for me I cannot wait! I know so many men seem to dread it but I love the idea of choosing a lovely dress and having all my bridesmaids, experiencing married life and having cute little kids.

Well well well. Married life isnt just about having 'cute little kids'. If its that one, then my nephews are enough for me. Cos all five are super cute.
But am I looking forward to it? Not at the moment. I guess for each woman it depends on where she is in life, and Im at that place where I want to travel the world .  . . .see Equador and Sao Paolo . . . . . . . . . . maybe even get to Australia  and New Zealand (ask me what Im doing there oh lol).
I wasnt able to have all these dreams in my last relationship cos he was hurrying me through school so we could go back to naija and get married. With the relationship over, that stress (and my horrible ex-to-be-inlaws . . . . . . .kai, The Lord saved me oh ) are no longer any part of my daily routine. Im soo happy
Im fine at the moment, so no, Im not looking forward to getting married . . . . anytime soon!

I used hate having to think of marriages because, of so many broken marriages. Until someone very dear to me, is soon going to get married this december. I feel so oppressed because, i will be lonely soon. He's my very close friend. Since his wife is going to take him away from him. I think i should start thinking of marriage. Or wat do you think?

I used hate having to think of marriages because, of so many broken marriages. Until someone very dear to me, is soon going to get married this december. I feel so oppressed because, i will be lonely soon. He's my very close friend. Since his wife is going to take him away from him. I think i should start thinking of marriage. Or wat do you think?

I used hate having to think of marriages because, of so many broken marriages. Until someone very dear to me, is soon going to get married this december. I feel so oppressed because, i will be lonely soon. He's my very close friend. Since his wife is going to take him away from him. I think i should start thinking of marriage. Or wat do you think?

Yes!
I look forward to getting married,
Each time i go for a friend's wedding, I wonder when my turn will be,

Rosabelle:

Well well well. Married life isnt just about having 'cute little kids'. If its that one, then my nephews are enough for me. Cos all five are super cute.
But am I looking forward to it? Not at the moment. I guess for each woman it depends on where she is in life, and Im at that place where I want to travel the world . . . .see Equador and Sao Paolo . . . . . . . . . . maybe even get to Australia and New Zealand (ask me what Im doing there oh lol).
I wasnt able to have all these dreams in my last relationship cos he was hurrying me through school so we could go back to naija and get married. With the relationship over, that stress (and my horrible ex-to-be-inlaws . . . . . . .kai, The Lord saved me oh ) are no longer any part of my daily routine. Im soo happy
Im fine at the moment, so no, Im not looking forward to getting married . . . . anytime soon!

mmmm

Tatian:

I used hate having to think of marriages because, of so many broken marriages. Until someone very dear to me, is soon going to get married this december. I feel so oppressed because, i will be lonely soon. He's my very close friend. Since his wife is going to take him away from him. I think i should start thinking of marriage. Or wat do you think?

i see y u clicked thrice

I look forward to it but at the same time Im scared of it cos of the marriages I see around.Most people seem to be enduring their marriages and dont want to leave it cos they hav kids from the marriage already

^^^--There r good men out there,if only u have eyes.

sweetpie23:

for me I cannot wait! I know so many men seem to dread it but I love the idea of choosing a lovely dress and having all my bridesmaids, experiencing married life and having cute little kids.

so this is ur idea of marriage - LMAO - the sooner u wake from that day dream the better for you.

yes married life is good and i would not swap it for when i was single but if its the wedding dress and bridesmaid that is shaking ur head my dear hit the floor fast and open ur eyes.

marriage is more than cute kids that people post on facebook.

I agree marriage is much more than a beautiful wedding with cute kids and a home. Its hard work. Im not sure about marrigae knowing how men are nowadays and people do seem to be enduring rather than enjoying their marriages.

Godmother:

I look forward to it but at the same time Im scared of it cos of the marriages I see around.Most people seem to be enduring their marriages and dont want to leave it cos they hav kids from the marriage already

I have the same problem. Fortunately, my friends are all happily married, so I also see mariages that work, but above all, it shows me one has to be ready to accomodate a lot of rubbish lol to be married. So its a whole package you have to be ready to commit to .The good and bad. And so sometimes, those bad marriages you see are caused for soo many other reasons apart from the people being irresponsible or bad. Sometimes the time just wasnt right and so the marriage collapses under pressure of expectations.

martin1:

^^^--There r good men out there,if only u have eyes.

Ive met a few. But these days we're all getting jaded

No we are not looking forward to get married! Cus we are NUns!

No we are not looking forward to get married! Cus we are NUns!

Aha . . marriage again!!

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Rosabelle:

Well well well. Married life isnt just about having 'cute little kids'. If its that one, then my nephews are enough for me. Cos all five are super cute.
But am I looking forward to it? Not at the moment. I guess for each woman it depends on where she is in life, and Im at that place where I want to travel the world . . . .see Equador and Sao Paolo . . . . . . . . . . maybe even get to Australia and New Zealand (ask me what Im doing there oh lol).
I wasnt able to have all these dreams in my last relationship cos he was hurrying me through school so we could go back to naija and get married. With the relationship over, that stress (and my horrible ex-to-be-inlaws . . . . . . .kai, The Lord saved me oh ) are no longer any part of my daily routine. Im soo happy
Im fine at the moment, so no, Im not looking forward to getting married . . . . anytime soon!

