Be it at social gathering or in the church or on their way to school. It is very easy to always spot the house help, they are glaringly Very different from the actual children they tend to be left to take care of.

Why do most families think It is right to make your House helps look shabby and unkept. Like you see a family in church on a sunday, all the kids are looking good but the house help is either wearing a very old clothe of the madam or an oversized and worn out Oga shirt. Yet, we trust these people to take care of our kids,our foods our basic needs in general.

But most times,you make them feel left out, overwork them with all the chores. Some go as far as beating and maltreating them. In the end,they become the monster you are moulding them into. When e happen we go hear say e don happen. Most times,the guardians are to blame. I know people can be mischievious and stubborn, The least the guardians or Madams can do is to show them the same love you show your own kids. Treat them right. If you can afford it, take them to the same school as your kids. This will make them feel loved and cared for.

If they feel like they belong to your family,chances are that they would treat your kids better and would always give their best to you. In the end, na condition make them dey your house finally. Nobody would just opt to want to be a house help or maid.

I just saw one shabby looking hosue girl i presume without socks and with a torn bag,taking beautifully dressed kids to school. Then it struck me that i should pen this down. If you are guilty of this please reconsider. Nobody knows what that house girl or boy you refused to buy books for or socks for will turn out to be. Whether a succesful man or a notorious armed robber,be sure that it will still come back to you one way or the other.

We should learn how to treat every other person the way we would love to be treated. Hence the saying, Love your neighbour as you love yourself.

Sorry if this write up was too long, i just had to pour my heart out.
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Thumbs up.

You wrote the bitter truth. It truly amazes me how parents will shabbily treat their help but expect that help to be good to their children. When that help turns to the monster they molded, they will start shouting up and down.

Nigerians are the most religious people in the world (if not, then really high up on the list). But majority are hypocritical. The 'slave' will help in cooking, but they will give her/him spoilt food to eat etc.

Parents, show love and care especially to those entrusted to care for your child(ren). Out of every 1 evil act (by the maid) that is exposed, hundreds (if not thousands) go undetected. A word is enough for the wise.

Nice write up

Neverquit:
Thumbs up.
You wrote the bitter truth. It truly amazes me how parents will shabbily treat their help but expect that help to be good to their children. When that help turns to the monster they molded, they will start shouting up and down.

Nigerians are the most religious people in the world (if not, then really high up on the list). But majority are hypocritical The 'slave' will help in cooking, but they will give her/him spoilt food to eat etc.
Parents, show love and care especially to those entrusted to care for your child(ren). Out of every 1 evil act (by the maid) that is exposed, hundreds (if not thousands) go undetected. A word is enough for the wise.

Nigerians treat religion like Smorgasbord: the Scandinavian mode of feeding where the table is full of a variety of food and where you are required to choose what you would like to eat and leave the rest.

Nigerian Christians and Moslems do precisely that. We choose the portions of our holy books that vaguely appear to justify our wrongdoings or that are appealing to us then shunt aside the rest that do not in any way appeal to us. Don't be taken aback if a Nigerian man justifies his adulterous ways by instancing when Sarah gave Abraham her consent to test-run Hagar's vaginal engines.

Well, as OP rightly said, the golden rule of 'treat others in the same way as you would like to be treated' is the sum and substance of all religions.

*Fist bump*

darkenedrebel:


Nigerians treat religion like Smorgasbord: the Scandinavian mode of feeding where the table is full of a variety of food and where you are required to choose what you would like to eat and leave the rest.

Nigerian Christians and Moslems do precisely that. We choose the portions of our holy books that vaguely appear to justify our wrongdoings or that are appealing to us then shunt aside the rest that do not in any way appeal to us. Don't be taken aback if a Nigerian man justifies his adulterous ways by instancing when Sarah gave Abraham her consent to test-run Hagar's vaginal engines.

Well, as OP rightly said, the golden rule of 'treat others in the same way as you would like to be treated' is the sum and substance of all religions.

The house help a relative of mine employed watches TV 24/7 and insults the wife.. what would you say about that?

davien:
The house help a relative of mine employed watches TV 24/7 and insults the wife.. what would you say about that?

the point is everybody deserves to be treated right and respected.

