I know it’s every girls dream to get married and be happy, that’s never worked out for me, I always get hurt, used and dumped so I decided to give up on relationships and put more effort in my career.


About a month ago, a friend told me about her cousin who just got back from the states and how he’s looking for a wife to get married to and she’s told him all about me, I wasn’t interested I told her so, she however decided to set me up with the guy.


Our first date was cool, he’s matured, successful and my type of man, we went out on four dates in the space of a month. Some days back, he asked me where I saw this relationship going, I asked if we were in a relationship, because he hadn't asked me out, we just went on dates ; anyway I told him I wanted to take my time and not rush into anything at the moment, he felt back and left.


He came back with a ring yesterday, says his spirit agrees with mine and he doesn’t want to beat around the bush, he wants to get married, I was shocked, I like him a lot but marriage I don’t know, I don’t want to be rushed or seem desperate, I told him to give me some time to think about it.


What do I do?


Talk2Bella


Sweetheart marriage is no child’s play, don’t get coerced or rushed into it, if you feel you aren’t ready then you aren’t.


It seems this man just wants to get married, and any woman might do for now, but hey what do I know? Loll, it’s worked out for some people this way and who says it wouldn’t for you.


Tell him to give you some time, see how patient he is, try and get to know him better, its good you like him a lot, I see you loving him with a little more effort on your part.


Don’t let the past ruin the future for you hun, give him a chance, it sometimes isn’t how long you’ve known someone, it’s how well they’ve made you feel within the short period you’ve known them.


Let me know how it goes.

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/09/weve-been-dating-for-just-one-month-and.html

... Our first date was cool, he’s matured, successful and my type of
man, we went out on four dates in the space of a month. Some
days back, he asked me where I saw this relationship going, I asked
if we were in a relationship, because he hadn't asked me out, we
just went on dates ; "



You guys went out on four 'solid' Dates in the space of four weeks and you are asking him if you guys were in a relationship??

Four good times, and u still asked that silly question?? No wonder you always get used and dumped!

She should rush into marriage, she should take her time and know him better......because what of if he has some quality in him she doesn't like and end up marrying the wrong person? ...then she now have to tolerate him for the rest of her life

People had rushed into marriage others were patient and non was a bed of rose..

she should sample the guy also to know for sure all is well with his p

The thing tire me see
If she says yes he might not be for her
If she says no he might be for her
Mehn prayers is what she needs now

Someone is taking you out on dates. And he hasn't "asked you out"?
Some girls are so used to the hit and run guys that they never notice the good ones.




I dey scatter money on dates for your head and you dey talk say I never ask you out.

I hate girls dat mensturates. How can blood coming fron your BIG T0TO wet ur pants and skirt,yet u claim to be sophisticated. *Smells*

kuchikau:
I hate girls dat mensturates. How can blood coming fron your BIG T0TO wet ur pants and skirt,yet u claim to be sophisticated. *Smells*

Are you alright?

Atleast you 've gone out with him on 4 diff occations, as a human it was expedient you let him know your stance...and btw, your friend even told you ahead of time that he's looking for a wife, so dnt tell me you weren't expecting the proposal soon.

No hes not alright, that's the same comment he's made on every thread he's seeking for attention

Talk2Bella:


Are you alright?

CrazyQuinn:
No hes not alright, that's the same comment he's made on every thread he's seeking for attention

Silly kids everywhere

It seems too sudden sha, but all the same, its different strokes for different folks. She should just get try to know him much more and decide if she can actually carry on with him

One month is not enough to make a life time decision like marriage;even at 7months couples are still struggling to know each other and understand their selves in it. I bet you,this is not a soup you will want to sip hot....if you rush in now,you may rush out sooner than expected.

Tell him to give you time or the relationship time to build and grow with both in order to be sure,if he truly cares he will respect your suggestion and wait.

Goodluck.

