Let me correct d impression DREE IS NO DATING IN CHRISTIANDOM IT IS CALLED COURTSHIP and d age is largely d decision of both (male and female) parents n den dree spiritual leaders, 1ce dree parent(s) is nt involve or in support,dey r into forbidden relationship,GOD has given dat decision to d parents

Kgdavid:


Your general pointed is noted. However, are you aware that there is no universal age of consent? The age of consent is 14 in Brazil for example, and 16 in the UK. So what you consider a paedophile here in a "lawless" country like Nigeria, would not be so in a "law abiding" country like the England.

It all comes down to what we find acceptable. I wouldn't want my prepubescent teenage son or daughter to be involved with an adult until he/she is at the age to make that decision. I don't have any control over this neither will I enforce my ideologies on them but I have to do my part as a parent. In the world today, exploitation is everywhere, so it is important that I make my children aware of the dangerous world we live in. I believe we should treat others the way we want others to treat us, so as I am not okay with my young child getting sexually involved with an adult, I wont advocate for such behavior, as I would be a hypocrite. But if someone else is fine with an adult getting involved with their teenage son/daughter, then to each their own.

sakalisis:
At age 35

Chia

A christian is a person dat is consecrated n committed to Christ teaching n HIS practices someone who is HIS alter ego,someone will follows Christ in everytin without adding or subtraction, everytin of his is based on Christ teaching n Christ life,dat is a Christlike in all.

eph12:
Who is a christian?

As soon as she hv learn hw to control d "other room" and chop d cucumber very well...den she should get married!!

ladyF:
We are here contemplating whether teenagers should be dating, but our Northern leaders are marrying girls that haven't even started growing boobs yet. Issorai....

It's [size=15pt]LadyF[/size] again

LadyF, I want to see your face. I demand a visual

at age 35 after spending 10yrs waiting for a "good Christian brother" who is wealthy, handsome, tall, fair and can pray and sing good. And another five yrs in a prayer house, praying for "any brother at all" hmmm darrizit!!

Genesis 2:24. A MAN shall leave.......and cleave to his WIFE..............
and not a BOY shall leave.........and cleave to his GIRL

A MAN-should be mentally, spiritually (can provide spiritual leadership for the wife and children) and financially (can feed his family) matured before getting married. Likewise, he must attain a great degree of MATURITY to know what he wants in marriage before getting engaged or relationship.

Age is not the the main factor, it is maturity and purpose.

Normally as I think. Christians wouldn't allow their children to go into any relationship until after they must have completed their higher institution but children are also wise all they will do is to keep their boyfriend till when its time. That's if there is no error of big stomach o.

My opinion ......weneva she is ready
Lemme explain dat
Weneav she is ready simply means, she is now mature in her tinking,and views of life .
She is now ready to live wit one man for d rest of her life.
She is now ready to build a home
She is now more patient, understanding, willing to support her partner .

It's a great day 2day guys. It's my birthday men! If you doubt, check d home page
Abeg some likes wouldn't hurt now would they?
Also 4ur info, my phone is exactly are year 2day too. So na double celebration o. We both thank God o

Avoid fornication. Better keep your two legs closed until marriage. It'll save you the stress associated with unwanted pregnancy, STDs, etc.

WHERE IN THE BIBLE DID IT SAY THAT A MAN MUST MARRY ONLY ONE WIFE OR IS IT CHURCH DOGMA ?

Yieldings:

Do you believe in soulmates, by any chance?

Yes I believe in soulmate. No, I don't believe in soul mate by chance, as I also believe that getting/meeting a soulmate is never by accident or chance (God doesn't make mistakes). One must merit a soulmate (When don't value what we don't work for).
The problem is alot of people don't really know what they should look out for, what they should NEED in the opposite sex/relationship before venturing into marriage, therefore they go for the temporal WANT, things that's not inbuilt in a person. Go for the Unseen-value that really matters and last forever even when love might be fading away.
Love can never be enough, but God,Character, Attitude, Tolerance and Selfless-care?... If you can tolerate Him/Her, then that's "my" definition of a Perfect Partner...
Let me not bore you Madam/Miss before a youngeee student like me start acting/forming like ama genius which ayam not.

