Hi guys in the house, I'm in a dilemma right now & I would love it if u guys can't help me out with ur kind opinions by commenting on this. At some point in this post, I know I may got to be bashed but I don't really mind because my main aim is to find a proper solution to this issue.
I met this young lady @ an early age & to be frank, I got attracted by her beauty then we got closer to each other, along the line, I began to develop interest in her then I gave it a shot & she said NO, after that day many things were running on my mind that maybe I'm not her type, maybe she's not ready , maybe I too so long to speak but still after each day we get more closer to the point that I know her secrets & she knows mine, at this point I knew she enjoys keeping me as friend... Eventually, I gained admission into a tertiary institution in which I will be leaving for school in few days time, then I called that I want to see her b4 I leave, tho I've been showing some obvious moves b4 this time in which I know she's aware of but ever since I told her I need to see her b4 I leave, I notice she's been avoiding me because she won't chat nor call me. Its now one more day left bfor I finally leave, I now got to see her msg on my fone saying ' I've been trying to form flesh for u thinking I can cope without seeing u b4 u leave but I can't just help it' and she round it up by saying I will come & see u tomorrow, deep down my spine I felt happiness not cos of any evils' taught towards her but because I getting to develop feelings for her.
Here comes the day & she arrived as expected, we had fun together but the only romantic thing we did was Hugs & Kisses, @least I was satisfy with that then. I finally went to school & we used to hear from each other almost everyday, so fortunately for her she got admitted into a tertiary institute too through A levels Direct entry. Ever since her admission, for the 1st year in school I noticed she getting matured because she's using her brain for some vocational training in school & earning herself some little cash. We still closer but we hardly see, maybe once in a year but I still like her in spite of the distance.
Come to the beginning of last year we got see a day after the new year @home & while we were together, she told me she's not feeling comfortable looking into my eyes, that she think she's keeping something from me, & I told her to talk so she can be free, then she started to narrate how she was de flowered when she visited a guy @ home. To be serious, I didn't know how I felt that day because I was devastated & couldn't get myself throughout that day & she noticed that change of mood then she asked me that ' are we still cool ?' I couldn't answer and that was the first time I know I scolded her like my junior sister but after some months we got even closer but come to the start of this year its looking like if I didn't buckle up financially I can't get her because she gets attracted to high class guys now or should I say these guys are the one that dosent take away their face off her because she beautiful because she keeps none of this things away from me now to the extent that if she had s*x today I'm gonna be aware of it. At some point I would act like I'm no more into her & ask her of her s*x life and whenever I get to know she just did of recent,It would look like I was stabbed in the heart so that used to make me have two mind with her which are
1. Its either I date her because in spite of this things heard, I still like her
2. Or I get to have a one night stand with her & that would stop me from been heart broken whenever I hear such again.
Sometimes It looks like I'm been fooled because she acts like she doesn't want me to leave whenever I make it obvious trying to ignore her. Same thing with me, one part of me feels like losing contact with her while the selfish part of me doesn't want that to happen.
I need ur candid advice guys because I'm getting hurt here .Thanks for taking ur time to read this

OP, take 2 ribena and do proper paragraphing.

Face ur studies

lets face facts

she has outgrown you

I think you should move on. Everyday is a new day, so we meet new people everyday.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZEu8YpmSrfU

O boy, leave that girl and face your studies squarely.

The beautiful ones are not yet even conceived, talk more of born.

Capische?

she only considers u as a friend,dats all