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iykedare:

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Well sorry mr. man, but I go by myy clock and no one else's. So I dont know why youre worried about menopause? Abi were you once a woman?
Besides, not everyone wants to get married and have children. So maintain, ok!

Rosabelle:

Well sorry mr. man, but I go by myy clock and no one else's. So I dont know why youre worried about menopause? Abi were you once a woman?
Besides, not everyone wants to get married and have children. So maintain, ok!

This is usually the nonsense that drives young girls into useless marriages

Ebonyeyes:

This is usually the nonsense that drives young girls into useless marriages

I dont get it. What about my taking my time drives young girls into useless marriages?

Rosabelle:

I dont get it. What about my taking my time drives young girls into useless marriages?

Hunny I was defending your comment i.e comments like what that man make drives girls to marry any useless goon just because idiots are counting down her biological clock.

Ebonyeyes:

Hunny I was defending your comment i.e comments like what that man make drives girls to marry any useless goon just because idiots are counting down her biological clock.

Ah toh. I just didnt want to fire him. I dont understand oh. Which one is a man's business with menopause??

sweetpie23:

for me I cannot wait! I know so many men seem to dread it but I love the idea of choosing a lovely dress and having all my bridesmaids, experiencing married life and having cute little kids.

Ain't that the fairytale we all dream of
R you mentally prepared for the what if's and what not's?
Marriage is a long term commitment and should never be rushed into.
Rush in without knowing the devil inside out and you had def zoom out like it never happened.

Rosabelle:

Ah toh.  I just didnt want to fire him. I dont understand oh. Which one is a man's business with menopause??  

My sister ask me o! They should concentrate on their own marriage and relationship

Ebonyeyes:

Hunny I was defending your comment i.e comments like what that man make drives girls to marry any useless goon just because idiots are counting down her biological clock.

Really now Ebby? I knew someone would make you angry when i saw that you've posted in here. This is a confirmation

Dr. Lorenz:

Really now Ebby? I knew someone would make you angry when i saw that you've posted in here. This is a confirmation

Am I that predictable?

Ebonyeyes:

Am I that predictable?

Yes you are predictable _{What are you doing online by this time?}

Ebonyeyes:

My sister ask me o! They should concentrate on their own marriage and relationship

Marriage is between both parties so we have a right to poke our nose in the ladies affiars just like you have the right as well to do the same in the other direction.

Rosabelle:

Ah toh. I just didnt want to fire him. I dont understand oh. Which one is a man's business with menopause??

We sure do have business with that because we got a stake in this marriage issue or are we going to marry someone who can't give us the number of children we so desire?

Pharoh:

Marriage is between both parties so we have a right to poke our nose in the ladies affiars just like you have the right as well to do the same in the other direction.

We sure do have business with that because we got a stake in this marriage issue or are we going to marry someone who can't give us the number of children we so desire?

You can discuss it with your girlfriend and have a 'stake' in the side she takes, but not with perfect strangers. Its a very personal matter.
Theres nothing wrong with a woman deciding she would rather wait until 'menopause' before getting married, or not at all. These are highly personal issues and I find it disturbing to see how eager people are to talk one out of making personal dicisions.
Its my decision and my life and no one has any business or 'stake' in it.

Pharoh:

Marriage is between both parties so we have a right to poke our nose in the ladies affiars just like you have the right as well to do the same in the other direction.

Im sorry but this is why society is a mess instead of minding their own business they poke their nose in other peoples business. If a woman chooses to remain single until she finds the one, let her be. Look at the condition in Nigeria many girls are pressured in marriages they are not happy with.

Ebonyeyes:

Im sorry but this is why society is a mess instead of minding their own business they poke their nose in other peoples business. If a woman chooses to remain single until she finds the one, let her be. Look at the condition in Nigeria many girls are pressured in marriages they are not happy with.

I agree, women and even men should not be pressured into a something like marriage, and unfortunately our culture has a lot to answer for when it comes to this. Our parents feel that its just a case of finding someone and sticking with him/her like they did.
Since the two people are going to be the ones in the "firing line" i think they should be encouraged but never bullied or blackmailed into marriage,

Rosabelle:

You can discuss it with your girlfriend and have a 'stake' in the side she takes, but not with perfect strangers. Its a very personal matter.
Theres nothing wrong with a woman deciding she would rather wait until 'menopause' before getting married, or not at all. These are highly personal issues and I find it disturbing to see how eager people are to talk one out of making personal dicisions.
Its my decision and my life and no one has any business or 'stake' in it.

Sorry if i my post sounds personal or directed to you but honestly it is just a general issue i am trying to address with that write up. I am not attacking you or poking my nose in your relationship, i was only trying to say we sure do have a say to tell the other parties this is are what we want from them before going into the marriage life.

Ebonyeyes:

Im sorry but this is why society is a mess instead of minding their own business they poke their nose in other peoples business. If a woman chooses to remain single until she finds the one, let her be. Look at the condition in Nigeria many girls are pressured in marriages they are not happy with.

Our african society is not comfortable with a single adult lady so you should understand the need for the pressure. Men are also pressured as well into marriages though not like the girls. I was actually refering to the menopause issue and related stuffs and not exactly the pressure.