Met and fell deeply in love with a very very beautiful Christian girl, an Angel of high moral standards and upbringing.
She is already 24yrs and doesn't think it's time to get married.
For her, I must wait 3more years till she finishes her studies before she could consider marriage. She told me this afternoon that if I am in a hurry I can go for a contract marriage and have the kids I so much wanted.
In view of this, I think the right time to marry depends so much on the individual.

You didn't bore me. You're very smart and I like all you've written. I also believe in soulmates. I don't believe in soulmates by chance either, though encountering/meeting him/her can be difficult. Many people marry the wrong person these days due to impatience.

The only thing I'll disagree with is your saying, "If you can tolerate Him/Her, then that's "my" definition of a Perfect Partner...". Many tolerate abuse, cheating or other forms of disrespectul behaviour in their r/ships. I wouldn't consider r/ships like these perfect. There's a difference between compromising on certain things but other things should be a no-no.

Olasco93:

Yes I believe in soulmate. No, I don't believe in soul mate by chance, a[b]s I also believe that getting/meeting a soulmate is never by accident or chance (God doesn't make mistakes).[/b] One must merit a soulmate (When don't value what we don't work for).
The problem is alot of people don't really know what they should look out for, what they should NEED in the opposite sex/relationship before venturing into marriage, therefore they go for the temporal WANT, things that's not inbuilt in a person. Go for the Unseen-value that really matters and last forever even when love might be fading away.
Love can never be enough, but God,Character, Attitude, Tolerance and Selfless-care?... If you can tolerate Him/Her, then that's "my" definition of a Perfect Partner...
Let me not bore you Madam/Miss before a youngeee student like me start acting/forming like ama genius which ayam not.

AnalyticEngine:


LadyF, I want to see your face. I demand a visual

Chai... you wan see my ugly face...


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Davedoz:
Relationship They should focus on adding value to their lives. Excelling in academics, or skill acquisition, grow in the knowledge of God's Word, learn good manners, learn to hear from God, learn to just be better. That's what they should focus on. ADDING VALUE!!

Yes they're allowed to have a male FRIEND/FRIENDS (not a "relationship boyfriend". In fact, if I'm a father of a teenager, her male friends are allowed to come home and visit her. But it's all about guiding them and subtly influencing their decisions. Because whether you like it or not, the teenage period is filled with hormones, they wanna try things and explore. So you have to be there to teach the proper precepts, and not to control their every move and life. But when you have a teenager and you wanna be overprotective, then be prepared to raise a wonderful liar!


In conclusion, a teenage lady should focus on adding value to her life. And she is allowed to have male friends. But she should be properly guided not harshly but with understanding and love. If you successfully do this, when she is 18 and above and out of your sight (maybe in the university or wherever), she will have learnt and imbibed the right precepts on how to live independently and make right relationship and life decisions.

What you allow, may become a strong hold.

Many of us didn't do some things because we knew it will not be tolerated in our home.

You want your daughter to bring her male friend to your house?.. The devil is liar. That can means approval as far as they are concerned. Or you think you can monitor them? Sorry, they are going to have lots sex right under your nose... If issues of sex and chastity is taken seriously by you, you'll have to be circumspect with such decision.

Yes, you'll teach them to understand. That's not enough, as not all those who do wrong do so because they were not taught.

profolaolu:
Let me correct d impression DREE IS NO DATING IN CHRISTIANDOM IT IS CALLED COURTSHIP and d age is largely d decision of both (male and female) parents n den dree spiritual leaders, 1ce dree parent(s) is nt involve or in support,dey r into forbidden relationship,GOD has given dat decision to d parents

What's the essence of courtship. To know the person or to prepare for wedding?

