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Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by sisisioge: 7:35pm On Apr 02, 2017

;Dyou don enter one chance. You better run...no other way, just beat it!

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by keniolawumi56(m): 7:35pm On Apr 02, 2017

Bumbae1:
Hmm
1st
Lol some a dieing for their guys to even think of them let alone call.
Its the distance dear .. its killing him his a man . And if you are a pretty lady he knows how guys can be . So his paranoid .

2nd
He may be CHEATING ON U BIG TIME. The guilt is what makes him call you constantly .

Another topic entirely.

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by mfm04622: 7:38pm On Apr 02, 2017

Omohjick:

A man of 47?

He can still b a boy at 60!

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by mfm04622: 7:39pm On Apr 02, 2017

Omohjick:

A man of 47?

He can still b a boy at 60! What are you doing with a man who doesn't TRUST you?

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by gr8minds: 7:39pm On Apr 02, 2017

I think the guy really loves you cos you only protect what you care about,its normal for him to act like that because of the distance btw both of you,to be sincere with you,expect more cos guys are always jealous about whoever they want to share their future with.
Any man that does not show jealousy or sense of responsibility over his woman is not worth being in relationship with,HE HAS FOUND YOU AND DOES NOT WANT ANYMAN TO TAKE YOU AWAY FROM HIM,HE IS ONLY TRYING TO PROTECT YOU COS HE WANTS YOU TO BE PART OF HIS FUTURE,JUST MAKE SURE YOU ARE PATIENT WITH HIM AND DON'T PUT IN A SITUATION FOR UNNECESSARY SUSPICION

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Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by donmalcolm21(m): 7:40pm On Apr 02, 2017

Benelovelace:
This same thing happens to me,i no longer receive calls at night,from anybody,even relations,he'll be like,who is calling,what does he or she want.Whenever i miss several of his calls,he'll start to send me silly messages,"what is happening,are u tired of me,u were not always like this,you've changed,why are you doing this to me?"and the likes,he suffocates me,but then what do i do?

Get out of that relationship that wants to choke you.

It's still morning now before it will be late

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by HARDDON: 7:40pm On Apr 02, 2017

Aderola15:
Insecurity

Babez, run for your life oooo.

Why shld she? She wants visa ni

Btww,

Where iz that short, dark in complexion lady called lolly?

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by drsugar: 7:40pm On Apr 02, 2017

Op.. I dunno if you'll read this but I have the best advice for you.

In every relationship that is working, there must always be a mumu and a normal one.
It's just natural, just look around.

He's the mumu and you should always endure and encourage his habits so that he won't change to normal.

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by danbrowndmf(m): 7:42pm On Apr 02, 2017

QueenSuccubus:

Where can I find that kind of guy that call me constantly?

Most men nowadays, will juz call or text once in a blue moon with a NONSENSE emoji

we are sorry ma. from fvck boys association

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by Sexyolori(f): 7:43pm On Apr 02, 2017

Whatever you see while dating believe me you will see 10 times more in marriage. If you already feel choked and suffocated by his constant calls and requirement that you prove that you are not cheating even though he is far away, this will not change when you finally get married. He will cut you off from all company that he assumes is a threat to him and guard you jealously. Ask yourself can you live with such a thing in marriage? When you answer that then you will know what's the best decision to take. Please don't allow desperation becloud your judgement. Cheers hun

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Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by menwongo(m): 7:45pm On Apr 02, 2017

joeace2020:
It usually bores down to Long distance, but the fact is that this dude has some real deep trust issues. At 47, you should have experienced all sorts of relationships and be more in control of your insecurities, but he is still acting like a baby. If there's one thing i have learned from my past relationships, [b]no woman is ever yours till you put a ring on her finger. [/b]A lot of people who have commented on this thread or who are reading through have the same issues as this guy. My advice, you can loose the person you are with now at any time so just love truly but freely and hope for the best but never make any relationship a do or die affair because it

Are you sure at the words in red

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by chronique(m): 7:50pm On Apr 02, 2017

I feel the distance is the major factor,coupled with things he might have heard. These days, only a few people are sincere in relationships. This is probably making him possessive and insecure. If he doesn't calm down, he would give himself unnecessary high blood pressure and kill himself for nothing and you'd move on to the next guy. Just tell him to slow down and take a chill pill. Let him know you don't like the way he is going about things.

On a second thought, why a distant relationship? I don't know how to put this, but I suddenly discovered something about distant relationships especially when you haven't met him or her physically. It's a variant of a mental problem and one needs to fix it asap. Being in a distant relationship is as good as being in a relationship with your phone, or your computer screen. You talk to your phone or pc everyday but would never get to know who the real human behind the phone is, until you meet physically and spend time together. If you ask me, I think it's a lot of bullshit and not something matured adults should engage in...

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Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by goody1shoe73(m): 7:52pm On Apr 02, 2017

He's from Lagos? I have always thought Lagos is no man's land

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by Boyooosa(m): 7:52pm On Apr 02, 2017

Bumbae1:
Hmm
1st
Lol some a dieing for their guys to even think of them let alone call.
Its the distance dear .. its killing him his a man . And if you are a pretty lady he knows how guys can be . So his paranoid .

