she doesn't believe what i tell her most of the time, based on the fact that all men are the same,how do i convince her.i Love her so much,please help.

Never disappoint her. That's all it takes. If you disappoint her once, you'll have to start all over again.

Seun:

Never disappoint her. That's all it takes. If you disappoint her once, you'll have to start all over again.

wow. u actually know things like this.

Sher dont feel $hit for you
If she truly loves u she will believe you,so just let it go.

Itz just a fact that trust cannot be bought or forced, u have to earn it. And just as Seun already said, never disappoint her and that includes making promises u cnt keep

Itz just a fact that trust cannot be bought or forced, u have to earn it. And just as Seun already said, never disappoint her and that includes making promises u cnt keep

gapsiso
what the heck did u do to her in the first place for her to loose ur trust

you must have done something to make her not trust you or she must have been burned before in a past relationship.
Seun said it all you have to work hard to not dissapoint her and you have to be patient with her.

OR

Maybe she just doesnt like you.

I had this friend under same circumstances, she didnt trust me one bit, she was always looking forward to something strange happening. She never trusted me and was very insecure.

I didnt like the fact that she didnt trust and couldnt stand her insecurity most times, i tried talking sense into her but it didnt work, i tried bending my principles to suit her more but she didnt still change, i even tried to stop seeing any friend at all just to bring that trust up but it also failed. She fell out with all my male friends, embarrassed me everywhere - especially with my guys cos they yabbed the living daylight out of me thanks guys!!!

I then decided to make things even more difficult for her, i.e called and took calls from other girls even in her presence. I guess i didnt care anymore, it just kills everything when they don't trust u even in your best behaviour. We had major problems after that because, although she was monitoring me very closely, she had her own games which of course, i enravelled and so it all ended there.

Since you are posting out what you feel right now it will be hard to offer any advice.


Why are you finding it hard to convince her

is it her or is it you


cos if its just her then there is nothing you can do if she feels that all men can not be trusted. We are human beings we WILL dissapoint the people we love that where second chances, forgiveness and faithfulness build from Love itself is a risk but we all need to take it or else what's life worth living for.

if its you then you will just have to build trust in this case and be patient because it will take a while cos once bitten twice shy

|Just make sure all ur efforts are worth it

In most cases like my own, it will be the past experiences she has had with men that will lead to such chronic lack of trust or maybe i should say fear of trust because it seems to now be a phobia, but u cannot punish the son for the father's sin. . .  How would u feel if a guy treated u badly all the time because he feels you're just the exact replica of his ex

Can men be trusted? l just wish she will not be available as MTN said. Convincing her for the second time does'nt proove ur love and faithfulness. Rather she is going to be ur second mugu.OBEWE of Umuahia said "first fool no be fool but the second fool be proper foolish".

learn to be straight forward in all your ways, be honest to her and to people around u and with time, she will trust u

Some girls will never change, her past experiences may be hunting u

fellybabe:

learn to be straight forward in all your ways, be honest to her and to people around u and with time, she will trust u

ditto

whitelexi:

Some girls will never change, her past experiences may be hunting u

LOL Ditto too

whitelexi:

LOL Ditto too

Ditto three

bros, end the rltp before its too late, she needs help and youre not the person to offer such help

seun's advice can work but only in few cases, take whitelexxi's advice. Crude but true. Me gone

@whitelexi

you be prof for woman issue.i hail u.

well said @fellybabe

women think differently man, you can do anything to try and rein her in and let her know you mean well but when her mind is made up, it is made up and there is nothing you can do about it.

never dissapoint her and always be urself.

its true that gals think differently 2 d guys, however, for any gal 2 feel insure, its not because she has no feelings 4 d guy or doesnt give a damn abt him. It cld be dat she is scare of committment,  like if she had gone tru some brusies b4 now.

However, i think u shd give her some tyme, cos in she wld learn 2 trust u, its sth dat she alone can determine 2 do n wld do so wen she thinks its best.

Jst continue 2 b d gud guy dat u r, n things wld fall in their rightful places, include her trusting u.

@gapsiso,
ho long do u have to wait? if you can spare 5 years of your life to something that may or most probably will never happen, then good luck.

Disappoint? i believe when too much promises is involved that is when "Disappointment" come in,Is either you don't give any or give ones you can handle within a short TIME.

most probably ur too fine and she is insecure

well i have made my selfa promise not to try convince any one with an opinion about me cos most times it just wont work

fashi her if u can cos her insecurities would always make her not to trust u

but if i might ask wat crime did u commit initially for u to loose her trust

Oh boy! make it simple. Take her game to her, tell her you don't trust her.

Be free, stop trying to prove her that you can be trusted, don't bend your rules.

I think she should be the one trying to win your trust.

At one time in my life I was trying to get girls to trust me. Now they want me to trust them.

But am always one step ahead.

Bone the trusting part, jump to the loving part man.

Abeg, any girl who cant trust a guy trying and doing his best to be Honest, then forget her. besides only very few of them wort such stress.

u r wrong 'software' or wha is dat ur name. this is the result of men's dishonesty and disappointment. do u knm wha d guy is done 2 the girl in d first place.

my guy, gainin some1's trust is not by a word of mouth but by actions and honesty, do u urself trust her enough 2 gain her trust if u do n really love her keep trying man.

funny funny

****shakes head*****

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you're wrong 'software' or wha is that your name. this is the result of men's dishonesty and disappointment. do u knm wha d guy is done 2 the girl in d first place.

my guy, gainin someone's trust is not by a word of mouth but by actions and honesty, do u yourself trust her enough 2 gain her trust if u do n really love her keep trying man.


Tope4life, that my name na Emmanco. lets be sincere, Its not only the men that are dishonest or that do disappoint. i dont knowwhy u giirls always put the blame on guys. many girls out there are snakes under the green grass. as far as i am concered if someone is honest it does not take time to know. its very easy. so why the stress, for a girl to keep on posting a guy. na Jamb we dey do?

Guys abi na wetin una see to this matter wey dey ground so?

software:

RE: tope4life
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you're wrong 'software' or wha is that your name. this is the result of men's dishonesty and disappointment. do u knm wha d guy is done 2 the girl in d first place.

my guy, gainin someone's trust is not by a word of mouth but by actions and honesty, do u yourself trust her enough 2 gain her trust if u do n really love her keep trying man.


Tope4life, that my name na Emmanco. lets be sincere, Its not only the men that are dishonest or that do disappoint. i don't knowwhy u giirls always put the blame on guys. many girls out there are snakes under the green grass. as far as i am concered if someone is honest it does not take time to know. its very easy. so why the stress, for a girl to keep on posting a guy. na Jamb we dey do?

Guys abi na wetin una see to this matter wey dey ground so?

There is really no need to take this personal or turn this into a male/female war, the bottomline remains that trust is the backbone to the success of today's relationships and each person should naturally give it freely. If it is misused or broken, then u can say u don't trust the person anymore.

My stress about it is when u fail to trust because someone else in your past had failed u. You cannot expect your current relationship to work based on the trust matters of a past relationship. Every individual deserves a chance and if u choose to date, then u should also trust. The only lesson we should learn from bad past experiences is the way to handle them. Some people believe that everyone deserves a second chance    Others believe that if u fail the first time, u will surely fail a second time. . .   My belief is to at least give the benefit of doubt the first time and see if they fail at all.