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Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by MissJoy29(f): 11:17pm On Aug 16, 2017
WORDWORLD:



Hence a tend towards being perfect but not perfect. From my studies such a mind set are hardly happy cos the mostly lack satisfaction and likewise those around them dont so much find happiness by being with them due to their always complaining and criticizing. Lets take it easy on ourselves . WE REALLY HAVE NOTHING TO PROOF TO ANY ONE. And why should irrelevance by a bother. To be bothered about irrelevant things is to be lacking in efficiency.



I know. That's what I'm trying to make you understand since. I use to be like that. You will realise that you can't be happy cos nobody could make you happy. You will end up being miserable and frustrating people around you. The light will dawn on you the moment you realise what you are doing to yourself and others & take steps to adjust. It's not a healthy lifestyle I tell you.
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by Nobody: 11:26pm On Aug 16, 2017
MissJoy29:




I know. That's what I'm trying to make you understand since. I use to be like that. You will realise that you can't be happy cos nobody could make you happy. You will end up being miserable and frustrating people around you. The light will dawn on you the moment you realise what you are doing to yourself and others & take steps to adjust. It's not a healthy lifestyle I tell you.

I wish you more happiness and a blissful heart since you have been able to emancipate yourself from such a mentality so drainful.
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by MissJoy29(f): 11:45pm On Aug 16, 2017
WORDWORLD:


I wish you more happiness and a blissful heart since you have been able to emancipate yourself from such a mentality so drainful.


Thank you. I'm achieving that & more by God's Grace. Good night

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Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by McLove(m): 11:51pm On Aug 16, 2017
Evaberry:
Yes my former


Exactly, they want to do everything
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by McLove(m): 11:53pm On Aug 16, 2017
Rorachy:
Yes I have and they are the worst thing that can happen to a person.
I'm telling you! If you're in a relationship with a perfectionist, na die o!

They will even expect you to know what they are feeling. 99% is a no no for them
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by nkemdi89(f): 11:59pm On Aug 16, 2017
Nathan2016:


Thats not a perfectionist. Thats a principled guy


Perfectionist is gotten from perfect bae....

like if he wants to wash a plate, he will wash it and arrange it to a point there will be no stain, water or any stuff around. the house is neat 247, cloth well arrange and ironed , if you keep something unintentionally, he will take it and put it in an order for it to look perfect..

TRUST ME, THEY CAN DRIVE YOU CRAZY...

SO u didnt meet a perfectionist....

you just met a high standard principled guy
I don't want to type everything, this person even has PHD in OCD, he is so neat that I feel intimidated as a woman, his home sparkles, and you will think the cleaning is handled by an house keeper, his clothes everything neatly made, and even if you are the rough type you will have no option than to maintain the standard. You dare not keep dirty clothes around, in fact you can eat in his toilet.

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Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by RoyalUc(m): 12:06am On Aug 17, 2017
Most of us don't get it. Perfectionism or being a perfectionist isn't being fautless, as in, not having weaknesses just like every other human.
The term just describes a set of individuals who exhibit a peculiar triat. While many of us had rightly pointed out most of the attributes of a perfectionist, I think it's important to say that what makes a perfectionist a perfectionist is not necessarily picking on other people's faults but his/her own faults. They find it really hard to 'forgive' themselves. Yes, the perfectionist sees more of his/her weaknesses than his/her strenghths. He/she is constantly afraid of doing the 'wrong' thing.
However, it is a very challenging lifestyle. It is very demanding and energy consuming and could make life 'taseless' sometimes.