From what you wrote, i can infer that she is a relative and not really a random house help. Besides, why should you tolerate insults/laziness from someone you EMPLOYED??

davien:
The house help a relative of mine employed watches TV 24/7 and insults the wife.. what would you say about that?

If I had it my way, I would abolish that househelp nonsense.
Look after your own kids and cook your own food. I speak in general

lepasharon:

If I had it my way, I would abolish that househelp nonsense. Look after your own kids and cook your own food. I speak in general

What would be the rationale behind the abolishing?

lepasharon:

If I had it my way, I would abolish that househelp nonsense. Look after your own kids and cook your own food. I speak in general

What would be the rationale behind the abolishing?

joey150:
the point is everybody deserves to be treated right and respected.

From what you wrote, i can infer that she is a relative and not really a random house help. Besides, why should you tolerate insults/laziness from someone you EMPLOYED??

She's not a relative... we aren't related one bit, she said she needed money so she offered herself up to them as a housegirl..

They gave her biscuits, food, everything and I think that's what led to all this.

A housegirl sits down in the parlour,remote clenched in hands and tells you she's not ready to do any work and doesn't know how to mop the floor.. ever heard of that?

davien:
She's not a relative... we aren't related one bit, she said she needed money so she offered herself up to them as a housegirl..

They gave her biscuits, food, everything and I think that's what led to all this.

A housegirl sits down in the parlour,remote clenched in hands and tells you she's not ready to do any work and doesn't know how to mop the floor.. ever heard of that?

It's not a biggie, they should take her back to her parents. No be by force to clean people's mess.

davien:
She's not a relative... we aren't related one bit, she said she needed money so she offered herself up to them as a housegirl..

They gave her biscuits, food, everything and I think that's what led to all this.

A housegirl sits down in the parlour,remote clenched in hands and tells you she's not ready to do any work and doesn't know how to mop the floor.. ever heard of that?

Seems to me like you all are scared of her

There is a simple solution to all this stories: make the helps wear a uniform.

It's done quite often where I stay (Lagos). The uniform looks like something auxiliary nurses wear and comes in small, medium or big. A tunic and trousers, usually white and blue. You can buy them online or sew them. The help wears them and only takes it off when she is in her private quarters/room after work has closed for the day. So no more accusations of shabby-looking maids or accusations of maids dressing sexily or whatever the case. Maybe on Sundays to church, the help can wear something that she owns to church. 3 pairs should be enough and she can wash them during the week (so no excuses to "I no get cloth" ).

Onegai:
There is a simple solution to all this stories: make the helps wear a uniform.

It's done quite often where I stay (Lagos). The uniform looks like something auxiliary nurses wear and comes in small, medium or big. A tunic and trousers, usually white and blue. You can buy them online or sew them. The help wears them and only takes it off when she is in her private quarters. So no more accusations of shabby-looking maids or accusations of maids dressing sexily or whatever the case. Maybe on Sundays to church, the help can wear something decent that she owns to church.

well yes, this is the professional way,abroad most maids are dressed this way.
But you dont bring a 15 year old girl from your village and start sewing uniforms for her. Those are the kinds i am more concerned with.

joey150:

But you dont bring a 15 year old girl from your village and start sewing uniforms for her. Those are the kinds i am more concerned with.

What exactly is wrong with having a 15 year old maid?

davien:
The house help a relative of mine employed watches TV 24/7 and insults the wife.. what would you say about that?

She's probably fvcking the husband.(pardon my language)

They are human beings too. It's wrong to have an underage slave all day in your house all because you PROMISED to send her to school.

There should be professional services that cater to such and help hire housekeeper's, gate keepers, chauffeurs, babysitters etc.

Kids should be in school nit in your house taking care of your own kids.

God is watching.

joey150:

Seems to me like you all are scared of her

I'm not living with them else I'll show her a thing or two..

Ioannes:


She's probably fvcking the husband.(pardon my language)

I understand why you'll think that but the husband ain't home most of the time, only housegirl and wife..

Timbuktuo:


What exactly is wrong with having a 15 year old maid?

I cant believe you just asked this. A 15 year old is a minor my dear. If they don't go to school leave them to their family to do whatever they want with them. But please, do not hire them as house help, no. The least one can do is help them get education.

How does one sleep at night knowing that they are mishandling someone else's child, bearing the fake mentality that "I AM HELPING HER". That's child abuse altogether.