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I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by RennyX: 2:02pm On Dec 28, 2016
Good day Nairalanders. A very depressed soul needs your advise to make an important decision. This is going to be a long post, i apologize for the stress. Bear with me.

I have been with my girlfriend for close to a year now. Everything was good at the beginning as usual with our little fights here and there. I have my own fault as i tend to flare up easily and she does has hers too. She's usually very rude and she shouts a lot even when we are having a little misunderstanding in public. We both agreed we were going to work on these flaws to make everything go smooth and i tell you I've always tried my best in that aspect.

But recently my girlfriend has been acting funny. She doesn't call frequently and she prefers to chat most times. Although this is an issue that i encountered at the early stages of our relationship because she said that's how she is so i tried my best to cope with it even though i wasn't sitting well with it. However, things have changed drastically to the extent that she doesn't even call at all or check up on me on social media.

There was a time i called her like five times(I usually call only twice and if you're not picking i chill and wait for a call back), because i wanted her to pick up but she didn't. Instead she sent me a "hi" message on whatsapp without an explanation for why she didn't pick my call.

Also, she doesn't pay attention to me when we are in a conversation. She fixes her interest on other things like her phone, the television or just staring at the ceiling like I'm a bore to her.

So all these made me to think deep and ask what may have been wrong. I wanted to conclude that she was getting tired of the relationship but I said let me ask her first maybe it was my fault. I know that sometimes I can be controlling and authoritative but it's not my fault sometimes because she does anyhow when left to do her things alone. It's like she wants me to always tell her what to do. But when i do, it's a problem.

So when I asked her she told me everything that she was not tired but I was putting pressure on her. I promised to stop pressurising her and I also asked her to change from her behaviour and become who she once was and we agreed.

Last week, on a Wednesday morning I woke up to her message on whatsapp and I replied without getting any reply till like 12 so I decided to call her. She told me that she was eating and she would call me when she was done. After an hour she hadn't called and i called again and she told me that she was sorry that she was watching a movie.

I got angry and complained to her, but instead she was rude (as she usually is) and started raising her voice. She said what had happened is in the past and she cannot do anything about it then she hung up.

I'm fed up. I don't know if there's any other guy although I've noticed some shady behaviors of hers but they aren't concrete enough. This is not the kind of relationship i want because it's obvious that we are on a different perspective. I don't bug my girl or attach myself to her, but I also feel that the right things should be done in the right measure.

It's been a week now and she hasn't called or sent a message even on Christmas Day. I want to call her now and break up, but I'm confused cos I still lover her. She has her good side which is rare in most girls.

Sorry for the long post once again. Please help with your contributions.

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by 2SWT(f): 2:03pm On Dec 28, 2016
Just sit her down and talk to her. Tell her how you feel if she really loves you she would change.

Let her know that she's making the relationship hell for you and you are thinking of leaving her

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by Nobody: 2:06pm On Dec 28, 2016
cheesy


Werris dingbang? grin

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by LecciGucci: 2:08pm On Dec 28, 2016
Ok. I dey come

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by daewoorazer(m): 2:09pm On Dec 28, 2016
Haaaaa... What's important in her replying you?




I'm sure you are the type that uses high pitched, very special alarm tone to welcome d arrival of gal's chats.


Do u also check ur phone every minute in case she replies?

Did u save her number with such: #ifemi, #mySunInTheclowds, #eyinfunjowo, #earthwormInMySoil etc?











My friend, you are a loverlover











Delete her number so fast and start ignoring her calls and chats. If she feels remorseful, turn her into sidechick, while u lookout for another damsel, else, still find another damsel and FORGET her totally








ZANGA





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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by dingbang(m): 2:11pm On Dec 28, 2016
TrapQueen77:
cheesy


Werris dingbang? grin
loooooool ur gonna pay me 59 dollars to summarize for u kiss

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by queenitee(f): 2:14pm On Dec 28, 2016
Hun hun
Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by RennyX: 2:14pm On Dec 28, 2016
Lalasticlala please help a brother.
Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by obataokenwa(m): 2:19pm On Dec 28, 2016
she too is confused on how to dump you. she don't know how to tell you too. keep dreaming of lost love.

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by ikombe: 2:20pm On Dec 28, 2016
wraps a weed undecided

Takes a smoke


Passes it to trapqueen77

Observes thread undecided

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by Nobody: 2:23pm On Dec 28, 2016
ikombe:
wraps a weed undecided


Takes a smoke



Passes it to trapqueen77


Observes thread undecided


grin

Tnxxx but No weed for me plz...

