Fastpace:
Honestly u should have not think of what society or so called family will say and say NO to that marriage when u had d chance,if u are a christian u can leave only when u catch him cheatin red - handed, hence u hv to put up with this bitter marriage.i respect my parent but when it comes to matters that concern my future i make my final decision.
Parent are selfish alot nowadays.Pray to God,fast too for that man to change nothing is impossible for God.i feel ur pain.

Op, do not listen to this advice. My problem with we africans is that we use religion to cover some stupidity. How would u say she shouldnt leave unless she catch him red handed cheating. If it is only cheating the husband us doing, is it not better than beating? I will advice my sister to rather marry a cheat than to marry a wife beater. Mumtriplet2, leave that house and go back there no more. Which part of the north are u?

mumtriplet2:
I have explain to her that I will not be a burden to her that I will go and look for job house maid or cleaner job but she said that is Ashawo work.

My dad in the other hand supported me and suggested that I will start a fresh and continue my Education but mum is against it.

My mum is soo proud that laughs at anybody that return from her husband house.

She is doing that to make sure I stay married no matter wat.

Sorry to say, ur mum is this troublesome kind of mother..Pls and pls, no matter the situation, dont go back to that man's house.. I am pained ryt now while typing this..

Pidggin:


Cor. 7:15

This passage u shud read again and again.it says if the unbeliving partner go" u as a believer is not bound to him,and let him go.it is a different issue entirely & it does nt apply to all marriages.it apply to marriage btw a beliver & an unbeliver.in addition it does not say the beliver shud leave.

Fastpace:
This passage u shud read again and again.it says if the unbeliving partner go" u as a believer is not bound to him,and let him go.it is a different issue entirely & it does nt apply to all marriages.it apply to marriage btw a beliver & an unbeliver.in addition it does not say the beliver shud leave.

Of course I know you will leave out the part where the scriptures says "God has called you to live in peace" and "the Christian partner is free to act"

Is her husband acting as if he wants to live in the same house with her? If someone consistently beats and bullies the other does he not show by his actions that he doesn't want peace and he doesn't want her there?

Okay she should wait until her last breath to hear him say he wants some time alone abi? SMH

Pidggin:


Of course I know you will leave out the part where the scriptures says "God has called you to live in peace" and "the Christian partner is free to act"

Is her husband acting as if he wants to live in the same house with her? If someone consistently beats and bullies the other does he not show by his actions that he doesn't want peace and he doesn't want her there?

Okay she should wait until her last breath to hear him say he wants some time alone abi? SMH

chapter 11 stated clearly that wife do not separat 4rm ur husband,stating again that if u do remain unmarried or be reconciled.Can she stay unmarried and also not commit adultery?

Fastpace:
chapter 11 stated clearly that wife do not separat 4rm ur husband,stating again that if u do remain unmarried or be reconciled.[/b]Can she stay unmarried and also not commit adultery?[b]

Did I advice her to remarry? I said she should stay apart for a while until he learns how to treat her better. Cor. 7 :15 States that married couples are called to live in peace not war.

You should be asking her that question not me. All I know is that I have told her what the scriptures say concerning this. Give her your own advice and move on, don't quote me again.

Slimmos:
Op, do not listen to this advice. My problem with we africans is that we use religion to cover some stupidity. How would u say she shouldnt leave unless she catch him red handed cheating. If it is only cheating the husband us doing, is it not better than beating? I will advice my sister to rather marry a cheat than to marry a wife beater. Mumtriplet2, leave that house and go back there no more. Which part of the north are u?

Jigawa but am in Enugu nw(Nsukka)

Leave that marriage ASAP! You are too young for such rubbish!

diva90:
Leave that marriage ASAP! You are too young for such rubbish!

I have made up my mind to leave.
Is it true that one cannot get divorce in Catholic Church even when life is estake?
Am confused.

mumtriplet2:




I have made up my mind to leave.
Is it true that one cannot get divorce in Catholic Church even when life is estake?
Am confused.

