| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by missjo(f): 11:23pm On Dec 15, 2016 |
sisisioge:
Sweetie, why did u assume "mine" there meant my family? I actually meant my children. Me and the kids...no be him born my siblings and parents nau  Ohh. You people confuse me a lot here  I thought the kids are for both of you, not you alone (mine). 1 Like |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by bukatyne(f): 1:35am On Dec 16, 2016 |
What I want from MINE husband 1. Genuine love 2. Genuine love 3. Genuine love 4. Genuine love 5. Genuine love  |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by bellong: 1:46am On Dec 16, 2016 |
bukatyne:
What I[b] get daily[/b] from MINE husband
1. Genuine love
2. Genuine love
3. Genuine love
4. Genuine love
5. Genuine love
Fixed |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by sisisioge: 3:04am On Dec 16, 2016 |
missjo:
Ohh. You people confuse me a lot here
I thought the kids are for both of you, not you alone (mine). Boyalomo! They are really for as long as the man is happy being her husband, it doesn't take much for that status to change. It's almost not strange in marriages to see unattended wife and children...he just might develop selective memory about paternity. The woman on the other hand almost never forgets the kids are hers. 1 Like |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:11am On Dec 16, 2016 |
It is interesting no one mentioned wealthy and successful outright. Or that they expect thier husbands to help with the housechores. Or that they want thier husbands to give them time alone with the TV sometimes Or that they woukd like him to listsn to their conversation instead of brushing them off. Or that the husbands should do a little romancing before sex. Or that the husband should not leave them alone with the kids all the time. They are his kids too. Or that the husband should be pleased with whatevermeal they prepare and not insist on a fresh meal when he gets home. Or that the husband should allow them privacy with thier phones when they are facebooking r whatsapping Or that the husband should be patient with them and liaten when they are pasaing thier message across. Or that the husbands should let them win an argument / have the last word in an argument. Or that the husband should never ever hit them(no one mentioned this!? ) Or that the husband should take them out once in a while, not just only on thier birthday or anniversary (even that one sef, some men no dey do!) Or that the husband should appreciate them when they spend hours making up and dressing in those killer high heels to too beautiful for them Or that the husband should appreciate them when they come home with a new hairdo. Or that the husband should allow them progress in their educational careers Etc These are common complaints by women I have come across. However, they hardly pass this message directly to thier husbands. They want all these things (and more I am sure) but when it comes to communicating it, for some reason thet are unable to, however they nag and vex when such things are not done! See na, I give una chance oh, una dey give telemundo list 3 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:12am On Dec 16, 2016 |
Small time now, they will say all i mentioned above is in their list, make we come dey search for am |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:16am On Dec 16, 2016 |
Mimzyy:
This is what i want from my man:
* A listening ear: Don't increase the volume of the TV when i am having a discussion with you. Let me know that you are paying attention to me.
* Be honest with me: Tell me things exactly the way they are, do not tell me what you feel i want to her. Don't try to sugar-coat the truth no matter how bitter it is.
* Understanding: If you do not understand me, then, who else will. You need to understand my mood swings, everything. You should be able to tell why i do the things i do.
* Loyalty: I know that i am not the most beautiful girl in the world, i can be a mess to handle at times. I might not give you sex when you want it 'cos of the "i am tired" flimsy excuse but please, stay loyal to me. You saw that beautiful,yellow, flawless skinned chick with a big,round ass before you decided to settle for a chocolate diva, you knew there was (still is) something unique about me. So, whenever you are tempted to be unfaithful, remember that thing!
* Be Financially Independent: I will not saddle you with responsibilities but please, be hardworking and success oriented.
* Be Caring/Romantic: Why do you want to stop doing all the things you used to do before i agreed to date/marry you? We need to keep the spark alive please. Don't stop. You do not have to break a bank and it doesn't have to always be monetary. A one minute phone call to me just to tell me you love me will leave me shinning my teeth like i am a close-up ambassador for the rest of the day. 
*Be Compassionate: You need to have human feelings. Be kind and help people as much as you can.
cc: 5minsmadness
Nice list. Very concise and self explanatory Communication is veey important in a relationship and you have done very well. Financially independent though... For the guy? What does that mean? That you will take care of the family but he shouldn't place his financial responsibilities on you? Hehehe |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:18am On Dec 16, 2016 |
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| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:19am On Dec 16, 2016 |
sisisioge:
- Love and respect me
- Be fair in your dealings with me
- Have my back as I yours.
- Take care of me and mine
-Biko don't cheat on me...if you aren't cool with what you are getting from me pls talk to me. He doesnt need to be wealthy or successful? That's not important? 2 Likes |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:20am On Dec 16, 2016 |
Arijude:
There are two macro element of any Nigerian girl, namely: (1) Money, that is in surplus.