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by RennyX: 2:23pm On Dec 28, 2016
obataokenwa:
she too is confused on how to dump you. she don't know how to tell you too. keep dreaming of lost love.
I was ready for anything when i asked her if she was tired. I didn't want to be following a lost cause. But she said she was still interested in the relationship.

She's really confused!

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by obataokenwa(m): 2:24pm On Dec 28, 2016
RennyX:

I was ready for anything when i asked her if she was tired. I didn't want to be following a lost cause. But she said she was still interested in the relationship.

She's really confused!
The girl is done with the love. move on

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by RennyX: 2:25pm On Dec 28, 2016
2SWT:
Just sit her down and talk to her. Tell her how you feel if she really loves you she would change.

Let her know that she's making the relationship hell for you and you are thinking of leaving her
Thanks. I've done this lots and lots of times. Sometimes she switches emotions and turns it into an argument and my anger won't let me. Then I'll have to apologize.

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by RennyX: 2:25pm On Dec 28, 2016
obataokenwa:
The girl is done with the love. move on
Thanks bro.

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by Nobody: 2:25pm On Dec 28, 2016
dingbang:
loooooool ur gonna pay me 59 dollars to summarize for u kiss


grin


I dnt have dollars ooo, only pesos cheesy

Oya abeg, summarize it for me na tongue
Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by helper01(m): 2:31pm On Dec 28, 2016
with your observation, it seems the girl is fed up with the relationship hence her lacklustre and inactive reactions and actions, a piece of advice, try and talk sense into her or take a leave and move on.

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by 2SWT(f): 2:33pm On Dec 28, 2016
RennyX:

Thanks. I've done this lots and lots of times. Sometimes she switches emotions and turns it into an argument and my anger won't let me. Then I'll have to apologize.
tell her you love her but her attitude is pushing

you away if she still sees nothing wrong with it, pack

your load and run, she's done with you

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by Everblazinggg(f): 2:34pm On Dec 28, 2016
Boy O boy.....chill. that babe is definitely tired of your childish act. If am her, I would have dump your childish ass since. Go get your self a new girl friend that you can control like mumu or change your ways like you don't care and watch your babe become happier

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by Splinz(m): 2:38pm On Dec 28, 2016
For the fact that you're 'confused' means that your internal policeman is accusing you of wrongdoing.

First settles your conscience by absolving it of all blames and then finally puts your foot down- either you work things out since you still love her, or call it off.

Good luck!

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by RennyX: 2:38pm On Dec 28, 2016
Everblazinggg:
Boy O boy.....chill. that babe is definitely tired of your childish act. If am her, I would have dump your childish ass since. Go get your self a new girl friend that you can control like mumu or change your ways like you don't care and watch your babe become happier
She's more childish than you can ever think. I don't control intentionally. I don't always complain but whenever do it becomes a problem.

Some girls like you just want a guy that you can match on. Not every guy can be like that

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by Usmanzy(m): 2:41pm On Dec 28, 2016
dump her before she dumps u

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by dingbang(m): 2:53pm On Dec 28, 2016
TrapQueen77:



grin


I dnt have dollars ooo, only pesos cheesy

Oya abeg, summarize it for me na tongue

lol d nigga said that his girlfriend doesn't call him in fact she doest even show any regard for the relationship set... I pity him..

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by DavidTheGeek: 3:07pm On Dec 28, 2016
daewoorazer:
Haaaaa... What's important in her replying you?




I'm sure you are the type that uses high pitched, very special alarm tone to welcome d arrival of gal's chats.


Do u also check ur phone every minute in case she replies?

Did u save her number with such: #ifemi, #mySunInTheclowds, #eyinfunjowo, #earthwormInMySoil etc?











My friend, you are a loverlover











Delete her number so fast and start ignoring her calls and chats. If she feels remorseful, turn her into sidechick, while u lookout for another damsel, else, still find another damsel and FORGET her totally








ZANGA





RennyX you might have intentionally skipped this cuz it sounds sarcastic but i tell you, this is good advice.

Your girlfriend isn't scared of losing you hence the misbehavior.

Bring another girl into the picture, let your girlfriend know there's a new girl enjoying your attention and leave jealousy to correct her behavior.

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by Hopefulman: 3:08pm On Dec 28, 2016
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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by MisterLongman(m): 3:09pm On Dec 28, 2016
You two need to move over to the other room, f*ck your brains out and then say goodbye....

