A business man, Taiwo Okunola, has approached Ile Tuntun Customary Court, Mapo, Ibadan, Oyo State, seeking the dissolution of his four-year-old marriage to his wife, Serifat Okunola and the custody of their only child.

Taiwo alleged that his wife had usurped his position as head of the home and now gives orders and directs the affairs of their home.

He added that she was always finding fault in all that he did and often times fought him.

“My wife has turned me into an object of pity before my family members and a laughing stock before my friends.

“She has usurped my position as the head of the home and now dictates how the home should be run.

“She has abandoned all the roles expected of a woman in the home and goes out and comes in whenever she likes. She has virtually turned me into a househelp.

“My lord, I sweep the floor, dust the furniture and wash the clothes because my wife is not bothered if the house is clean or not. She’s also used to piling up dirty clothes in the room.

“She has also abandoned her responsibility of cooking for the home. I cook the food and she sits down and eat. Sometimes after eating and licking her hands and the plate, she will complain that the food was not well cooked or delicious.

“Any time we have visitors, she would ask me in their presence to go and prepare food for them, “he told the court.

“We once had a misunderstanding and she sent me out of the house along with our only child who was then two years old.

“She later came back begging and I forgave her and we moved back home.

“It is now a regular thing to beg her before we make love. And when we do, she ensures I don’t enjoy it.

“The last time we fought, she sent me out of the house and threatened to kill me if I ever returned.

“I’m tired of fighting and playing the role of a housemaid.

“Please, separate us and order her to allow me pack my belongings out of her house, “he said.

“My husband is nothing but useless, “the defendant told the court.

“He’s not fit to be called a man.

“He makes so much noise as being the head of the home, but he has shed his responsibility as husband and father.

“I single handedly set up a lucrative business for him as a means of livelihood and has been pumping money into it on a regular basis, but this is yielding nothing because he is not just diligent.

“I also rented an apartment and he moved in with me.

“I pay the rent yearly. He doesn’t know how much the rent is.

“Our marriage has produced just a child who he finds difficult to cater for.

“I feed and clothe my husband and our child. I’m also responsible for our child’s education, the defendant stated.

“I bought a car for the family and registered it in his name as any faithful wife would do. He has been cruising around in this and telling everyone he bought it.

“I recently discovered he had been selling my property in the house without my consent. When I asked him, he denied it.

“He moved out of the house recently after we had a misunderstanding and went away with the car.

“My lord, I’m also ready for divorce. I pray for the custody of our child and want my car returned.”

The court president, Chief Agbaje Olasunkanmi, after listening to the two parties, ordered that the case be adjourned till March 14 and directed that they bring their parents or relatives along.

Both parties came with their relatives on the stated day and the court president asked if any step had been taken on reconciliation.

Both parties insisted on divorce while their relatives also gave their consent.

Olasunkanmi, therefore, ruled that their marriage be dissolved and awarded the custody of the child to the defendant.

The plaintiff was asked to pay N3, 000 monthly as the child’s feeding allowance and take responsibility for his education and health care.

The defendant was ordered to allow the plaintiff pack his belongings from her house.

Speaking on the car, Olasunkanmi explained that the customary court only has jurisdiction on the issue of thei

Hahahahahahaha!! But seriously this is not funny

Oh Lord Pls protect your son from wicked women OO. I can't live with such degradation.

Eeyah

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She done do you medicine

Go to Woli Arole, go and wash your head

I will read when it reaches fp

Eyah,this man don go

God i pray make me a man in my family. Nothing can ridicule a man than when the woman solely cater for the house.

sincerely yours he is not a real man..
His live has been turned upside down.
He needs quick and true deliverance to get back into a normal being ..

Quite sad.

i trust myself.its a pity the dude is handicaped,the woman no try sha abi na big deal to support ur hubby.

He needs to go and find a job and get busy to support himself and his child. No point living a lie.

It's not a big deal for a wife to support her husband and for a man to support his wife. Both just need to understand each other, and be kind towards each other

If and when a woman becomes the bread winner...O boy come see drama and disrespectful

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That is woman for you, they don't have compassion when in power. The was too careless about his life thou

How will she respect you when she pays your bills as a man?.

You brought this upon yourself.

lol this is so funny.

kimbra:
How will she respect you when she pays your bills as a man?.

You brought this upon yourself.

Should a man respect a woman when he pays her bills?

mctowel01:

Should a man respect a woman when he pays her bills?

I was expecting this question. Don't forget your duties as a man. It's never in the woman's place to be your provider.

One was made to provide and protect while the other, a help mate.

mctowel01:

Or rather a subordinate. Thats why men and women cannot be equals. Problem with this argument is that it reveals the hypocritic side of feminists.
Why is it not in the women's place to provide, especially when the chips are down?