2nd
He may be CHEATING ON U BIG TIME. The guilt is what makes him call you constantly .

Experience mama! This your experience tho..

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by repogirl(f): 7:53pm On Apr 02, 2017

Omohjick:
My fellow nairalanders, I think I'm in a deep mess. Truly I'm old enough to settle down and my parents won't let me rest. They asked me to stop chasing after money but settle down and we all know men of these days, they like already made just as the way they complain about the ladies...now I met a guy who is ready to settle down and very responsible. He doesn't stay in Nigeria...

He is such a caring man and ha never married. He was born and brought up in England but he's from Lagos.

Hmmm...the worse part of him is that he's too jealous and calls me like 100times in a day. I'm not exaggerating plz. I'm here in Lagos but he never allows me to rest at all. If he calls me twice and I'm not picking its gonna be problem.

He keeps asking are you with someone there?
Why are you not replying my chat so fast?
Why did you put off your data please I hate it
What are you doing right now?
Why are you not speaking aloud?

Lots of questions and I can't begin to imagine right now.
I don't know what to do please help me. He's choking me and just too jealous which is why he's still single according to him, no wife no kids.

If possible he can ask me to do video chat with him while crossing the express road.
Chai! I don hia am

You Berra run! Probably got some mental issues or serious emotional insecurities.

A man who isn't married at 47 definitely has something wrong somewhere. Run!

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Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by Jabioro: 7:53pm On Apr 02, 2017

How come you're able to write this down, because he is not supposed to give you any breathing space.... marry him and have life shorten by 30 years.. cut him off if you want live long otherwise you will have HPB..

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by Btruth: 7:53pm On Apr 02, 2017

Omohjick:

Through his younger sister.

.....and how old is him? ....if you don't mind?

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by Rozaybb(f): 7:54pm On Apr 02, 2017

omo u don meet person wey dey give dis kind attention...y complain?

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by Chinex2000(m): 7:54pm On Apr 02, 2017

Choi bros y??

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by Nobody: 7:55pm On Apr 02, 2017

Both of them are victims.

Londoner has most likely been bitten by the shylock Nigerian women before so he is now wrongly generalizing them all. I can't say I blame him based on what my eyes have seen in Nigeria.

Additionally, perhaps the OP has unknowingly touched on a sore subject or acted in a subtle way that triggered feelings in Londoner. I have experienced this myself. Someone sent me a picture while laying on a bed and claimed that she was in her bedroom. I could clearly see the make of the mattress and it wasn't her bedroom, even the color of the wall, etc. I couldn't trust her anymore from that point but I did not make her life miserable and I just walked away.

Personally, I think it's a fruitless effort and a total waste to focus that much attention on a girlfriend. If this level of trust exists then he should simply walk away amicably.

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by spartanian(m): 7:56pm On Apr 02, 2017

Communicate more using video call

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by bigiyaro(m): 7:57pm On Apr 02, 2017

Omoluabi16:
Never ever get desperate for marriage. your 'freedom' now may be a concern for your parents and maybe embarrassing for you, it's still better than a troublesome marriage. I dey fear jealous people, they could go lengths. dangerous and extreme length to show they own you. Borrow leg and run.

guy, run is an under statement o...it should be flee n fly. I once had a bea like that, every miss call Na wahala, u gas explain all missed and received calls, dialed numbers and all the owners of the numbers, every movement had to be explained, i nearly run madt.

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by Zenithpeak(m): 7:57pm On Apr 02, 2017

Someone with such attitude can never keep a peaceful home. He needs attitude manager to rehabilitate him to normalcy. Else he will jelousely kill you and nairalanders will be typing RIP on your thread.....

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by Nobody: 7:58pm On Apr 02, 2017

Btruth:
.....and how old is him? ....if you don't mind?

47.

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by Handsomecole(m): 7:58pm On Apr 02, 2017

It is supposed to be a love affair not a monitoring affair. Such men can do something disastrous in marriages. My own advice is to run away.

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Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by Justicealh3(m): 7:59pm On Apr 02, 2017

torres89:

age is just a Number

And Love is timeless.

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by joeace2020(m): 8:01pm On Apr 02, 2017

menwongo:

Are you sure at the words in red

Never been surer of anything in my life

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by Gnwuashi: 8:01pm On Apr 02, 2017

The guy truly loves you and he is scared of losing you. Make him trust you and tell him your like and dislike and if he doesn't change then run for your life because he will take you away even from your friends.

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by RighteousI: 8:04pm On Apr 02, 2017

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by ioreth69(f): 8:04pm On Apr 02, 2017

SmartBug:

Pretty sure you ain't exaggerating but hallucinating!

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by menwongo(m): 8:11pm On Apr 02, 2017

joeace2020:

Never been surer of anything in my life

Then you never see chumtin for NYSC camp

Re: I Said I Needed A Serious Relationship With A Man, See What I Found! by torres89: 8:11pm On Apr 02, 2017

Justicealh3:
And Love is timeless.

hmmmmm have learnt a new line

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