snakie86:


God bless you too but[i] i think the marriage is over based on my discussion with the husband some few hours ago.[/i]
I will brief our discussion when i can type proper

snakie86:


God bless you too but'' i think the marriage is over based on my discussion with the husband some few hours ago''.
I will brief our discussion when i can type proper

snakie86:
I had a lengthy discussion with the husband in company of a guy whom i assumed is his brother

He said the parent were shocked about the behaviour of their daughter most especially the father who promised to look into the matter and find a resolution as the marriage was too early to go down the drain. They claimed not to know the whereabouts of their daughter and she hasn’t keep in touch

He was not convinced that the mother didn’t know about what the daughter did as during their conversation she said “If that is the will of God, i pray almighty God provide a good wife and husband for individual of you in the future.

He was able to get through to his wife on phone, they talked at length for over 10 minutes, all in all, the wife said she is not interested in the wedding again, she was sorry for everything and she believe the best thing for individual of them to go their separate way.

The parent has known where their daughter is but they were not ready to tell him her location. They have started behaving cold to him too. The father doesn’t pick his call and whenever the mother picks, she will start asking question like what does he want and that he should find his wife and see if he can settle with her moreover she was not there when she asked her out

He received a divorce letter from a lawyer on the instruction of the wife (He showed me the letter), the wife has sued for divorce and she is claiming damages and compensation. The husband is worried on the kind of compensation as they didn’t even go to the registry.
He already called the lawyer and estate of our building that he is moving out of the flat, they should find another tenant for the house and refunds to him the balance of his outstanding rent once they find someone to occupy the house.

His parent advised him to move home temporarily as he can’t be staying in the flat all alone without anybody. More so, before they got his father advised him to take a flat in one of his buildings in the town but his wife rejected out rightly and that is why he had to bring out money to rent another house.

His own mum warned him about the domineering attitude of his ex wife before the wedding and she is mocking him already. That is why they were never in so good term all along and his mum rarely visits them or calls his wife to check on their well being during the two months they stayed together.

He still has some debt that he is servicing which was as a result of expenses incurred during the wedding. This affected the finances in the house as whenever the wife comes in with any expensive things, he always tell her to exercise a bit of patience till they finish their outstanding debts. That always leads to arguments most times in the house.

He has accepted that he is no more interested in the marriage again either as his parent are saying for a lady to pack out all her things in her husband house just within two months without even trying to find resolution to whatever is bothering you in your marital life, then the lady can kill. He never reported the husband to anyone for once and moving out means she has it in plan for a very long time.

cbrass:


God bless you bro, you sound like an old time Christian, I am highly touched by this reply

jusRadical:





This is critical.

Why did she not take only het belongings? Why take something as irrelevant as spoons?

Does this not point ti something bad?

If she was bold enough to tell you about her husband, why not also her packing out.

Why give her friend her phone to answer at least you are a neutral party?

Her eyes go clear later.

amclimax:

may you never lack wisdom in your life.... God bless you.
to me the op is worst than the devil .... cuz of likes and front page he just they post people private life online....
now I believe if your friends doesnt know anything about you your enemies cant know too

snakie86:


Dont want to make this a tribal issue. They are both from the same state and the same town

snakie86:
I will keep updating as event unfold and trying to see if we can find a solution to this problem. Two months is just too soon to give up on your marriage and i believed moving out of the house was not a day or week plan by the wife

NovusHomo:

So, what is the way "courting" is supposed to be. Just curious.

Eyop:
The wife still has unfinished business outside. The matrimony is like caging her and not allowing her explore the goodies she's missing out there. Try have a man to man talk with the husband and let him tell you in details his own side of the story to enable you compare.

NovusHomo:


So, what is the way "courting" is supposed to be. Just curious.

Kakamorufu:
thats what happen when two individual did not do the courting the way its supposed to be. Another thing is that they might have been rushed into the marriage. Its well with the man, if his wife ever come back, he should try spice up the marriage. Don't dull

jusRadical:
The wife maybe was not prepared for marriage.

