I have this little girl about 5yrs of age in my church whom whenever she sees me, she jumps at me, ask for my phone and start playing Candy crush or take pictures (how she could operate it after I unlock it baffles me, although she is quite smart).
On this faithful Sunday during worker's meeting, I guess she had too many chocolate from home, she was too happy and was all over me, (N. B her mum was watching but I didnt notice probably because i was concentrating on the message for that morning). Fast forward to the next Sunday, I notice she was so cold when she saw me, after the close of service I asked my friend you didnt talk to me today? Lo and behold the little girl said "my mummy said I shouldnt talk to you or sit on your leg" i was shocked and disturbed. I feel she is trying to caution and train the little girl, but why make the little girl feel I AM THE BAD PERSON? What do you think I should do, tell the little girl her mom was right but she wasnt pointing to me as a bad person or talk to the Father (my friends elder brother) to caution his wife about the ways she pass her morals or talk to the Mother herself? I know some people will still insult this innoccent post.

dude stop over-thinking thingz and let it go.... you have more important things to think of.

Tell her not to sit on your or any other uncles legs. Her mom was right. She prolly out of courtsey did not call back her daughter when she saw you two at church. She waited till they got home and warned her.
The way sex related crimes against underage kids are happening nowadays, No young man should be comfortable having lil girls flock around him and his home knowing what people might say when they notice such.

You should be grateful they didn't say you are molesting her

I would advice you count it all Joy, I would be bothered if a kid behaves that way towards me because I don't really like them, not that I don't play with them sometimes but when he/she begins to disturb, so the mother might also feel she's disturbing you.

The mother's right to tell her that.You should tell her too not to do that to any other uncle.It's better she grows up that way.
Don't take it personal,it's not about you

Take it easy Bro,

That's what the baby needs. She must be reacting in that manner to all strangers and we can't actually tell who is who.

This reminds me of my little friend who I will call Dave. I am a friend to their family and fortunately, we are close neighbours. One day, my guy ran into my place and I was snacking. Little Dave was excited, when I invited him to join me.

Few seconds later, I saw a very disappointing look on his face like someone who lost all his earnings in a single bet. I became curious and asked him what's up? ..."My mummy said I shouldn't collect stuffs from strangers", my guy responded sheepishly. At this point, he was almost in tears because it actually felt awkward for the both of us.

My response to him was simple, " Mummy is right! " . Then, I asked if she was at home. Luckily she was. Then, I told my lil Dave to go find out if he was permitted to collect stuffs from me....

Few minutes later, I saw a happy Dave jumping into my place as if he just won a million dollars: His sweet mummy had consented and we did have ourselves some yummy snacking from there henceforth.

I think you should let the girl seek for permission from her momsy before doing crazy stuff with your phone. And please, let her also know she can't be jumping on "Uncle Nice Guys" like you, all the time.

Over 70% of rape or child molestation comes from people whom the victims once thought was friendly or nice!

The mother is right. It isn't about you, it's the corrupt society. You might be a good uncle, but what if she encounters a bad uncle and plays with him the same way she plays with you?

Lots of sexual related crimes against kids, perpetrated by people we trust (uncles, aunties, house helps, cousins, church members, home lesson teachers). Since we don't have some divine power to identify the bad, we are being very careful.

Don't take it to heart. Tell her mummy is right and she shouldn't sit on any other uncles' lap. Sorry 'bout the 'embarrassment', she'll grow to understand.

You may even be more protective when your time reach.

The mum did the right thing, talking to her or musing over it will only make you look more suspicious.

Let it go and concentrate in church

OP biko you really should understand the point of view of the mother. She's only looking out for her daughter and take it or take it, her daughter willl express such freedom with any 'Mr Nice guy' uncle. Bros na ONLY yourself you know o!

Fast forward to the next Sunday, I notice she was so cold when she saw me, after the close of service I asked my friend you didnt talk to me today? Lo and behold the little girl said "my mummy said I shouldnt talk to you or sit on your leg"

The woman is absolutely on point.

Brother.. ITS HER MOTHER ..So dont bother confronting .. Just enjoy the sermon and face your business biko

I just dey wonder if your girlfriend con spurn you wetin you go do? Dis one wey one kid spurn you you come open thread for Nairaland. Nawah o!

If you see pikin wey wan play with you, play with am. If the pikin no wan play with you, no play with am. Infact avoid playing with kids wey no relate to you

Tobiloba84:
What do you think I should do, tell the little girl her mom was right but she wasnt pointing to me as a bad person or talk to the Father (my friends elder brother) to caution his wife about the ways she pass her morals or talk to the Mother herself? I know some people will still insult this innoccent post.

You want to talk to the Father or mother about the way the mother passes morals to the child? If I were the mother and you try that with me, you would not like my response to you at all and I will put you in your place. What nerves. Besides, if we're talking about morals, she is 110% correct with what she told her child and it is none of your business to interfere. Which mother would feel comfortable with her 5-year old daughter sitting on a grown man's legs or getting too close to him? That is her child and she has every right to be concerned and notice she didn't talk to you but her daughter, meaning she knows her daughter is the one who needed to be cautioned.

Things have become so bad nowadays that the little number of good people remaining are thought to be faking it and are looked with suspicious eyes...So sad

what would u do if u have daughter of that age?

it is called sex education bro, I don't allow my kids (male and female) sit on anyone's leg.