Someone sent me this:

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If and only If we can start taking Marriage vows before Amadioha, Sango and their brethren, many marriages will experience more bliss.

People stand before God and lie because he is very patient with us.

Just imagine that you took a vow before 'Arusi Njaba' that you won't cheat or hit your woman, that you would provide for her, that you won't abuse her in any way; if you go against your vow, its instant judgement.

Most of us will then learn to respect our vows. I would rather that people don't take marital vows serious any longer.

I feel it is mockery and it is no longer funny."

Copyright, Victor Ibeh 2016

I agree. I had a male friend who stopped attending weddings simply because it was a waste of time, to him. He didn't understand husbands' behaviors. He refused be complicit in helping them hide affairs and cheating whilst inviting him over for lunch with their spouse and kids the next day. He got tired of the mockery of marriage. Church wedding has become a joke, I'd rather celebrate Traditional Wedding in my village in front of some wooden deity.

There will be no marital bliss but you will be forced to leave together even when there is no love anymore

And in church I don't think they take vows about not maltreating each other

And also take a look at it from another point of view imagine you take a vow not to disrespect your husband, you get pissed one day then call him monkey lol. The same husband will start running helter skelter to look for solution


And our tradition ways recognise polygamy so immediately he gets tired na to marry another wife. But you will be stuck there so who do you think will gain more?

Even if taken in shrine, some will still defile their marriage vow. It is embedded in their soul.

Onegai:
Someone sent me this:

"#Repost
If and only If we can start taking Marriage vows before Amadioha, Sango and their brethren, many marriages will experience more bliss.

People stand before God and lie because he is very patient with us.

Just imagine that you took a vow before 'Arusi Njaba' that you won't cheat or [s]hit your woman, that you would provide for her, that you won't abuse her in any way[/s] if you go against your vow, its instant judgement.

Most of us will then learn to respect our vows. I would rather that people don't take marital vows serious any longer.

I feel it is mockery and it is no longer funny."

Copyright, Victor Ibeh 2016

I agree. I had a male friend who stopped attending weddings simply because it was a waste of time, to him. He didn't understand husbands' behaviors. He refused be complicit in helping them hide affairs and cheating whilst inviting him over for lunch with their spouse and kids the next day. He got tired of the mockery of marriage. Church wedding has become a joke, I'd rather celebrate Traditional Wedding in my village in front of some wooden deity.

please and please, cheating and battery is not only associated with the women gender.. You are being totally biased

dingbang:
please and please, cheating and battery is not only associated with the women gender.. You are being totally biased

A man wrote this. Please take it up with him.

Onegai:



A man wrote this. Please take it up with him.

then both of you are biased as well...

This is really low, so disappointing, I used to have respect for this OP before

Onegai:
Someone sent me this:

"#Repost
If and only If we can start taking Marriage vows before Amadioha, Sango and their brethren, many marriages will experience more bliss.

People stand before God and lie because he is very patient with us.

Just imagine that you took a vow before 'Arusi Njaba' that you won't cheat or hit your woman, that you would provide for her, that you won't abuse her in any way; if you go against your vow, its instant judgement.

Most of us will then learn to respect our vows. I would rather that people don't take marital vows serious any longer.

I feel it is mockery and it is no longer funny."

Copyright, Victor Ibeh 2016

I agree. I had a male friend who stopped attending weddings simply because it was a waste of time, to him. He didn't understand husbands' behaviors. He refused be complicit in helping them hide affairs and cheating whilst inviting him over for lunch with their spouse and kids the next day. He got tired of the mockery of marriage. Church wedding has become a joke, I'd rather celebrate Traditional Wedding in my village in front of some wooden deity.

With the wooden deity repercussion is immediate...

Reason why our politician refuse to be sworn in with it...

Then your marriage is no longer a union but a bondage. o.p, you're unbelievable.

That's enduring marriage because of fear and not enjoying marriage.

temi4fash:


With the wooden deity repercussion is immediate...

Reason why our politician refuse to be sworn in with it...

That was his point, 3 years ago my priest said the same thing to me: that if he walked into a room and greeted, he would only get half-replies. Buy if a random babalawo walks in and says "Ifa catch you for not greeting!" almost everyone there would react, rush out, run to MFM/Rccg etc for anointing against attacks, innocent or not. We have no fear of God. If we had to swear at Ifa oracle to be faithful in marriage, people will be so honest and marriages so fantastic the world would be forced to come down here and find out what our "African" values are. The divorce rate would be low, which is why we always talk about how awesome marriage was in the past: people cheated and abused their spouses but it was with less impunity and more fear. There were repercussions.

No offense, but this is complete hogwash. How does taking vows in shrines serve as a tool in curbing the high and wild rate of marital fiascos? Are Sango and Amadiorah even real entities? I want to believe this dross was conceived in the reccesses of an idle and simplistic mind.

Onegai:
Someone sent me this:

"#Repost
If and only If we can start taking Marriage vows before Amadioha, Sango and their brethren, many marriages will experience more bliss.

People stand before God and lie because he is very patient with us.

Just imagine that you took a vow before 'Arusi Njaba' that you won't cheat or hit your woman, that you would provide for her, that you won't abuse her in any way; if you go against your vow, its instant judgement.

Most of us will then learn to respect our vows. I would rather that people don't take marital vows serious any longer.

I feel it is mockery and it is no longer funny."

Copyright, Victor Ibeh 2016

I agree. I had a male friend who stopped attending weddings simply because it was a waste of time, to him. He didn't understand husbands' behaviors. He refused be complicit in helping them hide affairs and cheating whilst inviting him over for lunch with their spouse and kids the next day. He got tired of the mockery of marriage. Church wedding has become a joke, I'd rather celebrate Traditional Wedding in my village in front of some wooden deity.

Funny but true. The whole basis and essence of 'African/nigerian' type of marriages been my mind lately! Definitely not based on true love

Onegai:
Someone sent me this:

"#Repost
If and only If we can start taking Marriage vows before Amadioha, Sango and their brethren, many marriages will experience more bliss.

People stand before God and lie because he is very patient with us.

Just imagine that you took a vow before 'Arusi Njaba' that you won't cheat or hit your woman, that you would provide for her, that you won't abuse her in any way; if you go against your vow, its instant judgement.

Most of us will then learn to respect our vows. I would rather that people don't take marital vows serious any longer.

I feel it is mockery and it is no longer funny."

Copyright, Victor Ibeh 2016

I agree. I had a male friend who stopped attending weddings simply because it was a waste of time, to him. He didn't understand husbands' behaviors. He refused be complicit in helping them hide affairs and cheating whilst inviting him over for lunch with their spouse and kids the next day. He got tired of the mockery of marriage. Church wedding has become a joke, I'd rather celebrate Traditional Wedding in my village in front of some wooden deity.

so wat now happen