(2) Big fat dick: they need it but they won't tell you because they are too pretentious. |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:24am On Dec 16, 2016 |
cococandy:
1) faithfulness
2) respect
3) support (financial, emotional, physical etc. the whole being a partner thing fits in here)
4) conjugal obligations. We understand if he's not in the mood once in a while. Always is a no-no.
5) respect and care about our family members too. 3 is quite vague. Emotional support how? Nothing about helping you carry baby for an hour or two? 4. If he's not in the mood? When are men never in the mood? Anyway, I trust u. If he steps out of line even once you will divorce him 1 Like |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:25am On Dec 16, 2016 |
percival:
Things Nigerian Wives Expect From Their Husbands
1. To be a servile retard_ who puts up with their every excesses, ranging from feminism to incessant nagging e.tc etc.
2. A fat bank account.
3. He must be a virgin, but must have excellent skills in sexual matters.
3. He must be tall, super handsome with six packs and pink lips, even though they are anything but beautiful.
4. He shouldn't take offence as regards her flirting freely with random dudes, but should automatically transform into a faggot_ immediately he steps outta the house.
5. He must be an embodiment of kindness, honesty, compassion, docile humility and gentleness.
6. On no account should he raise his hand to strike them, despite the fact that they launched the first blow, or provoked him to the limit of human endurance.
6. Sweeping the house, doing the utensils, bathing the kids, preparing the meals are the basic responsibilities of a husband. Without objection. Unless he's no real man.
7. Staying away from sex under punishment (reason not taken into consideration) from madam should come easy to him. But must always be ready to rise to the party whenever wifey beckons.
And more... Even though there is some level of sarcasm in this post, I think it is quite realistic and a dream of many nigerian women. |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:26am On Dec 16, 2016 |
uzobaby:
Be faithful
2.Be hardworking /responsible
3.Be Romantic
4. Don't stifle me
5. Be playful ,fun to be with  |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:28am On Dec 16, 2016 |
sisisioge:
Sweetie, why did u assume "mine" there meant my family? I actually meant my children. Me and the kids...no be him born my siblings and parents nau There's actually nothing wrong in him looking out for your family. This is Africa and nigeria to be more specific a Nigerian woman's list/expectations. Dont let misjo browbeat you  |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 6:29am On Dec 16, 2016 |
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| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by sisisioge: 7:07am On Dec 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness:
There's actually nothing wrong in him looking out for your family. This is Africa and nigeria to be more specific a Nigerian woman's list/expectations. Dont let misjo browbeat you Well, I don't expect him to. If he wants to cover some tabs here and there , no probs. But I don't still expect him to. |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by sisisioge: 7:09am On Dec 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness:
He doesnt need to be wealthy or successful? That's not important? If he's able to take care of me and mine...then he's just capable enough. The wealth and co are added advantage. |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by cococandy(f): 7:35am On Dec 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness:
Anyway, I trust u. If he steps out of line even once you will divorce him Yup. Same way I trust you to be a wife-beating womanizing and disrespectful husband when your time comes. |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by Mimzyy(f): 7:37am On Dec 16, 2016 |
It means that he should enough money of his own to take care of the family. I'll not saddle him with responsibilities that are not of our nuclear family and I'll also assist him with the family responsibilities if need be. The list you made, any sane man will not hit a woman. 5minsmadness:
Nice list. Very concise and self explanatory Communication is veey important in a relationship and you have done very well.