Leave for safety first, think of divorce later. I know divorced people that wedded in Catholic Church, don't be in a hurry. Just chill out, improve yourself and regain your sanity before worrying about divorce procedures

Fastpace:
Honestly u should have not think of what society or so called family will say and say NO to that marriage when u had d chance,if u are a christian u can leave only when u catch him cheatin red - handed, hence u hv to put up with this bitter marriage.i respect my parent but when it comes to matters that concern my future i make my final decision.
Parent are selfish alot nowadays.Pray to God,fast too for that man to change nothing is impossible for God.i feel ur pain.

Just imagine?

talk2alabama:
[s]This is what happens when u obey your parents against ur own will[/s]

Nothing wrong in obeying your parents. Apparently its thier culture. It is the husband that should be blamed for his barbarism and wickedness.

mumtriplet2:




I have made up my mind to leave.
Is it true that one cannot get divorce in Catholic Church even when life is estake?
Am confused.

I know that Catholics do allow separation when life is at stake in marriage. You can however, make inquiry about this from your Parish.
First and foremost, get your life back. Thank God you are alive and telling this story. Also that your dad is in support of you. Other things will fall into place as time go on. Good luck!

mumtriplet2:


Tnx everyone for your advice .


My father loves my mum soo much that he agree with whatever she say in other to make her happy.
My father is Educated and civilised.

And he allows a man to beat his daughter? Have u reported the case to him? It seems he is the only one who can help you now.


P. S if your husband already threw you out of your boxing ring martimonial home, why on earth do you want to return You are young and have your whole life ahead of you, he's thrown you out, why not make a run for it

Or am i missing something

Fastpace:
This passage u shud read again and again.it says if the unbeliving partner go" u as a believer is not bound to him,and let him go.it is a different issue entirely & it does nt apply to all marriages.it apply to marriage btw a beliver & an unbeliver.in addition it does not say the beliver shud leave.

You're really beginning to piss me off.

mumtriplet2:




I have made up my mind to leave.
Is it true that one cannot get divorce in Catholic Church even when life is estake?
Am confused.

You're not muslim
Which church allowed your mom to marry off her 14yr old daughter
Are u ibo, why r ur parents in nsukka You said u were married off to the far north so it means u were not residing there to begin with.
U married in the catholic church at 18 and nobody asked questions?


Your story is beginning to get k-leg.

All these NL story sef

Soon a thread for money contribution will surface.

Nairaland I hail o.

Someone might even be using a real person story to pass off as his then take percentage when the big deal lands.

Educated Father indeed.

mumtriplet2:




I have made up my mind to leave.
Is it true that one cannot get divorce in Catholic Church even when life is estake?
Am confused.

I can beat my chest and tell you that the catholic church will "annul" this marriage.
Like you said the marriage was not done under your free will.
That's enough reason for annulment.
Coupled with the beating

favoured234:

I can beat my chest and tell you that the catholic church will "annul" this marriage.
Like you said the marriage was not done under your free will.
That's enough reason for annulment.
Coupled with the beating

No they won't.

Allegory:


No they won't. She was 18 and recited her vows herself, she might even have done the premarriage course cuz they don't joke with that in Catholic. You cannot get an easy divorce in the Catholic Church, it takes years to do their investigations. If the marriage was contracted under deceit then she might have a case for annulment, e.g did he lie about his ability to have kids or is he already married.

Op, you could go to the church you got married and talk to someone but they would most likely want to suggest counseling. Since you ain't planning to remarry soon I suggest you forget church and get your life together first.

Yes they will I have see it happen,
1. a man batters his wife at the slightest opportunity he has, her life was under threat.
2. During my marriage prep classes during the canon law class, the reverend father said that the marriage can be annulled if a spouse comes up and prove to the church that the vow was taken under duress

5minsmadness:


You're not muslim
Which church allowed your mom to marry off her 14yr old daughter
Are u ibo, why r ur parents in nsukka You said u were married off to the far north so it means u were not residing there to begin with.
U married in the catholic church at 18 and nobody asked questions?


Your story is beginning to get k-leg.

Duh! I know someone that was wedded at 16 in a Catholic Church with belle on top.

18 is an adult in naija, so why should they ask questions?

