Friday, 16 December 2016
It's been 3 years since my sister Chimma Okoye left in peace


The pains of 15th December 2013 has lived among us and has refused to go away with time.

Growing up as a timid, introverted, last child of a family of 6, my bestfriend and bodyguard was my sister, Mma. She took me to any place she went: errands, church, catechism, name it - she even took me to my mission school every morning before heading to the public school where she attended. I vividly remember her telling me to reserve "small" okpa for her. Lol. You see, I was the last child so I enjoyed the privilege of attending nursery and early primary school with snacks my mother would put in my tiny food flask which turns out to be okpa in most cases. My sister used to get all these privileges before I was born and she was no longer the last child. Lol.

My sister kept me away from danger. There were assorted instances where she literally took pains for me. Enraged by the way she stood against having me punished, someone stabbed Chimma in her tender teenage palm. The year was 06, there was blood and I know it wasn't so deep but I never got to say thank you, Mma m.

Chimma died of cancer in December 2013. She was 27 and was about landing her Law degree. Let's not get into details, I would just say she went through a lot of pain. Months before her departure, the pains were so much that I asked the Almighty to place me on that sick bed and let her walk home.

I can recall that August 2013 morning I told her I was leaving her bedside for an errand. "Sommy, I want to follow you" was what she told me. I never replied. Instead I left immediately, found a lonely corner in the hospital and cried my heart out for an hour or so.

Here was my sister who wouldn't go anywhere without me in my tender, naive years, begging to tag along with me just for an hour and I couldn't grant her request. By now, she lost motion in her limbs to sickness and could barely move her hands let alone walk. I shrugged, picked myself up after weeping and left for my destination.

14th December 2013, she told me pains were too much. Her voice was shaking and I could barely hear her. This time, we talked on phone because I returned to school and my brother Chibu and mum were now looking after her in hospital..

On 15th December 2013, I received a call from dad. He told me that Chimma Okoye has slept in peace.

I couldn't mutter a response, couldn't cry or talk to anyone. I was not shaken. I've seen worse and had been more heartbroken when she was suffering.

I was only angry. I got angry to everything and everyone including myself: How could she stay to take all this pain and still leave us? And to God I asked, "how could you take her when I asked you to take me?"

Continue resting in peace Mma.

Note: Somtoo Okoye is the executive bus conductor at Somtoo Okoye blog (www.somtoo.com)


Source: http://www.somtoo.com/2016/12/its-been-3-years-since-my-sister-chimma.html
lalasticlala

Sorry for ur loss. Lost a dear sister also few years a go. It was so painful. Everytime I remember her, tears flow down freely from my eye.

Such a beauty!
Death is wicked o!
May her soul continue to rest in peace.

May God give the family and her loved ones the fortitude to bear the loss.

What a beauty! Sorry for your loss, may Jehovah comfort you.

eyaaaa...R.I.P beauty

sorry for ur loss

She has gone to a better place... If you are a Christian then keep the hope alive that you guys will "jam body" on the resurrection morning..Me too I got the hope that i might meet my loved ones on that beautiful Easter morning the bible talked about..It might happen who knows...it is better to hope than nothing.....it will be cool Ok. just wipe your tears.....

Rest in peace mma.

i'm sorry for your loss. may Chioma's soul continue to rest in peace.

She was really pretty
RIP

Viking007:
Hmm.

So sorry bro

It is well

May God continue to rest her well... So sorry about you loss.

RIP chidinma

dis is scary...

too bad but your consolation should be where ever she is (hopefully ) there is no more pain.

scary because she is bearing my name.

lalasticlala, seun

lost ma sis in 2010...wish i could thread her place...y am i dying to live?

I understand that feeling of losing a loved one. Sorry

My the the resurrection hope sustains you and tour loved ones.

Amen. Thanks you all for all your prayers.

I would love if you moved the topic to fp lalasticlala