rawpadgin:



me: hey babe, how are you

benita: i am fine

me: lucky is the name, what's urs?

benita: Benita

me: seems we are heading same direction, u wanna catch a cab or u prefer to walk?

benita: what do u do for a living?




demn! that didn't sound cool

hehehehehehehheheh

Eaa247:


u can't marry a yahoo nigga? very surprising to hear dat wen all Naija ladies r dying to ve dem.

all naija ladies?

Eaa247:


u can't marry a yahoo nigga? very surprising to hear dat wen all Naija ladies r dying to ve dem.

Instead of hustling, someone chose to seat on a laptop and defraud others of their hard earned money, and I expect me to be part of that?. What stopped him from using that time and effort into something legitimate?, tomorrow when he's caught my family and relatives would be dragged in the mud. I don't want please!.

Nigerian ladies don't usually ask you what you do for a living. All that matters is your pocket and porch displays.

Benita27:
It's part of getting to know each other. So if he should ask for what I do on our first meeting would that make him a gold miner?.

I think it behooves on you to find out for yourself, the person may not be telling the whole truth

rawpadgin:
maybe i am different


my replies are usually like this " u will get to know soon, but be rest assured that i am not into illegal dealings"

Why will you hestitate in telling a lady what you do for a living on the first date? I will volunteer that info without been prompted and if am interested in the lady, I sure do want to also know what the lady does for a living on the first date or if she is a student and even course/school.

What do you guys discuss on first date these days? Sports and news? I can get all those while on my pajamas at home.

Benita27:
The first thing I ask guys is what they do for a living. Once stories aren't adding up I take a walk. Can't afford to be dating/married to a yahoo nigga.

Nice piece op.

Emeka's family and friends know him as a hardworking pharmacist not knowing that he was running some kidnapping operations with Evans.

Try beating that. Just keep praying that it wont be your portion. Some smart criminals have professions they use to camouflage their criminal activities.
He tells you his profession. He takes you to his office to his associates. Does that mean that you know his "real" source of income?
/

Oyindidi:
I do visit him in his office.

Many into bad things also use legal things to cover up

rawpadgin:



me: hey babe, how are you

benita: i am fine

me: lucky is the name, what's urs?

benita: Benita

me: seems we are heading same direction, u wanna catch a cab or u prefer to walk?

benita: what do u do for a living?




demn! that didn't sound cool

May God help us. Special Anti Fraud Unit.

Nma27:
Don't get me wrong o but I feel it won't b easy for a "struggling" to make it easy if married without a lil foundation. The guy must not be wealthy before settling but needs to b OK atleast. What's SFU

darlenese:
any woman that is married to a kidnapper, ritualist, yahoo boy or armed robber cannot tell me that they dnt know, that is a FAT LIE. in fact I believe wives should also face the music , u cant be enjoying illegal money and feign ignorance.

Are you married?

I know someone married to a bunkerer and she didn't have the slightest idea!

Is it so difficult to understand that these ppl ALWAYS have a cover story, separate SIMS and speak in codes?

Everybody na Wiseman for Nairaland.

Some of the ladies sharing same opinion wif you even dated cultists/executioners while they wea in their various tertiary institutions and dey didn't have d faintest idea!

BOTTOMLINE: Some ppl are very very very bad and really good at covering it up

Crixina:
all naija ladies?

so many naija girls. I grew up in d campus my eyes saw tins babe. there r decent nd honest ones but dey seem to b few. my sisters Neva dated yahoo guys nor married dem

lepasharon:


Neither should a guy feel uncomfortable about disclosing his profession

WTF Unless he has no job or is insecure about it.

Asking someone what they do is an everyday discussion/ small talk, questions on getting to know someone.

It depends. If I have a lucrative occupation that will give me away as a billionaire I wouldn't disclose it to any lady immediately cos I detest gold diggers.

rawpadgin:
lol
that i like keeping my card close to my chest doesn't mean i am not straight forward

& telling a girl i just met that she will get to know where i work in due time is an indication that i am into shady business are u cheating me right now

anyway, that's ur opinion & u are entitled to it


funny thing is, each time i tell people where i work they usually ask "where is that", then i will now start explaining to them
even though the place is responsible for a large percentage of Nigeria wealth

somewhere like agbami.... Right

Crixina:
all naija ladies?

I know of a lady looking for a God fearing yahoo boi

Ontarget:

It depends. If I have a lucrative occupation that will give me away as a billionaire I wouldn't disclose it to any lady immediately cos I detest gold diggers.