Financially independent though... For the guy? What does that mean? That you will take care of the family but he shouldn't place his financial responsibilities on you? Hehehe |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 8:11am On Dec 16, 2016 |
cococandy:
Yup. Same way I trust you to be a wife-beating womanizing and disrespectful husband when your time comes. |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by bukatyne(f): 9:33am On Dec 16, 2016 |
bellong:
Fixed Thank you joor... I was trying to flow with the thread on what we want |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by bukatyne(f): 9:37am On Dec 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness:
You have said nothing
Bellong codes and even helped me edit  You see, when a husband genuinely loves his wife, he doesn't need to be told to be faithful, loyal, caring and whatever else catches your fancy. Even God gave us only two commandments... 1. Love Him 2. Love your neighbor. My husband's genuine love is all I ever wanted and gotten so I am the richest woman in the world. 1 Like |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 9:54am On Dec 16, 2016 |
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| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by bukatyne(f): 10:15am On Dec 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness:
Rolls eyes, exasperated
Telemundo  God forbid Telemundo... Why do people think a love triangle et al is romantic  |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by megareal: 10:25am On Dec 16, 2016 |
1. Brains. From being well informed and educated to having little knowledge about almost everything. That way you can hold conversations, solve family problems succeed in business and still be astute enough to decode me . 2. Care. Spiritual, emotional, physical etc. Care enough to listen to me and really comprehend. Care enough to tell me thank you for all the liitle things that make your house a home. Care enough to take me out, dote on me and generally make my life happier than before I married you.. 3. Fidelity and respect. I don't subscribe to that boys will be boys mantra. You married me, let me satisfy you. No side chicks, side games etc. Respect my views, person , opinions etc. Just as I treat you with respect, reciprocate. 4. Defence Headquaters. Let me have enough confidence in you to know that even if the heavens roar, you can fight for me. That way, I'm shielded from your family, mad friends and all contrary human specimen. I wont go looking for trouble cos I want you to live long, but if it comes as they normally do, be ready to do your darndnest. Also be a spiritual defence headquarters to me too, dnt leave all the prayers to me. 5. Understanding. Understand they are times I wnt feel like s,,,ex, wont feel like washing, cleaning or even being a wife sef. Biko leave me be, na hormones cos am. If you can help, thank you, if you can't, dnt complain, I'm not a househelp. I won't always be 100% at all times, when you see the demon in me come out, let me be. I don tire sef 4 Likes |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by Nobody: 11:13am On Dec 16, 2016 |
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| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by LoveDecay(m): 11:39am On Dec 16, 2016 |
megareal:
1. Brains. From being well informed and educated to having little knowledge about almost everything. That way you can hold conversations, solve family problems succeed in business and still be astute enough to decode me .
2. Care. Spiritual, emotional, physical etc. Care enough to listen to me and really comprehend. Care enough to tell me thank you for all the liitle things that make your house a home. Care enough to take me out, dote on me and generally make my life happier than before I married you..
3. Fidelity and respect. I don't subscribe to that boys will be boys mantra. You married me, let me satisfy you. No side chicks, side games etc. Respect my views, person , opinions etc. Just as I treat you with respect, reciprocate.
4. Defence Headquaters. Let me have enough confidence in you to know that even if the heavens roar, you can fight for me. That way, I'm shielded from your family, mad friends and all contrary human specimen. I wont go looking for trouble cos I want you to live long, but if it comes as they normally do, be ready to do your darndnest. Also be a spiritual defence headquarters to me too, dnt leave all the prayers to me.
5. Understanding. Understand they are times I wnt feel like s,,,ex, wont feel like washing, cleaning or even being a wife sef. Biko leave me be, na hormones cos am. If you can help, thank you, if you can't, dnt complain, I'm not a househelp. I won't always be 100% at all times, when you see the demon in me come out, let me be.
I don tire sef
 Your reward for been such a good wife  |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 12:33pm On Dec 16, 2016 |
merahki:
Hello
Mine has to be very successful, and wealthy, and more (covers face)
However this need of mine is not because I am a leech.... but deeply stems from the fact that I need the man to be "God" in my relationship (no blasphemy intended)
That God of mine has to be superior to me -riches, knowledge, experience, power, age, wisdom, you name it, a mix of father and lover who is very indulgent of my wildness, my excesses, my "unrealistic" expectations about life . As such, I would be most intolerant of a bad lover, of a man I know more stuff than, of a man that is not a total provider. He lets me have puleeenty money to play with, even though I am a professional who earns money too. Having me "bring to the table" will kill my respect for him. He has to know things ...at the same time, I dont want a Googler, if you know what I mean. He is beautiful to look at, does healthy living without much puffing, huffing and preening (if obvious, he would turn me off). He definitely is not a calorie counter, and not vegetarian. He is a drinker but not a drunk....not an alcoholic.
Of course I do not expect him to do chores..not because he should not, but because my fantasy would be crushed seeing my man getting into all the equality movement about house chores. Sometimes would be nice...the way I can get up and get him treats sometimes too....not all the time. He would indulge my love for my family, he would simultaneously be mildlly obssesive and aloof at the same time.....he is not clownish about religion, that is, it would be most hard for me to fall for the "saved and vocal about it" type....if he identifies as Christian it is cos that was how he was raised.....but he is also broad -minded enough to know that it is something to be really quiet about and if pushed, mildly ashamed of (the fact that we have no philosophy of our own)....but, he is not an atheist, have to say this.
There is no man like this is there? . I am now closer to 40 than 30....jeez, and obviously single....
