a guy meet a lady in church and they became fast friends therafter they got deeply into a relationship, the friends of the girl in church went gossiping in the church and the pastor heard about it, although not angry over it, tried to know what was the centre of their relationship and was told that they are friends and they have not proposed to each other which was a lie and they ve proposed.
at this time the girl has not known what the guy does for the living, but when she finally knew,she was not actually happy that she would had wished the guy was a banker / oil worker, as a woman she pressurized the guy to change his job,the guy did and it was not easy, cos they had hard time together.although till date the girl is still not satisfied with the guy's job even if he now had a better job,but need to grow in the rank and file of the organisation,she is proposing the guy to leave.
be that has it may, she has been a lot of inspiration to him,by making him aspire high and she had a lot of contacts,which the guy has use to gain a lot of favour, for which the guy is believing she had some afinity with some of these dudes,but not all.
apart from that,she is not too healthy and a bad cook in african dishes, except the wish wash kind of food or eatry and, career inclined chick,who anything outside her job is secondary,infact this guy is quite doubtful if he can actually marry this girl and be happy, even though he very much know that this girl has been of immense help to him and that her family except her father know him . CAN HE STILL BREAK AWAY? Moreso, she is from the riverine and the guy is from the former midwest and the guy parents has called that he should nt marry outside his place of origin. he does not know how to two time and come to think of it, his class is high that he cant actually see a class of his status in his town without she been involve with someone else
he hardly travel home, does not mingle with people of his place, not purposely but he hardly come across them,how is he to get a wife from home, is he not ungreatful to say goodbye to her,. they hv been dating for 8months no sex, even when they are sure of their status, she has unneccesarily use excuse to delay the action. is this guy not in bondage. although she is not sleeping arround that the guy is sure, infact,the story is long to tell PLS HELP ME i hope you can figure out some esoteric expression in this guy, he his confused. advice his soul not to be puzzled on what to do. pls do not be mitigative ,say it as it is to you, especially the married folks

Im not for people who are users and abusers. Did he not realise in month 1 that she wasnt the one for him or did his folks not tell him before that he should marry from his tribe? If he breaks up with her I hope she uses her connections to put him back where he started i.e his low class job. Useless goon.

And how old is this guy that his parents should even decide the tribe he should marry from and to make matters worse they only specified just one.

Confusion? Lols theres no confusion man.

First, when you guys were friend, ya intentions was only to get laid? like she was no marriage material?
When you found out you were not gan get laid without being in a supposed relationship with her you then got hooked right? Still you dint get laid!. Hmmmn

You've lost interest.

Either as a result of not getting laid or you have friends/family giving you reasons why you guys cant make a happy home.

My advice:

If you dont love her, break up but dont rush man. Easy! Tell her but it should be on her terms.

You shouldnt have gone this far man. Yous just a golddigger/sharp man. Try sugar mummies

You dont know what you got till its gone. Dem gurl just needs a responsible man. Pities for her, she with the wrong man.

there is definately confusion everywhere

1st im confused
the poster is confused
the guy in question is confused
and the lady in question is confusing the guy in his life
and lastly everyone in nairaland seem confused

there is confusion everywhere

Whats confusing here is your grammer

Follow your mind .