My dear lovely guyz and girls of Nairaland am seeking for your advice concerning a girl I met in a Cafe sometime last year. I can say it was love at first sight.
I really pick at interest in her because she have every physical things i admire from a lady though i didn't speak with her that day and I dont know her inner part (heart) but i was able to spire her yahoo ID. I was able to get her phone number from a guy in that same cafe who said he knows her very well. I took my time to call her, though she spoke with me, I ask her for a date she refused and said i must tell her who gave me her no. she go further to say she dont make friend in that area.
U know as a guy, I have made my research on her and i learnt she is a decent girl from a christian background.
I love this girl and i dont know how to let her know my intention, I only have one meduim of communicating with her, only through phone, I know her but she do not know me.

what do I do??

You could break the ice by telling her where you got her number from cause girls don't like it when you call them out of the blue without them actually having given you the number in the first place.

You could also tell her where you first saw her, what she was wearing, etc

I would not be surprised if she is angry with you, cause she might start getting paranoid and start thinking some people are playing games with her.

wish you all the best and let us know how things go.

big_bumper:

what she was wearing, etc

I doubt he remembers that if it's been more than a year now!


You could give her nice surprises. Do your best to find out her address. Send her flowers or a handwritten note. Usually girls like this kind of mistery! Be a gentleman. Call her to ask her something general. Don't ask her out for now. Let her know a little bit of your personality. If you don't want to let her know who really gave you her no, don't say that. She just wants to hear an answer, so give her that. Tell her it's a so-called Johnson guy or any other popular name. Invent a story. Try to be dettached and mysterious. She'll like that, I guarantee.
Best of luck!!

well, like big bumper said, u gotta brace up and break the ice to her.

all the best!

it's simple man! forget abt the fone calls and let someone that knows her intoduce u to her.

Hmm.,.,.spy? i see people do that! it's not right i think.
Advice above "could" help you.

Hmm.,.,.spy? i see people do that! it's not right i think.
Advice above "could" help.

@macgreat

Who said anything about spying on her!?!?! I didn't imply he should be following her or anything (cuz that is what spying means), but to try to please her and give her a nice surprise!! Watch ur words oo!

@white'Nkem,what i said wasn't directed to you dear.,.,the guy spy out her ID and got her number without.,.,if he had approach her at first it won't be a problem,since she already know"whom" she is dealing with.

Thanks girls I really appreciate ur advise, especially big bumper and white Nkem
I know her address, her sisters and even her father, but in think we should relate better on fone. then she might be interested in seeing me physically.

@macgreat, U said I spy her ID, yes that truth, what is the better way i should have go about it.

@macgreat
ok then, my bad

@dannie
Well now it's all up to you. Try to be frank with her and open ur heart. I know she will listen. Good luck!

Hmm,ok

My bro, I felt ur pain. Can't imagine how you'll be like alone in your room while thinking of her. My advice, If you like what you see, Do make a move today cos tommorow ain't really guaranteed. Best of luck.