I believe my flights of fancy are too much for being a wife....I have tried many times but I am more comfortable with males as friends and relatives.....this way, they can be flawed and I would still love them....with a significant other, they have to be infallible demi-gods. The men in my life love me, but all consider me "too foreign" (suspect they are being kind here)
It is no wonder I am single, but I have met two people who came close (will share one) - one was "it" until I drove with him from my city to the capital city in a car and trip that had it all....until I smelt it, never heard it....in a closed car with AC and soft music, this smell came and killed off all the romance in me. No words, just the shock on my part, and I dunno, the entitlement? on his part...considering he did not wind down or say sorry. I was grateful he did not though, weirdly so, acknowledging it would have been too much for me to handle then. I jes sucked it in.....while love was sucked right outta of me. Afterwards I never could keep that outta my head. SMH, at me.
Well, fart smell in a car....I did not do it, and there were only two people there, so no brainer who did it. Gods do not fart like that! They do shaa...I know, butti.....
Well, this is why I am comfortable being single....there has to be the "God" ...if not, I am totally fine.
I think I am a terrific relative , friend, girlfriend/lover, and ironically a person people want their advice a lot on relationship issues...I dunno why.....I have a suspicion that as a wife? The typical one who is earth mother and all that? I am not it . But it is okay too. Maybe one day would find that man who wants to just pamper me to pieces as a companion who lights up his life....he is not looking for the conventional wife and mother to his kids, he ideally does not even want kids, or can just consider one....that would be me.
(Shrugs)
This could be why NL gender wars fly over my head...I know I might be atypical in my wants and desires...I side with the different stories based on how they touch my heart. But I despise unkindness, desperation and manipulation of any kind...so my guilty party is almost invariably the person who has these.
(Hope I have answered your question?....this is my truth..well, there is more, but that should be for when I write my memoir! Excuse this already too long post)
Cheers
Wow!  This was awesome! |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by Nobody: 1:22pm On Dec 16, 2016 |
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| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by sisisioge: 5:51pm On Dec 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness:
It is interesting no one mentioned wealthy and successful outright.
Or that they expect thier husbands to help with the housechores.
Or that they want thier husbands to give them time alone with the TV sometimes
Or that they woukd like him to listsn to their conversation instead of brushing them off.
Or that the husbands should do a little romancing before sex.
Or that the husband should not leave them alone with the kids all the time. They are his kids too.
Or that the husband should be pleased with whatevermeal they prepare and not insist on a fresh meal when he gets home.
Or that the husband should allow them privacy with thier phones when they are facebooking r whatsapping
Or that the husband should be patient with them and liaten when they are pasaing thier message across.
Or that the husbands should let them win an argument / have the last word in an argument.
Or that the husband should never ever hit them(no one mentioned this!? )
Or that the husband should take them out once in a while, not just only on thier birthday or anniversary (even that one sef, some men no dey do!)
Or that the husband should appreciate them when they spend hours making up and dressing in those killer high heels to too beautiful for them
Or that the husband should appreciate them when they come home with a new hairdo.
Or that the husband should allow them progress in their educational careers
Etc
These are common complaints by women I have come across. However, they hardly pass this message directly to thier husbands. They want all these things (and more I am sure) but when it comes to communicating it, for some reason thet are unable to, however they nag and vex when such things are not done!
See na, I give una chance oh, una dey give telemundo list You, just like the rest of your male folks never listen. pls did you read anything written here at all? She said she wants him to be fair with in dealings with her. If he's fair, he would not leave her alone to do all the chores, take care of the Kids, care for him and herself and still expect a cooperative woman. Capability, love, respect...etc... How do you translate these? Listen dude...listen. |
| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by sisisioge: 5:52pm On Dec 16, 2016 |
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| Re: Name 5 Things Nigerian Wives Want And Expect From their Husbands by 5minsmadness: 8:13am On Dec 17, 2016 |
sisisioge:
You, just like the rest of your male folks never listen. pls did you read anything written here at all?
She said she wants him to be fair with in dealings with her. If he's fair, he would not leave her alone to do all the chores, take care of the Kids, care for him and herself and still expect a cooperative woman. Capability, love, respect...etc... How do you translate these? Listen dude...listen. @bold, Exactly! Which is why i said this earlier 5minsmadness:
Small time now, they will say all i mentioned above is in their list, make we come dey search for am I, like the rest of my male folk, dont listen to vague sentences and we are bad at interpretation. It is a male thing. We are more into direct statements! So instead of beating round the bush Hit the nail on the head and we will do it! Don't leave us lost in translation. [size=4pt]one yeye male will come now and suppoet your statement so you girls can coo over him, meanwhile in reality he cant figure it out either . I dey watch am [/size] |