Are you not supposed to know the person before then?

ladyF:


Chai... you wan see my ugly face...


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U can't be ugly now...except if u share consanguineous ties with the monster on your display pix

From your mothers womb.

Yieldings:
You didn't bore me. You're very smart and I like all you've written. I also believe in soulmates. I don't believe in soulmates by chance either, though encountering/meeting him/her can be difficult. Many people marry the wrong person these days due to impatience.

The only thing I'll disagree with is your saying, "If you can tolerate Him/Her, then that's "my" definition of a Perfect Partner...". Many tolerate abuse, cheating or other forms of disrespectul behaviour in their r/ships. I wouldn't consider r/ships like these perfect. There's a difference between compromising on certain things but other things should be a no-no.

You're extremely Intelligent as well to have noticed it, and you're right. At the Bolded, there is an exception to it, that was why I included the Triple-dot (...)

Maturity plays a very important role here, she can get married whenever she is matured spiritually, financially, socially and otherwise. Note: your age doesn't determine your level of maturity, but it is a factor. Mariage is not for a boy and girl, but it is for matured people.

When they feel they are matured enough and when they have all it takes to be together for a long time cos the Bible says God hates divorce.

Courtship is for just for frndship n planning for marriage n making decisions like where to live,career talk,eduacational n spiritual level,how many children n hw d marriage should look like,marriage is for innocent man n woman,so let God choose for U

ndcide:


What's the essence of courtship. To know the person or to prepare for wedding?

Are you not supposed to know the person before then?

geraldgiz:
In recent times ,i discovered in my conversations with female Christian Minors that most female teens go into relationships at a very tender age like 14,15,16 &17. So ,i want to know if there is any bibilical stipulated time for Christians women to go into relationships or is it just the trending thing now, maybe because they have attained puberty or biological maturity,hence they can do whatever they want even while being Christians.

I believe what the bible says in Ecclesiastes that there is time for everything on earth and also in Songs of Solomon where it says that"love should not be instigated before it's time".

On this i can say is not right for female Christian teens of the ages above to go into relationships and also God designed us to marry one Person as Christians and not go into multiple relationships in search of husband or Wife to be.

What is your say on this pls?

FOR WOMEN BIBLICALLY, IT IS 14, FOR THE MEN IF YOU ARE REDY TO TAKE A WIFE IF U CANNOT STAY ALONE.

Why are you so concerned about what teenaged girls are up to? I swear, some Nigerians' obsessions about controlling every aspect of a girl's/woman's life is mind boggling.

profolaolu:
Courtship is for just for frndship n planning for marriage n making decisions like where to live,career talk,eduacational n spiritual level,how many children n hw d marriage should look like,marriage is for innocent man n woman,so let God choose for U

Doesn't that seem ad-hoc to you? After some kind of conviction, of which 80% is emotional you set aside some months claiming to know the person?

Humm

no it isn't if U allow GOD to be d begining d middle n d end

ndcide:


Doesn't that seem ad-hoc to you? After some kind of conviction, of which 80% is emotional you set aside some months claiming to know the person?

Humm

iRepNaija1:
Why are you so concerned about what teenaged girls are up to? I swear, some Nigerians' obsessions about controlling every aspect of a girl's/woman's life is mind boggling.

My thought as well. He talks about teenage girls but nothing about teenage boys. Teenage boys are not exempt from advise, are they? The way most guys come out and try to control women's thoughts and actions is incredible. I think is boils down to their obsession with women and their inability to be content with one woman. Most posts and comments on nairaland are similar; men telling women how and how not to behave. To these men, i will say; go out, find one wife, marry her, and The End. Stop worrying about what the rest of the other women, who do not belong to you, are doing.

profolaolu:
no it isn't if U allow GOD to be d begining d middle n d end

ok na,

tomorrow another preacher will tell us, It is you that should go and find the wife. Anyway.. no problem