying for God to reveal my wife to me (I was 25 then). Personally I got my revelation/conviction of her being my wife about a year later I also involved some minister friends(advice on my revelations), and took about another one year later before we started dating. No sex until marriage rule agreed (it has been tough sticking to that especially for me as a man of my age but thanks to God).[color=#006600][/issue

Your statement above settles other issues you raise. Go ahead with the marriage plans

OP, God has not given any human being the gift of seeing the future or clairvoyance. Only a few of his prophets. And even they weren't in the habit of telling their followers the future. If you love the babe, marry her and if you don't, don't marry her.

I never listen to these fake prophets. They will lead you astray. If you are that concerned about her, take her to someone that will pray for her. The two of you should be steadfast in your prayers and things will resolve itself.

@op if truly it was God that reveal her to you then go back to that God for possible solutions it maybe because of you God wants to. break that chain so please consult the provider of solutions.. she is the one for you and both of you need to pray in accord.
God bless your marriage and your unborn children

Hian! Curse indeed. Dude, take her for a comprehensive psychological check-up. If nothing turns up, then go ahead and marry her! Don't see the reason for all this fuss......

itoese:

It all started with my elder sister telling me to start praying for God to reveal my wife to me (I was 25 then). Personally I got my revelation/conviction of her being my wife about a year later I also involved some minister friends(advice on my revelations), and took about another one year later before we started dating. No sex until marriage rule agreed (it has been tough sticking to that especially for me as a man of my age but thanks to God).[color=#006600][/issue

Your statement above settles other issues you raise. Go ahead with the marriage plans

Thank you

sirliu:
OP, God has not given any human being the gift of seeing the future or clairvoyance. Only a few of his prophets. And even they weren't in the habit of telling their followers the future. If you love the babe, marry her and if you don't, don't marry her.

I never listen to these fake prophets. They will lead you astray. If you are that concerned about her, take her to someone that will pray for her. The two of you should be steadfast in your prayers and things will resolve itself.

Why am bothered is not about prophecy but for the fact that I have witness two cases in the family. Thanks for you input

oscar039:
@op if truly it was God that reveal her to you then go back to that God for possible solutions it maybe because of you God wants to. break that chain so please consult the provider of solutions.. she is the one for you and both of you need to pray in accord.
God bless your marriage and your unborn children

Amen thanks