She was a house wife right? She expects the man to come home and start washing plates after a hectic day at the office?

They were only 2 at home then right? So what does she do with her time when the husband is at work?

Why did she not do what you adviced her to do?

I have feeling that she was not truthful to you. If she told you about her husband, why did she not tell you about her intention to pack out?

The things she complained about are not serious issues.

Is that her friend legally and contently married?

I think that she must have made up her mind to leave for no reason.

There is a way that seems right to a man but its end na die.

Why is she not picking you calls?

She has bad friends and many skeletons in her wardrobe or cupboard.

snakie86:
I have been hearing about this kind of issue but not seen one until it happened close to me. I know this might be a little bit long but i just want to put it out and learn from people to find a resolution.

Had we intervened in our own little way, would things have come out this way? This is the question have been asking myself since Monday when i heard of this issue.
I am still stunned and couldn’t believe what is happening, neither is my wife. How could two months old marriage crashed just like that without any remedy.

Have been hearing that marriages crashes but this one is somehow exceptional and called for various questions which are still unanswerable as at this moment.

I relocated to a new apartment which was a twin flat in a compound, my neighbour moved into the compound two months after us even though our money started reading at the same time. This was because they just had their wedding a week before they moved in.
Both of us in the building are young couples, i have been married for three years, we see ourselves as brothers as love birds, four of us in the compound were of the same age mate and our thought from beginning was that we will be able to relate very well with each other as young educated chaps.

Barely two weeks the newly married couple moved in, i called the attention of my wife to the fact that i don’t see our neighbours behaving like a newly wedded couple, at least love should still be in the air and we should be seeing them running over each other but reverse is the case. In fact most times when there was no light, i will be hearing their voice as if they were arguing. Moreover, the wife always wear a not too happy face most times

I and my wife agreed that, misunderstanding is bound to happen; they are new to marital life as such they are just trying to get to know each other very well. It is often said that first year of marriage is the toughest one as i could remember what we also went through during our first year but we endure due to our perseverance and parents counselling that we should always exercise patience with each other and today me and my wife understand each other very well now. We assumed, it was their own time too and they will overcome it.

Gradually we became a bit close with each other, i realized that the husband was an introvert who is always himself and you hardly see him outside while the wife was the opposite. When the husband is not around, the wife will come to our place, we will gist, talk, watch movies, musicals, euro 2016 together. In fact, i was surprise the wife knows about football and i used her as a reference point to my wife whenever we are watching football as she doesn’t have interest in any sport at all. The husband will call her whenever he comes back and the wife will go and meet her, sometimes she will come back while sometimes she might not come back again.

BellaElla:
Oga morning o. In my opinion I believe you are too involved in their marriage. Firstly it is only an irresponsible wife that visits neighbours everyday without reason. You and ur wife shouldn't have let it get that frequent. Its not a behaviour to encouraged and breeds over familiarity and disrespect. Another thing is when she started complaining about her marriage to u people, you should have known the kind of woman she was. That woman can set u up, she can cause issues between u and ur wife . She is not a wise person to associate with. However its not late to disassociate urself. Distance urself from their issues. Stop calling the woman. E no concern u. Let the man and his family sort it out. It would surprise u that when they are talking about their wahala or name would be mentioned. Over familiarity between neighbours dey always bring insult.

5minsmadness:



Damages and compensation for what When she is the one that moved out of the house? When she is the one that packed things that didn't belong to her? When she put the man through emotional torture not knowing where she was?

Op is the man rich? Maybe it was a financial trap? I hope he has a good lawyer, he should countersue her st[upid as's!!

WTF!!


Also@snakie86 I'm not saying I doubt your story, but u can't sue for divorce before 6months of marriage. It's the Nigerian law. Unless there's something else we don't know?