@topic, something's not right with this story.

freecocoa:
Duh! I know someone that was wedded at 16 in a Catholic Church with belle on top.

18 is an adult in naija, so why should they ask questions?

@topic, something's not right with this story.

I'll be surprised cos i know when the bride is young like that the reverend father will start asking questions. Some may even dissuade the marriage until the girl is older.

16!?! Catholic Church?? Okay o, if u say so, though i highly doubt it

Edited : Its not true jo! For the catholic church to wed a couple you have to satisfy the customary and statutory laws of the land! Thats why catholic church wont wed u unless you have sent notice to the court and also to your village!

favoured234:


Yes they will I have see it happen,
1. a man batters his wife at the slightest opportunity he has, her life was under threat.
2. During my marriage prep classes during the canon law class, the reverend father said that the marriage can be annulled if a spouse comes up and prove to the church that the vow was taken under duress

Catholic Churches grant divorce but it's usually a long winding process.

5minsmadness:

I'll be surprised cos i know when the bride is young like that the reverend father will start asking questions. Some may even dissuade the marriage until the girl is older.

16!?! Catholic Church?? Okay o, if u say so, though i highly doubt it

Edited : Its not true jo! For the catholic church to wed a couple you have to satisfy the customary and statutory laws of the land! Thats why catholic church wont wed u unless you have sent notice to the court and also to your village!

Y

5minsmadness:

I'll be surprised cos i know when the bride is young like that the reverend father will start asking questions. Some may even dissuade the marriage until the girl is older.

16!?! Catholic Church?? Okay o, if u say so, though i highly doubt it

Edited : Its not true jo! For the catholic church to wed a couple you have to satisfy the customary and statutory laws of the land! Thats why catholic church wont wed u unless you have sent notice to the court and also to your village!

Doubting it doesn't make it untrue my dear.

Catholic Church wey dey wed people anyhow, believe what you want love.

freecocoa:
Doubting it doesn't make it untrue my dear.

Catholic Church wey dey wed people anyhow, believe what you want love.

Hmmm.
I'm just saying cos am catholic, and i know how rigorous the hoops they put u through can be when u want to get married (don't ask how i know )

I'll be very surprised if a Catholic priest wedded a 16yr old without raising some sort of alarm.

Allegory:


You forget that these days many love-intoxicated and marriage-obsessed young people lie to the church and even their parents just to get married.

People lie about everything these days. Their real age, their spouses occupation, his real living conditions, they even bring actors as parents in cases where the parents don't support the marriage just to get married in catholic.

This is very possible.

5minsmadness:


Hmmm.
I'm just saying cos am catholic, and i know how rigorous the hoops they put u through can be when u want to get married (don't ask how i know )

I'll be very surprised if a Catholic priest wedded a 16yr old without raising some sort of alarm.

And I was catholic at some point, many of my family still is, so it's not like I don't know some of the-not-good-for-print things that go on there.

If you have cash, nobody puts you through anything my dear, an acquaintance, who isn't even catholic got wedded in a Catholic Church with a pregnancy of almost 6 months.

The girl got pregnant for our block rosary centre brother, her parents at the time, were one of those CWO and CMO important people, so it was marriage or nothing else, I was at the wedding and I'm not even trying to convince you, just telling you what I know.

mumtriplet2:


Jigawa but am in Enugu nw(Nsukka)

What is the latest development now?

Hmmmmmmm

Na waya!

mumtriplet2:


I agree that am not a saint either.I have my own fault as well but he has never considered my age from day one.
He is 11 years older than me.


when he married me. .....I consult him before do anything, cook (before I cook I will ask him what he want to eat). ....I started it from day one because there is how I grew up. My parents can't do anything without discussion it .....

He beat me any time I made mistake instead of correcting me.
I called him one day told him how I feel .begged him to correct me in low tune but he said he can do what ever he likes.


He enjoy beating and ask for forgiveness after.






I have never been a burden to him,don't buy cloth unless we are traveling, have never send any money to my parents or relatives but he still claim that I steal and give my people his money.

Hello. pls sneak away. flee flee i say flee frm dt beast...except u want to die of hypertension or hrt failure.... no child yet so u r free. stop wasting ur time