i have been dating this guy for 8months and i really like him. The only thing that puts me off about him is that he is always going on about how white girls are better than black girls and how they dont demand for money like black girls. This really really annoys me because in my mind i am thinking that if you like white girls so much why are u with me. its not like i even ask him for money like that just once in a while when i am reallly broke but every time i talk bout money he is always going on about we black girls like money so much that white girls are better less stressful. I dnt really get him anymore i dnt knw whether it is immaturity or because he has just been in the UK for a year and is noticing some stuff. I have told him to stop comparing black girls with white girls and if he wants to d ate a white girl badly because "they would spend money on him he should leave me" but he keeps saying it is true and that he loves me. As this is really annoying what do i do?

Is he blac or white

Your BF has "the black man's kriptonite" crush.

how about dumping him let him go and date one

rokiatu:

how about dumping him let him go and date one

My thought as well

Do u have a bin at home?

Bin the guy

Nah black gurl me I wan marry, i don talk my own

Tragically obvious you have a self-hating Nugor why the hell are you with him?

Aaaargh!!!! I know his type. The white girl lover! Fresh off the boat from Naija and yet extolling white women to the high heavens!!!! Their arguments are so ridiculous and based on their fantasies shaped by what they have watched on TV. My dear. this is one battle you will never win. Move on to someone who loves you and not wishing you were of another race.

@poster, he's merely teasing u jare, relax

Ebonyeyes:

Tragically obvious you have a self-hating Nugor why the hell are you with him?

i taya too ooo

@poster.just dump him,he is a f**kin dumb ass fool.

Emzybrown:

@poster.just dump him,he is a f**kin dumb backside fool.

u dey vex pass the poster sef

@ kelvinj he is black we are both nigerians.

I am white and I gotta say white women like money too who wouldn't? anyways I would dump him him and move on to someone who can appreciate you.

Is he white or just a useless black boy who wants to become white?

just a year in uk and he is saying so much about the white girls

what happens if he spends 10years?
we know his kind

drop him and let him go and chop the white toto that he is obviously itching for.
b.u.l.l. Poo

@poster
well its all down to what kind of gals this man has hang out with in the past. . . . . . . .
if all the gals he has dated were black and demanded money/handout/recharge cards etc (and the poster's bf values his wallet) then it is safe to say that we should understand why this guy thinks like that.

also being with you is not his problem, the demand for handouts or money IS so if he complains about it in front of you then i suppose you must have asked in some ways. if you havent asked this guy for money then you should have straighten this guy up automatically by telling him that:" the fact that you have slept with rats doesn't give you the right to put me down in such a manner"

furthermore, if he has never dated a white gal then i can understand why he thinks like that (the grass is always greener on the other side). either way, in relationship, if you dont  hand the money to the gal directly, you will spend it doing other things together like going to restaurant/cafes/cine?travels etc

remedy to your problem: communicate with him and let him know straight away that you dislike being compared to others and that he should value/judge you for what you do, not what others have done to him in the past.

Maybe he's still experimenting, you may have to talk to him,

Then talk about tom cruise n co

Then talk about tom cruise n co

Girl, talk to him about how it makes you feel, if he persists, then give him a taste of his own medicine. Begin to compare White men with Black men in front of him, with white men always coming off the better. When he tries to defend himself/race, ask him how he likes the feel of it.

There are many Black men like that, if he prefers them, why the hell is he with you and worse still openly discussing his preference with you?

Lastly, dont ask him for money again, go to a friend/family member. He obviously resents giving you money or he would not complain.

Vicki 09:

I am white and I gotta say white women like money too who wouldn't? anyways I would dump him him and move on to someone who can appreciate you.

my black brothers, take note

talking about white girls is not a matter so long he is doing the thing well and giving u money,just be a good listener
.

@ mrbrownjay thanks 4 d advise.

the only reason i am still with him is that i think with time his view will change. I guess the reason he acts that way is because he is very conscious with money and when he was in 9ja he had some bad experiences with women majorly because of money. When he first came to UK apparently he went out with some white girl and the girl was always paying for stuff for him "unlike we black/9ja girls {his words} dat evn when we have the money majority of us would not want to pay. I am so tired of going over this with him because i always tell him 1 doesnt classify all because one girl did that doesnt mean all would. the same goes for black/9ja girls {some are willing to spend money on you}. This has never been an issue to me in previous relationships and now i find myself dwelling on this everyday i really do not get again.

Intro3, your BF is a hypocrit, he is complaining about paying for things with a Black woman, but he accepted a White woman paying for things for him when he was with her, according to you. Does he not know that if her friends/family knew of it, he would have been the reason for them to say that Black men love money and that "White men are better" since they dont allow their women to pay for them.

If he has been away from Nigeria in a year he is still conversant with the culture enough to know that, what he did with his White girl in letting her pay for everything would be looked down upon in Nigeria.

Even Nigerian men abroad, dont allow me to pay my share even when I offer, and I make sure I do.


He was doing with his ex, what he now finds so unacceptable with you, wonder why he is an "ex" now. She is probably on an internet board talking about how Nigerian men treat women badly, lol

Why do you ask your boyfriend for money?
You are not married with him? No children? SO he do not have to give you money.
I can understand him in that case. Nobody needs a realationship, when he needs to pay for his partner all the time.

And for the white girl here: I am also white and I do not like money. I and my man came together when he was very poor but I loved him and that is more important than money. Money is just bringing problems.