There are many good methods to efficiently communicate to family members about any issues without erupting into arguments. I will focus on key components of getting your point across whilst preventing any arguments or hate.

- Before you face them write everything down. May sure you are direct and not complicated.

- Avoid bringing up non related subjects as they will move you away from the first reason why you are confronting them.

- The tone of your voice is very important. Never raise your voice, be calm and patient. Let the other person speak and never cut them off. Have e paper and pen and write ready and down what you wanted to say when you were going to cut them off mid speech.

- Confront them when you know they are not busy nor distracted. Usually around dinner time of just after dinner is good.

- Let them ask question about your sayings and don't reply in spite. This is a good thing they are asking questions.

- If they become irritated with what you are saying, stop talking and wait. Let them speak what's on their mind. Even if what they say is not related with the same context, let them ventilate. Once they are finished you revert back to the original topic.

- Never let eruptive emotions control the way you bring your point across.

- Don't say or suggest plausible actions

- Don't say you actions that aren't plausible. This will destroy the validation of getting your solution.

- Ask them questions where they can answer. This will further embed what you are trying to get across to them.

- At the end of the conversation make sure both of you are on the same page

Unfortunately, sometimes family issues involve more than two people. To get your tackle the issues you made need to start off with one member who is on the same page and then approach the third family member and so forth. This avoids majority of the issues stated above and helps to make sure that each family member not only understands but they have learnt from it and can approach future issues in this manner.

These are a few basic steps on how to avoid arguments erupting. Ideally you want to get everybody in the family involved so they all have an understanding.