Why would you be hanging around with women who would want to latch onto ur wealth. Shouldn't you hang out with women on ur level

Personally, I don't care what you think as a Lady. Especially if we are just meeting.

I WONT TELL YOU MORE THAN MY PROFESSION.

If you like walk away. That is your bloody or clean business. My philosophy of life is that a woman has more than one man she can have as a husband. She only chooses the one she meets. Likewise does a guy. I don't believe that only one woman qualifies to be my wife on earth. Walk away. I walk away.

Just meeting you (if the discussion demands it and I don't sound like I am trying too hard to impress) I will tell you my profession. " I am an Environmental and Safety Engineer". That is all. Ladies say this because it is in their favour and they can size you up and size up your wallet. Don't! I don't mind if you snoop around trying to find out.

I will only tell you my profession/vocation. But never where I work. That will be for latter if things go well between us and I am comfortable divulging this. Hell I might even lie and tell you I am a mechanic. If that scares you off then good riddance. But where I work never. I don't owe you that? I mean you think I owe you that because you want to do what? What? Marry me? Yeah right. What a great favour.

I don't need to spill everything like one guy with low self esteem. I don't need to meet you and just start telling what I do, where I do it and how I do it like one inferiority complex stricken guy trying hard to impress you.

If you don't like my explanation, then leave. How are you sure I am not working with Shell, yet I will beat you to death as a woman abuser? Every relationship has elements of risks involved. I could be working, loose my job and go into Drugs and you wouldn't even know.

varmint:
When the money is heavy enough, all these women won't care what you do. I said women in this case because we are talking of straight relationships, people actually don't care how money is made.


Most of these girls actually go on FB adding up guys with names like "Richie" "WF..." "TF..." "YF...".

As long as the ends meet....the means don't really matter.

Abeg Wetin be the meaning of WF, TF and YF

varmint:
When the money is heavy enough, all these women won't care what you do. I said women in this case because we are talking of straight relationships, people actually don't care how money is made.


Most of these girls actually go on FB adding up guys with names like "Richie" "WF..." "TF..." "YF...".

As long as the ends meet....the means don't really matter.

Abeg Wetin be the meaning of WF, TF and YF....have been wanting to ask

Eazybay:



Are you married?

I know someone married to a bunkerer and she didn't have the slightest idea!

Is it so difficult to understand that these ppl ALWAYS have a cover story, separate SIMS and speak in codes?

Everybody na Wiseman for Nairaland.

Some of the ladies sharing same opinion wif you even dated cultists/executioners while they wea in their various tertiary institutions and dey didn't have d faintest idea!

BOTTOMLINE: Some ppl are very very very bad and really good at covering it up

my dear I'm married and I know what I'm talking about.
forget those pity tale women tell when their spouse is being caught. Their lifestyle alone sef is a give away. those who work hard for their money know how e dey be when they are spending it, unlike the way illegal money is being spent /squandered.

I was in the mall sometime ago and met a lady and a guy, the lady selected 3 bra, one of which cost 35k, I dnt think they are married but I kept wondering which man will use his hard earned salary or business proceed to buy bra of 35k each for a lady, if the guy is arrested tomorrow I am sure the lady will deny she doesn't know he is into crime. who earns salary and spend so much on undies?
Abeg fear some ladies.

akanbiaa:
Many into bad things also use legal things to cover up

Maybe you are one of them. Not everyone is like you.

Benita27:
The first thing I ask guys is what they do for a living. Once stories aren't adding up I take a walk. Can't afford to be dating/married to a yahoo nigga.

The problem with Nigerians is that hypocrisy and deceit rums deep in our veins.

If one idiot you meet claims to be working in one federal government parastatal, say FIRS or Customs , for instance. His legitimate salary and allowances add up to about N350k a month, but his lifestyle is a multimillion Naira lifestyle. The rest of the money comes from ILLEGAL... deals in his office....collecting money from taxpayers to underestimate their due taxes, overinvoicing, procurement fraud, or collecting bribes from Evans' weapon suppliers to pass contraband containers with guns and bullets, etc. Nobody cares, because he "works in FIRS" or he is a "customs officer".

Even if he buys a house in Lekki for N90m, it doesn't matter. After all, he "works in FIRS" or he is a "customs officer". What's the difference between this kind of typical corrupt, fraudulent "working class" character and yahoo boys? What of the numerous idiots who work in big companies, banks, etc who illegally make millions through under the table deals? Is that okay, as long as they work in recognised establishments? So because someone has a supposed nice sounding 9-5 job, then he should afford anything, his source of income shouldn't be questioned, and he is guaranteed to not be into anything illegal?

