Please i need your advise on my relationship issue that troubles me so much i had to create this moniker purposly for this. Its a lenghty write up, please bear with me.
I started my relationship with a man i'm so much in love with about Febuary last year. When we met and decided that we want to be together, I told him I had issues from other guys that I am having on and off relationship with. He then informed me that he will give
me time to work out my issues so we can be together without him having to look over his shoulder. The reason I was that way was majorly because I had trust issues with men and I didn't want to be on the losing end when it ends plus I was jobless at that the time and some of them help with my bills.Funny enough I was not having like a physical relationship with them mostly virtual as I am yet to meet some of them and mostly initiated chats and conversations out of boredom and times when i'm writing for a long time i noticed those sort of communication eases of my stress level as i am almost a complete introvert. But after meeting him, I began to know the kind of man he is
and started seeing the fact I wanted to build a future with him So I decided I will straighten out my act and concentrate on him.
During all that time we started having trust issues basically because I was still a bit secretive about what I was doing and it's not because I wanted to be but I was used to been that way. we talk about it a lot and truly since we started I have not physically cheated with him with someone else. Though at a time I had a sex chat with someone which he found out about and Though it was with my immediate ex, it was during a time I was bored at home as well as foolishness and lapse of judgement. He found out about it and was so mad then. The relationship almost ended at that point and I apologized and straighten out my act totally. I realized because of that incident I found out he
was someone I was not willing to lose. But since then he mistrust me, he questions my movement my actions and though it hurts me I realize it's a cross I would have to bear for him to trust me again. so far so good the going has been great but yet I feel a shift in his affection. I told myself that i will work harder to u go trust so that things will be normal again until I came across a chat with his ex and found it he recently cheated on me. was hurt and confronted him about it immediately with the prove. It was more painful to realize that while I kept myself in the guilty role trying all to make it up to him he was guilty of more. I realise that love was not enough because I never doubted his feelings for me even till now. But I realise my past could have hurt him and he never had a chance to trully heal and also realise likewise I must heal too. So I suggested we give ourselves space for a while for the healing process. But at the end of it all I honestly don't wanna loose him. I want this to work, I want him to miss me and I want what we had. He recently got a job in the same organisation i work, though not in the same city but still not far from each other. And it's easy to communicate with him via official channels. We are not broken up officially so i'm not sure total silence on my part so he'll miss me is advisable. How do i go about this. Please help

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I Have Nothing To Say But, If You Are Meant To Be, Then You Will Surely Come Back, Btw, Did He Appologize After You Found Out He Cheated?

He probably has moved on already. Men do that quicker than the ladies. Seems like distance is a contributing factor here too. You should really find time for a tete-a-tete

He probably has moved on already. Men do that quicker than the ladies. Seems like distance is a contributing factor here too. You should really find time for a tete-a-tete. All the best.

i won't lie to you, once a guy lose the trust he has for his lady it is really hard for him to trust her back..secondly giving a guy space most times doesn't work o, in-fact it makes matters worst cus he will start thinking otherwise.

Toor! 1st of all,m I see ur type as sm1 who get guys wooing u @ will, u cheated "sex chat" wt ur ex meaning u can actually have sex wt him cos u avnt goten over him! now in retaliation he didn't jst sex chat wt his but cheated physically frm ur finding (1-1) now no trust can ever come in this relationship. am jst not jst been objective but telling you the plain truth! he will come back to u wen he s in ur environment but will never be serious in his mind!