There's no need fighting a lost cause

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by MisterLongman(m): 3:15pm On Dec 28, 2016
Everblazinggg:
Boy O boy.....chill. that babe is definitely tired of your childish act. If am her, I would have dump your childish ass since. Go get your self a new girl friend that you can control like mumu or change your ways like you don't care and watch your babe become happier

Ooshey John terry!!!...... Confirm defender!!!

So the girl is mature with her silly attitudes.... Why not just call off the relationship instead of tormenting him.....

I'm suspecting that she's met a new prince charming that is keeping her attention away from the op but still wants to keep op as plan b just incase the new guy is fake, she can always fall back on mr. loverboy op

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by ikombe: 3:59pm On Dec 28, 2016
TrapQueen77:


grin
Tnxxx but No weed for me plz...
Codeine nko
Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by Garshyzee(m): 4:00pm On Dec 28, 2016
My man.. One advice... DO WHAT U THINK IS BEST FOR U... IF U STILL love her.. Try and make it work, that's if she's still interested... If not, b a man and do d needful..
They are lotta good single babes around....
cool

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by Nobody: 4:06pm On Dec 28, 2016
ikombe:
Codeine nko



No syrup either.. Bring the ice instead wink and we can chill for the whole week without slowing down.. grin
Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by princejenks(m): 4:10pm On Dec 28, 2016
send her a lengthy message detailing your feelings and how she's been treating you. Tell her you've tried your best and no longer ready to force things. wish her the very best,don't expect her reply or call and don't ever call her no matter the temptation to do so. if she calls or text after some weeks,give her the silent treatment till she apologizes. if she doesn't,just move on cos she isn't yours;remember if it's yours,it will surely come back to you. i'm typing this from a personal experience,she called four months later begging to be friends again

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Re: I Want To Break Up With Her But I'm Confused. by androsurf: 4:39pm On Dec 28, 2016
RennyX:
Good day Nairalanders. A very depressed soul needs your advise to make an important decision. This is going to be a long post, i apologize for the stress. Bear with me.

I have been with my girlfriend for close to a year now. Everything was good at the beginning as usual with our little fights here and there. I have my own fault as i tend to flare up easily and she does has hers too. She's usually very rude and she shouts a lot even when we are having a little misunderstanding in public. We both agreed we were going to work on these flaws to make everything go smooth and i tell you I've always tried my best in that aspect.

But recently my girlfriend has been acting funny. She doesn't call frequently and she prefers to chat most times. Although this is an issue that i encountered at the early stages of our relationship because she said that's how she is so i tried my best to cope with it even though i wasn't sitting well with it. However, things have changed drastically to the extent that she doesn't even call at all or check up on me on social media.

There was a time i called her like five times(I usually call only twice and if you're not picking i chill and wait for a call back), because i wanted her to pick up but she didn't. Instead she sent me a "hi" message on whatsapp without an explanation for why she didn't pick my call.

Also, she doesn't pay attention to me when we are in a conversation. She fixes her interest on other things like her phone, the television or just staring at the ceiling like I'm a bore to her.

So all these made me to think deep and ask what may have been wrong. I wanted to conclude that she was getting tired of the relationship but I said let me ask her first maybe it was my fault. I know that sometimes I can be controlling and authoritative but it's not my fault sometimes because she does anyhow when left to do her things alone. It's like she wants me to always tell her what to do. But when i do, it's a problem.

So when I asked her she told me everything that she was not tired but I was putting pressure on her. I promised to stop pressurising her and I also asked her to change from her behaviour and become who she once was and we agreed.

Last week, on a Wednesday morning I woke up to her message on whatsapp and I replied without getting any reply till like 12 so I decided to call her. She told me that she was eating and she would call me when she was done. After an hour she hadn't called and i called again and she told me that she was sorry that she was watching a movie.

I got angry and complained to her, but instead she was rude (as she usually is) and started raising her voice. She said what had happened is in the past and she cannot do anything about it then she hung up.

I'm fed up. I don't know if there's any other guy although I've noticed some shady behaviors of hers but they aren't concrete enough. This is not the kind of relationship i want because it's obvious that we are on a different perspective. I don't bug my girl or attach myself to her, but I also feel that the right things should be done in the right measure.

It's been a week now and she hasn't called or sent a message even on Christmas Day. I want to call her now and break up, but I'm confused cos I still lover her. She has her good side which is rare in most girls.

Sorry for the long post once again. Please help with your contributions.

Don't be surprised she's seeing someone else ... my 1 cent

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