There's something that girls do now....i heard it from a lady saying it's a form of insurance incase the marriage doesn't go well in the first 24months or the guy starts misbehaving, starts to show his true colour.
Babes that rush into marriages especially all this match-make paroles now stay on contraceptives so no babies that will make divorce a bit difficult.
I tot about it and realized lot of women suffer in abusive/ unhappy homes becos of their kids and the lack of zeal to start over since it's very difficult for women with one or two kids to remarry unless they are loaded...dont get me wrong am not trying to say u shuld do like these babes ooooo.....just saying my own naaniiii...marriage is hard to come by these days ....boys are not smiling at all..

advanceDNA:
There's something that girls do now....i heard it from a lady saying it's a form of insurance incase the marriage doesn't go well in the first 24months or the guy starts misbehaving, starts to show his true colour.
Babes that rush into marriages especially all this match-make paroles now stay on contraceptives so no babies that will make divorce a bit difficult.
I tot about it and realized lot of women suffer in abusive/ unhappy homes becos of their kids and the lack of zeal to start over since it's very difficult for women with one or two kids to remarry unless they are loaded...dont get me wrong am not trying to say u shuld do like these babes ooooo.....just saying my own naaniiii...marriage is hard to come by these days ....boys are not smiling at all..

Wow

Really

Didn't know that

Gennyike:
One month is not enough to make a life time decision like marriage;even at 7months couples are still struggling to know each other and understand their selves in it. I bet you,this is not a soup you will want to sip hot....if you rush in now,you may rush out sooner than expected.

Tell him to give you time or the relationship time to build and grow with both in order to be sure,if he truly cares he will respect your suggestion and wait.

Goodluck.

All these abroad dudes who just come home to marry

Pinocchioo:
It seems too sudden sha, but all the same, its different strokes for different folks. She should just get try to know him much more and decide if she can actually carry on with him

It's worked for some people

E.g Kanu Nwakwo and wife

I guess others have said it all. Just get to know him, spend more quality time with him.

From your write up he's definitely at a point that he wants to marry urgently hence his reason for coming to Nigeria. While that's good, you need to be sure you are compatible; its compatibility not love that sustains marriage.

Talk2Bella:
I know it’s every girls dream to get married and be happy, that’s never worked out for me, I always get hurt, used and dumped so I decided to give up on relationships and put more effort in my career.


About a month ago, a friend told me about her cousin who just got back from the states and how he’s looking for a wife to get married to and she’s told him all about me, I wasn’t interested I told her so, she however decided to set me up with the guy.


Our first date was cool, he’s matured, successful and my type of man, we went out on four dates in the space of a month. Some days back, he asked me where I saw this relationship going, I asked if we were in a relationship, because he hadn't asked me out, we just went on dates ; anyway I told him I wanted to take my time and not rush into anything at the moment, he felt back and left.


He came back with a ring yesterday, says his spirit agrees with mine and he doesn’t want to beat around the bush, he wants to get married, I was shocked, I like him a lot but marriage I don’t know, I don’t want to be rushed or seem desperate, I told him to give me some time to think about it.


What do I do?


Talk2Bella


Sweetheart marriage is no child’s play, don’t get coerced or rushed into it, if you feel you aren’t ready then you aren’t.


It seems this man just wants to get married, and any woman might do for now, but hey what do I know? Loll, it’s worked out for some people this way and who says it wouldn’t for you.


Tell him to give you some time, see how patient he is, try and get to know him better, its good you like him a lot, I see you loving him with a little more effort on your part.


Don’t let the past ruin the future for you hun, give him a chance, it sometimes isn’t how long you’ve known someone, it’s how well they’ve made you feel within the short period you’ve known them.


Let me know how it goes.

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/09/weve-been-dating-for-just-one-month-and.html

Why is he in a hurry,don't join the league of those who have expiry date on their weddin cert.

Talk2Bella:


Are you alright?

...
A mad man is asking a sane man if he is alright.