The way Nigerians reason is very disturbing.

robosky02:


am waiting in the office

Will visit tomorrow

Eaa247:


Evans d 2nd spotted

pliss pliss and pliss if u no aff anysin realsonabu too say dornts mension me

InvertedHammer:


Emeka's family and friends know him as a hardworking pharmacist not knowing that he was running some kidnapping operations with Evans.

Try beating that. Just keep praying that it wont be your portion. Some smart criminals have professions they use to camouflage their criminal activities.
He tells you his profession. He takes you to his office to his associates. Does that mean that you know his "real" source of income?
/

You have said it all my brother,dont mind all these indomie generation children flooding this thread.When it comes to marriage,there is no superstar or perfect person,it only takes the grace of God to get a good partner.
I know so many bankers,civil servants,well employed guys that are into one or two shady deals and you wont know.So if you like watch him 24hrs daily you wont know the source ,all you will see is just the camouflages

Its really funny how all the girls on this thread are claiming innocent. So, who are those dating dem cultists, drug traffickers, and G-boys

OmaniPadmeHum:

Personally, I don't care what you think as a Lady. Especially if we are just meeting.

I WONT TELL YOU MORE THAN MY PROFESSION.

If you like walk away. That is your bloody or clean business. My philosophy of life is that a woman has more than one man she can have as a husband. She only chooses the one she meets. Likewise does a guy. I don't believe that only one woman qualifies to be my wife on earth. Walk away. I walk away.

Just meeting you (if the discussion demands it and I don't sound like I am trying too hard to impress) I will tell you my profession. " I am an Environmental and Safety Engineer". That is all. Ladies say this because it is in their favour and they can size you up and size up your wallet. Don't! I don't mind if you snoop around trying to find out.

I will only tell you my profession/vocation. But never where I work. That will be for latter if things go well between us and I am comfortable divulging this. Hell I might even tell you I am a mechanic.

I don't need to spill everything like one guy with low self esteem and inferiority complex stricken guy trying hard to impress you.

Yes it's fine, if you disclose ur profession the problem is those guys who don't want to disclose at all which shows insecurity

lepasharon:


Why would you be hanging around with women who would want to latch onto ur wealth. Shouldn't you hang out with women on ur level

That's why I am a guy and you are a lady. Ladies are all for money bags alone while guys wouldn't mind meeting a lady who is below his financial status. We guys don't discriminate like ladies do. I can decide to marry a lady below my financial status but I have to make sure she actually loves me.

Ontarget:

That's why I am a guy and you are a lady. Ladies are all for money bags alone while guys wouldn't mind meeting a lady who is below his financial status. We guys don't discriminate like ladies do. I can decide to marry a lady below my financial status but I have to make sure she actually loves me.

So guys don't discriminate with women atall?

Every guy wants a beautiful woman but sadly not all of them will get that.

Benita27:
The first thing I ask guys is what they do for a living. Once stories aren't adding up I take a walk. Can't afford to be dating/married to a yahoo nigga.

Nice piece op.

If you ever ask me that sort of a thing as a first question, depending on how much I valued you initially, but whatever your worth was in my mind has automatically gone down by 95 per cent, most especially when I have not asked you such a question.

I know you may not mean any harm by asking but then it sounds so golddiggery plus intrusive being your first question to me.

We are still at the stage of getting to know each other so keep that in your mind.

A more sensible question should be something like my education, my friends, my dream woman, my role model, my dreams and aspirations, my life challenges, and things of that nature...

Save the money related question for the last, okay?!

With time, we'll eventually get to that.

Hope I've made myself clear?

lepasharon:


So guys don't discriminate with women atall?

Every guy wants a beautiful woman but sadly not all of them will get that.

Wanting anything beautiful is a normal thing. We all want that beautiful car, dress, house etc. I know you want that beautiful shoe too. So you can't put it side by side with ladies hunting for money bags. It's a different thing entirely. You shouldn't even try to use it to counteract me. Besides, guys don't take the desire for beautiful ladies as serious as the way ladies desire for money bags. How many times have you seen guys open a thread on Nairaland advising guys not to marry any ugly girl? But you keep seeing ladies here and other social media platforms insulting broke guys and advising their fellows not even acknowledge his existence.

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So guys don't discriminate with women atall?

Every guy wants a beautiful woman but sadly not all of them will get that.[/quot

Not all men want only BEAUTY,Most beautiful girls out there are just diccccckkk pots... Not all though .