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Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by Virgohills(m): 5:23am On Aug 17, 2017
Hotels.ng boss is a perfectionist
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by Nobody: 6:43am On Aug 17, 2017
I worked with a perfectionist boss and I became somehow a perfectionist myself. I can shout at my gf at times when she does things without reasoning but when I realize my IQ is fare higher than hers I still apologize but the thing is I like rolling with people who have high IQ even higher than me.
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 6:57am On Aug 17, 2017
WORDWORLD:


Very TRUE, its really, really a PERSONALITY DISORDER which has its root in the HUMAN EGO. That all hating 'I' which thrives at the misfortunes of others.
sometimes one to let them know how bad such behaviour is and let them know that they are not the only ones that know how to do things well. But if you are not in the mood to talk, it's better you just let them do all the work especially when you have them in the house.
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by tosyne2much(m): 7:06am On Aug 17, 2017
LordKO:
Show me a self-acclaimed perfectionist and I will point to you a hypocrite of the highest order. I've always have them around me in most of my endeavors and my diplomatic nature always help me to have them under my submission in the long run of associating with them.

Their major attributes are conceitedness and disingenuousness, so when you come across them mete out an effacing and conscientious attitudes towards them and see them come to your submission.

Perfectionist shouldn't be mistaken for conscientious/principled people. No human being is gifted enough to be perfect.


You nailed it bro

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Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by xharles15(m): 7:08am On Aug 17, 2017
nkemdi89:

I don't want to type everything, this person even has PHD in OCD, he is so neat that I feel intimidated as a woman, his home sparkles, and you will think the cleaning is handled by an house keeper, his clothes everything neatly made, and even if you are the rough type you will have no option than to maintain the standard. You dare not keep dirty clothes around, in fact you can eat in his toilet.
I still think he's just principled. I've lived with a perfectionist for close to a year.
Does he make you feel inadequate or batter your self esteem ?
Does he find a reason to derive displeasure in everything around him?
Does he believe his ways are superior to others', or that he alone can make the world go round?
Does he hold himself to unrealistic standards?
If no is the answer to any of these questions, you have yourself a principled man and probably a thing or two to learn from him.
Cheers!

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Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by bonifieldstun(m): 7:11am On Aug 17, 2017
Rorachy:
Yes I have and they are the worst thing that can happen to a person.
grin banana fall on you
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by QueenSekxy(f): 7:24am On Aug 17, 2017
tosyne2much:
I used to have a pastor who is a perfectionist and I know how fault finding and jealous he can be

The people I pity most are actually those working under such people
lol..always you and this your pastor
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by Nobody: 7:31am On Aug 17, 2017
Alitair:
How about having a father who is a perfectionist? Grew up with him so you can understand....
That is so not cool.
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by tosyne2much(m): 7:37am On Aug 17, 2017
QueenSekxy:

lol..always you and this your pastor
No mind me jawe cheesy

But seriously, working under these people is hell. They keep you frustrated everyday because they are fault finders. In fact, some of them will issue sack letter to you when you outperform them cheesy
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by jashar(f): 7:43am On Aug 17, 2017
It's energy sapping. Not worth it @ all...
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by QueenSekxy(f): 8:01am On Aug 17, 2017
tosyne2much:
No mind me jawe cheesy

But seriously, working under these people is hell. They keep you frustrated everyday because they are fault finders. In fat, some of them will issue sack letter to you when you outperform them cheesy
lwkmh!!!!@ your last statement, ,,na jealousy my dear
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by bibe(m): 8:29am On Aug 17, 2017
ireneidiva:
Make her bed not 'lay' her bed abeg.
Lingua perfectionist spotted grin

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Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by ireneidiva(f): 9:14am On Aug 17, 2017
bibe:

Lingua perfectionist spotted grin
I'm not o.
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by Sparkles003(f): 9:33am On Aug 17, 2017
My mum is a perfectionist but my dad is core perfectionist.
The bed must be laid certain way...and when you lay the bed no lying on it till night time .
the house must be sparkling clean which requires it being swept 9-15 times a day.
e.t.c
When you pour diseal in the gen you must calculate how many hours such liters last.when you put the gen on you must calculate the time of putting it on and the time of putting it off so as to get the accurate time it took the inverter to charge to full capacity.
e.t.c
If you take time to understand them,you learn a lot of good. tho it can be mentally tasking to the receiving party at times.cos sometimes even when you think you have done the perfect thing name just below standard to them.
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by august2224(m): 10:15am On Aug 17, 2017
LordKO:
Show me a self-acclaimed perfectionist and I will point to you a hypocrite of the highest order. I've always have them around me in most of my endeavors and my diplomatic nature always help me to have them under my submission in the long run of associating with them.

