I have loved a few times but I have only been in love once, and with each ending of these relationships, it wasn’t about a lack of love, but simply the fact that sometimes other things don’t add up. You need more than just love. Love is not enough. Fortunately, I understood this concept very early in life and thus have helped me have a more realistic approach to issues concerning relationships.

Being in love is not an adequate foundation for building a successful relationship. In fact, in some of these cases, it was better for me to have ended it and moved on, no matter how much it hurts. The power of love is greatly overestimated. An unrealistic understanding of love can cause us quite some trouble. Love alone cannot compensate a negligence of fundamental values such as compatibility, mutual respect, shared vision and home management.

Don’t get it twisted; it’s very possible to fall in love with someone we’re not compatible with. For this reason, when evaluating our relationship, heart and mind must work together. When it comes to your compatibility, you will also have to consider the plain facts. The way that person treats you. How their dreams are comparable to yours. How your partner treats others.

If, on the other hand, we understand that love is not enough, we also understand that maintaining relationships takes effort. Love is like a farm. We need to water it, pull the weeds, and make sure it has enough sunlight. We water it by making sure our lover is the most significant thing in our life. We pull the weeds by making sure our lover knows what hurts us and we set appropriate boundaries. The sunlight is making your lover happy to see you.

Alfred Adler — ‘Follow your heart but take your brain with you.’ Armed with this truth, we would make the most out of our relationships.

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i know what im feeling for eleganza33

Nice one Op........



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[email] There aint nothing like "love" in my vocab.

So, you're right it aint enough, since it's not there!!
A banging body is more than enough, anyway. [/email]

SAINTSAMURAII:
i know what im feeling for eleganza33

wot u filin



Hpe nt lust

sinaj:
wot u filin


Hpe nt lust

lol no not lust. she knows how i feel for her.

SAINTSAMURAII:
lol no not lust. she knows how i feel for her.

nice one




U gat I nd smellymouth blessings


Good luck

sinaj:
nice one



U gat I nd smellymouth blessings

Good luck

hehehe thank you.

SANDOSKI:
Nice one Op........



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You're welcome.

I like it when I see people of like minds. I left a five year relationship, a girl I so much loved, because I decided I needed more than just love. There was no compatibility and although she does not understand, I know my decision would favour both of us in the long run, it was hurtful yes, and I risk been termed a heartbreaker by those who know about the relationship, I care less.
This is what many of us neglect these days, do you laugh at the same things? Do you have similar goal in life? Does she understand you beyond what you say? I make bold to say that in a relationship, Compatibility is greater than attraction, for attraction will not stay for long in the absence of other factors, but compatibility lasts forever.
Nice one OP

wasak:
I like it when I see people of like minds. I left a five year relationship, a girl I so much loved, because I decided I needed more than just love. There was no compatibility and although she does not understand, I know my decision would favour both of us in the long run, it was hurtful yes, and I risk been termed a heartbreaker by those who know about the relationship, I care less.
This is what many of us neglect these days, do you laugh at the same things? Do you have similar goal in life? Does she understand you beyond what you say? I make bold to say that in a relationship, Compatibility is greater than attraction, for attraction will not stay for long in the absence of other factors, but compatibility lasts forever.
Nice one OP

Wise words!

I can't tell how I got to land on this thread, but one thing was certain: I had wanted to open a thread with this same topic: "Is Love really Enough?"

In the course of my relationships over the years, both failed ones and the one going on now, I've come to realize that the mind plays us a prank. The prank is allowing us think obsession is same as love. Many people are simply obsessed with each other, and the moment it fades away, heart break comes from where it has lurked in a shadow all the while.

These are what I think emcompass love:

1) Commitment.

2) Ability to know when to talk and when to shut up.

3) Respect.

4) Attention.

5) Never have the assumption you already understand each other's thoughts. Most times, ask questions even if you know.

6) Lastly, Encouragement.....

The list is endless, but these 6 should solidify love. (My humble Opinion and my guide, too)

harsysky:
I can't tell how I got to land on this thread, but one thing was certain: I had wanted to open a thread with this same topic: "Is Love really Enough?"

In the course of my relationships over the years, both failed ones and the one going on now, I've come to realize that the mind plays us a prank. The prank is allowing us think obsession is same as love. Many people are simply obsessed with each other, and the moment it fades away, heart break comes from where it has lurked in a shadow all the while.

These are what I think emcompass love:

1) Commitment.

2) Ability to know when to talk and when to shut up.

3) Respect.

4) Attention.

5) Never have the assumption you already understand each other's thoughts. Most times, ask questions even if you know.

6) Lastly, Encouragement.....

The list is endless, but these 6 should solidify love. (My humble Opinion and my guide, too)

Good insights!

wasak:
I like it when I see people of like minds. I left a five year relationship, a girl I so much loved, because I decided I needed more than just love. There was no compatibility and although she does not understand, I know my decision would favour both of us in the long run, it was hurtful yes, and I risk been termed a heartbreaker by those who know about the relationship, I care less.
This is what many of us neglect these days, do you laugh at the same things? Do you have similar goal in life? Does she understand you beyond what you say? I make bold to say that in a relationship, Compatibility is greater than attraction, for attraction will not stay for long in the absence of other factors, but compatibility lasts forever.
Nice one OP

Bro, you said it all.. i was telling a girl of mine that love will actually be a minor thing for me in considering a partner, you can be in love buh not compatible, compatibility is the main thing IMO, then we can go to her personality, before i can now think of love.. just my thoughts anyway