Wrong!

Women/wives are not subordinate to men, but God and nature has defined roles to be played. Why should a man marry a woman, live in her house and isn't productive at all and still expect respect? The man may not be a billionaire but he has to provide for his family.

The woman bought car in his name and even fixed business for him... what a shame

mctowel01:

Or rather a subordinate. Thats why men and women cannot be equals. Problem with this argument is that it reveals the hypocritic side of feminists.
Why is it not in the women's place to provide, especially when the chips are down?

Did the woman in question say she was a feminist?Assuming she even is, why is he complaining about sweeping and what not when she's the one bringing in the dough?
He brought her to court, and asked for a divorce. She didn't contest it especially when she realised the man seems to be a destiny destroyer.
I'm yet to see a man who will establish and fund businesses for his wife at least three times, and would still be laughing/smiling with her when she keeps wrecking the businesses. That man must be a saint.

Meanwhile, many women are major providers in their homes and not just when the chips are down. They just don't broadcast it and allow the world assume its the husbands doing the main provision. I expect only married men to refute or confirm this truthfully.

So sad. This is the same house chores a woman is expected to do without complain but now the table has been turned, it is now a housemaid job,seriously! So women doing this kind of work should complain of being a housemaid.

This is just the stupid mentality in nigeria.

TonyeBarcanista:
Wrong!

Women/wives are not subordinate to men, but God and nature has defined roles to be played. Why should a man marry a woman, live in her house and isn't productive at all and still expect respect? The man may not be a billionaire but he has to provide for his family.

The woman bought car in his name and even fixed business for him... what a shame

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so irritating

I don't understand why this man is complaining. It's okay for his wife to pay his house rent, feed him nd his child and even sent up a business for him. . . . Yet he feels it's beneath him to do house chores?

I wonder if men think they deserve to be worshiped because they have a 3rd leg!

This man is no man at all. . . He let's his wife be the man in the marriage financially, and yet thinks it's unfair for her to expect him to play the feminine role. So he expects her to do both at the same tine? What is she, superwoman?

I really pity poor men who cannot cater for their family. I know women are supposed to be understanding and helpful, but it's not supposed to be forever. Imagine a wifew who has been supporting her husband from the day they got marriage till 5 years and counting. . . . How is she ever supposed to respect such and man and love him? It's just not possible. . . Virtuous woman or not.

Calling a woman a gold digger does not negate the fact that a man is meant to provide for his family. It's the way of nature. There's just no way out of it.

TonyeBarcanista:
Wrong!

Women/wives are not subordinate to men, but God and nature has defined roles to be played. Why should a man marry a woman, live in her house and isn't productive at all and still expect respect? The man may not be a billionaire but he has to provide for his family.

The woman bought car in his name and even fixed business for him... what a shame

Hello boss, do you know the current Kebbi State Commissioner of police? Google is not helping, please.

Paulpaulpaul:



Hello boss, do you know the current Kebbi State Commissioner of police? Google is not helping, please.

No boss... I will ask

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Ujoan:
I don't understand why this man is complaining. It's okay for his wife to pay his house rent, feed him nd his child and even sent up a business for him. . . . Yet he feels it's beneath him to do house chores?

I wonder if men think they deserve to be worshiped because they have a 3rd leg!

This man is no man at all. . . He let's his wife be the man in the marriage financially, and yet thinks it's unfair for her to expect him to play the feminine role. So he expects her to do both at the same tine? What is she, superwoman?

I really pity poor men who cannot cater for their family. I know women are supposed to be understanding and helpful, but it's not supposed to be forever. Imagine a wifew who has been supporting her husband from the day they got marriage till 5 years and counting. . . . How is she ever supposed to respect such and man and love him? It's just not possible. . . Virtuous woman or not.

Calling a woman a gold digger does not negate the fact that a man is meant to provide for his family. It's the way of nature. There's just no way out of it.

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How does this relate with "men deserving to be worshipped because of 3rd legs"...

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zeb04:
So sad. This is the same house chores a woman is expected to do without complain but now the table has been turned, it is now a housemaid job,seriously! So women doing this kind of work should complain of being a housemaid.

This is just the stupid mentality in nigeria.

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I hate to see couples going for divorce.

But, there are times it is necessary !

Richy4:


I don't get it...[b] I thought no one, man or woman got a specific role..Is it only when it comes to finance and paying of bills that the men became the provider and other bla bla bla some women advocates for....I thought they said men and women are equal?[/b]

If you're a Christian, you should look this up. I corinthian 11:3, Ephesians 5:22-30, Genesis 2:18. Both were never made equals.

Mtscheew!