Hey babe. You didn't cheat on him. You messed up by giving what you should reserve to some "chop and go" guy but that happened when you broke up with him. It is hard but it is not unpardonable.

By the way, You are in the best position to know if you should go back. You should know him enough to know if he is the kind of man that will forgive an honest mistake like that.

We dated for two years,and we had a very big fight and broke up although it was his fault.While we were dating,i didnt have sex with him,cos i felt too young to have sex and he respected my opinions about sex.
I dated another who disvirgined me but we didnt last long.we broke up after six months,i later made up with my first ex,who told me that he has forgotten about what i did and wiAll still do anything to have me and will continue to love me if i will be faithful to him.


it was his fault, abi? and he told yhou he has 4gotten wat u did to him(pls can you juxtapose yur contradiction)
obviously you wer fkgn sum1 else wen u guys were dating or you were about eating the 4bidden fruit that yu av always wanted to eat
now that you av tasted it, kip eatin , cos if if he cums bak, accordin to you that he wants you bk, he will chop all the ones he didn eat for 2yrs
notin go remain 4ur new fkers

too ad.
best thing is leave the dude,
u r right he wil never trust u completelyagain,
he might pretend hard to/try 2 convince himself that he does, i bet u , he doesnt, the trust will never ever be 100% again.

leave him, dont go back 2 him, u will most def meet other men, u r still young.,

why do you jus sleep around like a DOG that has been honry for years.

You don't love the guy (you better look deep within yourself now). You only keep him when someone else dumps you (of course you know he is always there for you ---- stupid him).You are still the kind of lady that can not appreciate what she has.

Very soon your itchy vagina will make you leave him. Once some rude guy has helped you scratch it with a rude d!ck the itch will stop and you will be back to your first ex ----- stupid him.

sis,dont want u 2 tink im blaming u bt how cme u slept wt dos 2 guys like dt wn ur heart is stil wt ur 1st luv.u u were able 2 keep ursef for de person u truly luv.4 2yrs how come u now slept wt 2 guys in de space of 6months-1year.?do u realy tink u luv dis guy?cos it seems u stil wanna enjoy life n havin tasted sex,ur now sort of becoming an addict and its like u want to sample everyone.n u dont tink ur 1st guy can satisfy you.my dear.i tink wt is best is to leave dis guy cos im not convinced u luv him.best of luck.
word of advice.if at all u get bk 2 him.pls remain faithful.

@22Medinat,

I think you've shown a lot of decency at 23. The general belief is that most Nigerian girls above the age of 18 have slept with at least 3 boys.
(^{By the way, I dont believe in generalisation})
Questions for you,
(1) Do you love the person you are currently dating?
(2) Do you see your first love as someone you can spend the rest of your life with?
(3) Are you aware of the kind of life ur 1st love have been living in the past two and half years?

You have to consider these things before you jump back into that relationship. You sound like an honest individual so look before you leap.

You claim u still love him first then what are you doing with the present boy?
on both occasions you slept with someone else you were no longer with him (the one you claim you love)
it was your choice to sleep with whomever you wanted to
i would only advise you to tell him everything and if he still wants you and u can FORGIVE yourself fine, go back
by the way lay of sleeping with men just like that
lastly if it does not work out with any of the men, ur ex and your present
give men a break for a while

Lol, this chick is too innocent. Feeling guilty for sleeping with some guy other than her main man. When 98% chicks do it every day and clean their mouths with no feeling of guilt of shame, after all that place no get gauge and there is no way you will find out. I'm disappointed with you guys, give the babe her dues abeg. If she wants to go back to her ex she should man, she clearly likes the guy and he does too. The s-ex just happened and her remorse is enough reason to absolve her of any 'crime' she committed. Case closed.

Thats why its so dumb for a guy to respect his girl's so-called virginity. I've been foolish enough to do that once, and I've still not forgiven myself. Girls dont respect honourable guys; they do 'shakara' for them but cheaply give p.u.s.sy to rogues. Well, I've long been a heartless rogue with women and the results have been pretty impressive.

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damn these love-peddlers cant keep their legs together

to be fair, neither can i

tell him wat happened n hear wat he says, if he is still interested, beautiful, if he is not then move on,
but i think he will be

Sweetheart,i really like your honesty,
Dont mind all these people that talked to you as if they are saints.(Bad_mo_fo)
You are an angel,believe me, 10* better than most of them.
I just think you should give yourself some time alone,to deal with the phsycology.
Be able to forgive and accept yourself back.
Then if you must go back to him,just tell him the truth first.
If he truely loves you,he will 4give you $ live with it.All the best.
You no kill person abeg.

i think i have a berra understanding of the situation here, cos i v bin there, seen it all but neva waited long to xpirence it.

i fink u guys started off well, and along the line, he started acting like a wuss-bag and that attrctive luva u fell for, after a while, u sort of unknwinly, moved him from the lova zone in the provider zone, there after, subjugated him to the friendship zone, all this while little did u know u were doin this, cos women are by default, programd to respond to certain fins, certain way! once a woman has move chu to the friendshp zone, to hv intimate session wiv her, is like an immposibility, that was wen he made a move to lay you, and u bluntly refused his touchin u n u ofcos told him that u value ur viginity rite? then along the line, he felt frustratd and evryfin u do, jst piss him off, u den broke up!

then along the line, u ran into this bad guy, he swoop u up and b4 u knew it, all that u valued had been layd to shred b4 u cud even say jack robinson! cos this new guy got his onion tite! he F**ked u and moved on, hahaha,

wat ur 1st luv has been yernin for , for a very long tym!
U DID ENJOY THE SHOW! and since u dint really fancy giving in into this ur 1st guy , cos now, u see him as a friend only, , he still tryd to sleep wiv chu, but u still refused, and then, took off again to feel anoda rod, once a gurl has been disvirgined by a guy that knows his onion, she cant but keep wantin to F**k all the tym! hahaha

now u do feel it is tym to settl down, and u want to go back to ur 1st luv? well b prepared cos he is goin to pay u back in ur coin!!!!

now, he wud use married to decieve u and once he has F**ked u and satisfy his appetite, he wud dump u like a pack of cards, and marry anoda, cos that is wat u deserve!

i have had to chase a gurl for 3 months, and the very dai she let me in between her legs, i f**ked her like a LovePeddler she was! and thereafter, hated her cos she was not worth the 3month's stress!!!

