It’s no news that there are an enormous number of women who are in one abusive relationship or another (emotional or physical). What I, and I’m others find bewildering, however, is the fact that despite the abuse and torture, a lot of these women cannot leave and move on from those relationships. It is really alarming the number of women, married and unmarried who cling on to abusive partners, so I’ve been wondering; what is it about those relationships that they cannot move on from them? Could it be love? Or is there more to it than we can ordinarily understand?

Well, after some deep and careful thinking, I came up with a of reasons I feel are, and I’ll be sharing them with you, our esteemed reader. Now, let’s take a look at them all…

1. FEAR

Yes, fear. However, I am not talking about fear of the abusive partner and his violence tendenci....Continue reading @
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Lay your dirty fingers on me and I end whatever we had.

1. FEAR
Yes, fear. However, I am not talking about fear of the abusive partner and his violence tendencies, but fear of the unknown. I think that this is the number one reason why women tend to remain with their abusive partners, in spite of everything. The fear of moving on and having to begin a new relationship with someone entirely new– who might, even be worse than their present partner… So they stick with the devil they know, live with the abuse, and continue to be trampled upon.

2. LIFE

Believe it or not there are actually women who are so into money and the fancy life, that they’re willing to accept emotional and physical abuse as the price they have to pay for it. These sorts of women would never quit an abusive relationship for anything… not as long as the money keeps rolling into their partners’ bank accounts.

3. CHILDREN

Once a woman has had a baby or more for her man, it’s often very difficult for her to leave him or the relationship, irrespective of what difficulty she’s faced with. The reason for this isn’t exactly because of her emotional attachment to her man, but because firstly, women naturally tend to want to build a family with the father of their children. No woman wants to have children for multiple men or deprive their children of that fatherly love that they deserve.

Secondly, you got to agree that it’s always kind of difficult for a woman with a child (children) to find a decent man who’s willing to accept her and her kid(s). Most men wouldn’t get involved with a woman with kids because they often consider the kids as ‘extra baggage’. And of course, the challenges of being a single mother are way too huge for some of these women to accept, so they hang on to the relationship and man they have, even when their well-being and health is in danger.

Honestly, I had a hard time coming to terms with this, but it is a reality, and we must accept it. Ask some of these women under abusive relationships the reason they have held on, they’ll always mention love. It’s hard to fathom as a neutral, but it’s true. Some of these women, no matter how abusive their partners are, somehow remain emotionally attached to them. Some believe they (the victims) are often responsible for the abuse they get from their partners, and believe that once they change, the abuse will cease. They see absolutely no wrong in whatever ill their partner metes out to them, and would defend him if they have to. Lol. It’s crazy, but that is the way it is. Call it infatuation or anything you want to, but the truth remains that some of these women are genuinely emotionally attached to their abusive partners.

So there– the reasons I believe women tend to remain in a relationship even in face of constant emotional and physical abuse. I do hope you found it interesting.

I’d also like to say that abuse of any kind is wicked, unacceptable, and shouldn’t be condoned under any circumstances. If you’re a woman in an abusive relationship, your only option is to quit, and run for your dear life. The dangers of the abuse are far bigger than they may appear. No reason is good enough for you to stick to any relationship that doesn’t add to your life and well-being positively.

Do not be afraid of the future, do not be afraid to move on; you’ll definitely find something /someone better the moment you allow yourself to take the leap. You deserve much better than you’re willing to accept and realise.

Laveda:
Lay your dirty fingers on me and I end whatever we had.

everything?

slyIsaac:

everything?

Yup, that's how much I hate it.

Laveda:


Yup, that's how much I hate it.

I read your signature, na so my heart just cease

iykekelvins:
I read your signature, na so my heart just cease

Abeg o

Abusive relationship kwa? abeg my love never reach that side. If i notice that u got d slightest tendency of being abusive, its goodbye to d relationship or whatever it is we share. Make i open eyes, make one man deform me in d name of love? me wey e suppose dey panper like egg. Mba! i no gree.

why should I even remain in a relationship when the guy acts lyk a tiger looking for whom to devourIet me come and be going...

My advice for young Nigeria men is that Never you make the mistake of marrying a Nigerian woman they are cheat and prostitute. Go to Ghana Cameroon, uganda, Tanzania, Liberia or sereleone to marry there women that can give you a true love and peace of mind. believe me if 500,000 Nigerian men do this in one year. Nigerian girls will learn how to be Obedient and submissive to men. But if we Keep marrying Nigerian women, they will keep on cheating and doing Ashawo work which they call runs because they will say in There mind.after all our men has no Choice But to Marry us

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because of too much beating

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Julietcutie:
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Damilolababy:
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what dear?

Julietcutie:
what dear?

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