Hi Nairalanders, pls I need your words of wisdom on this.
I am married and all seems not to be very ok as my employer has not paid my salary for about four months now. I seem not to have the control of my house in my hands as it is my wife's job that is catering for everything in the house, even up to my undies, though she does not complain but I don't feel any good about the situation.
Guys and girls please advice me and give me words on my situation.

kay-pawpaw:

Hi Nairalanders, pls I need your words of wisdom on this.
I am married and all seems not to be very ok as my employer has not paid my salary for about four months now. I seem not to have the control of my house in my hands as it is my wife's job that is catering for everything in the house, even up to my undies, though she does not complain but I don't feel any good about the situation.
Guys and girls please advice me and give me words on my situation.

Well you guys are married for better than worse and whats yours is hers and vice versa. Just keep applying for jobs and praying for the best.

Wud u rather have her not contribute
Stop being paranoid,be thankful u have a good wife and keep looking for work.

i think you should show appreciation to her and then work toward improving the situation.

would u rather her quit her job so you feel "better"?

i don't think so. show humility. help her as much as possible.

So bringing in the money was what made you a husband. That just means that you are a very bad husband. Use this time to learn how to be a better husband.

sorry man,be prayerfull to ALLAH, better day are still ahead of u
dont worry with prayer u will soon get another nice job soonest insha allah
bros when it happen no 4get me atleast recharge card

Thanks guys, you are the best.

She is not the Husband. She's the wife. who else would cater in a situation like this if not the wife. come of it! you're still the Man.

Thanks for your concern

So many men out there would not bother

They'l rather sit at home and enjoy!!!!!!!!

dude thank God u have a supporting wife

If you are a christian please read proverbs 31: 10-31 " The Virtuous Wife" Your wife is doing her duty to her family. Appreciate it and keep looking for a job ( please don't forget that oppurtunity may lie in you becoming your own employer in the interim)

Look for another job.
Try to do things together and stop worrying about how she is feeling without her complaining.

Outstrip:

So bringing in the money was what made you a husband. That just means that you are a very bad husband. Use this time to learn how to be a better husband.

exactly, when I saw the topic: 'she is the husband", I thought she was ruthlessly ruling the house or something.
hisssss some men

sexyLeamon:

exactly, when I saw the topic: 'she is the husband", I thought she was ruthlessly ruling the house or something.
hisssss some men

i think the guy is just scared of the unknown and being paranoid

What are you ppl talking about?

Naija women, you make me wonder sometimes.

Is it his fault that he's not getting paid?

If he was enjoying the fact that his wife is the breadwinner, he wouldnt be complaining. If he doesnt complain, y'all would call him an irresponsible man.

dnt be acting like y'all dnt know Nigeria's economical problems and issues.

Outstrip:

So bringing in the money was what made you a husband. That just means that you are a very bad husband. Use this time to learn how to be a better husband.

Is this reasonable?

Poster, let her know you appreciate her efforts.

Its a wife's responsibility to help keep the walls of her home erect, esp in a situation like this.

and its not like you're being lazy and jobless.

Its okay to worry and to want to support your family. Its what a responsible husband does.

Just try to support her in other ways, if not financial.





I'd do the same for my husband

FL Gators:

What are you ppl talking about?

Naija women, you make me wonder sometimes.

Is it his fault that he's not getting paid?

If he was enjoying the fact that his wife is the breadwinner, he wouldnt be complaining. If he doesnt complain, y'all would call him an irresponsible man.

dnt be acting like y'all dnt know Nigeria's economical problems and issues.
Is this reasonable?

It is not his fault that he is not being paid, but this is my philosophy in life.
If you dont like something, change it, if you cant, stop whining.
What has the guy done to change the job or the situation, besides, his complaining is yet to have a basis, he needs to start looking for ways to make some money on the side, before the woman really starts to tell him, that she is tired of being the man of the home

Fhemmmy:

It is not his fault that he is not being paid, but this is my philosophy in life.
If you dont like something, change it, if you cant, stop whining.
What has the guy done to change the job or the situation, besides, his complaining is yet to have a basis, he needs to start looking for ways to make some money on the side, before the woman really starts to tell him, that she is tired of being the man of the home

Tell me, how easy is it to get jobs in Nigeria. . .
While you're wondering, ask the graduates thatz been jobless for years.

Ok, if its so easy, I'd like you to look for a job. come back next week and tell nl story.


Even in DC, its hard to find jobs, talkless of Nigeria.

Did he say he hasnt been looking for jobs?

FL Gators:

Tell me, how easy is it to get jobs in Nigeria. . .
While you're wondering, ask the graduates thatz been jobless for years.

Ok, if its so easy, I'd like you to look for a job. come back next week and tell nl story.


Even in DC, its hard to find jobs, talkless of Nigeria.

Did he say he hasnt been looking for jobs?

even is hard to get a job in UK as well these days so its everywhere

FL Gators:

Tell me, how easy is it to get jobs in Nigeria. . .
While you're wondering, ask the graduates thatz been jobless for years.

Ok, if its so easy, I'd like you to look for a job. come back next week and tell nl story.


Even in DC, its hard to find jobs, talkless of Nigeria.

Did he say he hasnt been looking for jobs?

I never told him to quit and look for another job, he could look into other ways to making money, he could look for some temporary jobs, like factory job or something, he could sell pure water on the side, or take delivery of it and supply to other people.
Let him just do something.

Thank God for your wife. Not all women can do that. You are blessed, but keep on looking for a new job.

don't just sit down and wait for one company, go and search for other places that need your service. because if it takes too long and you are not doing anything about it, she will feel you are playing on her intelligence

Thanks so much guys for all your words.
You're da bomb.

Thank God for your wife. Appreciating her and keep on looking for job or improving your situation. it is only when you put on non-nonchalant attitude about the situation that u are heading toward a big problem. it is well bros

kalabi:

Thank God for your wife. Appreciating her and keep on looking for job or improving your situation. it is only when you put on non-nonchalant attitude about the situation that u are heading toward a big problem. it is well bros

Well said

kalabi:

Thank God for your wife. Appreciating her and keep on looking for job or improving your situation. it is only when you put on non-nonchalant attitude about the situation that u are heading toward a big problem. it is well bros

well said

Fhemmmy:

Well said

what is well said, see ya mouth.
Femi, maa je kaja. Your words were not even close to that

FL Gators:

what is well said, see ya mouth.
Femi, maa je kaja. Your words were not even close to that

Not possible for me and you to Ja now.
However, all i am saying is that the dude should not worry about what is not a problem, all he has to do is keep looking for something, find a part job, if he has to, find a way to do some mini biz, at least do something, cos nothing crushed a man's ball more than knowing that you cant provide for your household.