GO BACK IF U JST WANT THE FUN, DONT XPCT ANYFIN SEROUS!!!

THIS BEEN ME, DA LUV DOCTOR!, DON DRIZO 4 CHIZO MANIZO! U FIZO?

HARDDON/Love Dorctor or what ever you call your self,
You do not know how to talk at all.
You are so Callous with words.
You are even worse than the devil him self.
And with this attitude,you still have a long way to go.
Am so pissed,
We have alot of pretenders here in NL,

DA LUV DOCTOR!, DON DRIZO 4 CHIZO MANIZO! U FIZO

y did they release u early?? n those doctors assured us that they wont release u until ur fully cured from ur madness, as they say, yabaleft pschiatrist can be bribed

HARDDON:

i think i have a berra understanding of the situation here, cos  i v bin there, seen it all but neva waited long to xpirence it.

i fink u guys started off well,  and along the line, he started acting like a wuss-bag and that attrctive luva u fell for, after a while, u sort of unknwinly, moved him from the lova zone in the provider zone, there after, subjugated him to the friendship zone, all this while little did u know u were doin this, cos women are by default, programd to respond to certain fins, certain way! once a woman has move chu to the friendshp zone, to hv intimate session wiv her, is like an immposibility, that was wen he made a move to lay you, and u bluntly refused his touchin u n u ofcos told him that u value your viginity rite? then along the line, he felt frustratd and evryfin u do, jst piss him off, u den broke up!

then along the line, u ran into this bad guy, he swoop u up and b4 u knew it, all that u valued had been layd to shred b4 u cud even say jack robinson! cos this new guy got his onion tite!  he F**ked u and moved on, hahaha,

wat your 1st luv has been yernin for , for a very long tym!
U DID ENJOY THE SHOW! and since u dint really fancy giving in into this your 1st guy , cos now, u see him as a friend only, , he still tryd to sleep wiv chu, but u still refused, and then, took off again to feel anoda rod, once a gurl has been disvirgined by a guy that knows his onion, she cant but keep wantin to be intimate with all the tym! hahaha

now u do feel it is tym to settl down, and u want to go back to your 1st luv? well b prepared cos he is goin to pay u back in your coin!!!!

now, he wud use married to decieve u and once he has F**ked u and satisfy  his appetite, he wud dump u like a pack of cards, and marry anoda, cos that is wat u deserve!

i have had to chase a gurl for 3 months, and the very dai she let me in between her legs, i f**ked her like a LovePeddler she was! and thereafter, hated her cos she was not worth the 3month's stress!!!

GO BACK IF U JST WANT THE FUN, DONT XPCT ANYFIN SEROUS!!!

THIS BEEN ME, DA LUV DOCTOR!, DON DRIZO 4 CHIZO MANIZO! U FIZO?

Harddon don dada. Think you hit the nail on the head. I agree 90% with your assessment; don't mind fubiluv and the other pretenders - you must have touched a raw nerve!

Once suffered a somewhat similar fate just 'cos I was blinded by 'love'. I still can't forgive myself for effing up that one time. That experience necessitated a brutal overhaul of my game with these love-peddlers. . . and I've been loving life ever since. Most of these st.upid whores dont know what they want, and certainly don't deserve 'love' of any kind.

tis so fun to set the flame and watch it blaze!!!!

but then, the truth must be told no marra whose horse was goard, lol

[b][/b]PRO01 U get dee jerk! at the very least, i have some1 that knows waz wat! 10ks man

guess u told him all by now.The question is do you really love him?

As to the guilt issue u guys were neva married you were not even dating all the times you slept wit another man.The only person you let down is you.you do not even owe him an account of what and where you have been and done the times you were not together.He does not become the moral judge of your character.

pls do not enter that rship feeling you need to have been a better person nobody has the rt to judge you.The good thing is that you are still morally sound and am sure you will be fine.

Also do not let him pressure you into a rship with him.think hard if you really love him or you feel you owe him your virginity and goodness.

i think some of you guys are being harsh here, granted the lady has done some mistakes but the fact that she's remorseful an considers intimacy so highly shows u that shes far from bein a loose canon. the only hazard i see standin in your way is yourself, you cant forgive yourself, u let your conscious drive u to dating other men. u need to decide dear do u want an still love your ex? do u deserve him if you answer yes to these all these questions, tell him everythin ask for forgiveness an move on. if he takes u back thank GOD n work on rebuildin the trust don forget to repay him as well by being a wife that he'l b proud off.if he doesnt forgive u SOOOOOO wat, life proceeds, ul hav to work on ur guilt an becoming a lady incharge of her decisions.don

dont let people judge you we very good at pointing fingers an we excel in that.
anyway infuture weather u choose to sleep with a million men or u convert into a nun, make decisions you can live with, ones that dont take away the beauty in u.as for your ex m sure he;l forgive you after all the man does adore even after soo long