Their major attributes are conceitedness and disingenuousness, so when you come across them mete out an effacing and conscientious attitudes towards them and see them come to your submission.

Perfectionist shouldn't be mistaken for conscientious/principled people. No human being is gifted enough to be perfect.

God bless u sir

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Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by 9inches(m): 10:32am On Aug 17, 2017
PatriotTemidayo:
What majority of people termed as perfectionism is actually PRINCIPLE and professionalism.

Some people are so lazy, instruction piece them like needles, some are so complacent; they want things to remain how they've been for ages, but they complain how white people achieve so much and we dont.

Try managing Nigerian workers and you'll need OXYGEN support in just two months.

There are wonderful Nigerians, who understand that workplace is guided by strict rules for performance and we have those that want money but never want to be corrected, or directed, or even shown when things are not done right.

Though there are few people who are perfectionists in the real sense of it, but I can tell you that some girls and guys just think they should be pitied or given favourable treatment just because they are girls or young men. Na!


Me myself I hate perfectionists, but we get it mixed up sometimes.

kiss

On point. You will lose your sanity if you encounter civil servants in our public offices.

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Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by DWJOBScom(m): 10:50am On Aug 17, 2017
Evaberry:
Yes my former

He is the definition of a perfectionist

Lost interest in the Job because of him

He doesn't allow anyone do anything if he's not involve, perfectionist usually feels only them can get the job done and others will only impede them

Flee from perfectionist
they will drive u insane


Like all my uncles

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Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by Nobody: 11:13am On Aug 17, 2017
MISSCONGENIALITY:
it's better you just let them do all the work especially when you have them in the house.

Hahaha...............BEST SOLUTION!
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by Ofemmanu1: 11:56am On Aug 17, 2017
Haa, it reminds me of my former boss.

She's a typical know it all- Perfectionist; Two days after she offered me a job, other colleagues told me NOBODY has worked for a MONTH in my position. I told em I'ma capricorn- mine will be different..

Meanwhile, after 3 days i started feeling the heat- on the 7th day, i was fed-up, i didn't go to work again.
She called my line, talked like a good person she is and i gave it a second chance- this time, it only lasted for another 7 days before i told her i want out.
She turned my request down instantly and asked me to work for 30 and get paid, after 20days of work we're at an impasse.
At any slight mistake, she would called me names like Daft, Eediot, low life etc all of her ranting and nagging made me sick and exhausted.

When i. finally quit the sh..it, i realised I haven't spent one month!

I never get paid but i was like a bird that escaped from the snare of fowler- HAPPY again!

I learned two lessons;
1. Better a dry crust eaten in peace than a house filled with feasting and conflict- Proverbs 1:7

2.. I cannot compromise my respect for your Job. You can keep your job, I will keep my respect..

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Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 12:31pm On Aug 17, 2017
WORDWORLD:


Hahaha...............BEST SOLUTION!
grin grin grin
The thing dey pain
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by Davidgrey: 8:07pm On Aug 17, 2017
Fabulocity:
Perfect at stalking innocent girls abi grin grin grin
Next time do yourself a favour and ignore my comment.....Ok! #Ignorant clown

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Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by Alitair(m): 9:12pm On Aug 17, 2017
TGoddess:
That is so not cool.
I try every thing I can to stay away from them. Did you have a similar experience..
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by moski5(m): 10:18am On Aug 18, 2017
Evaberry:
done and others will only impede them

Flee from perfectionist
they will drive u insane


only if you let them, the 'empathetic' ones can be handled
Re: Ever Been In A Relationship Or Work Under A Perfectionist? Share Your Experience by PatriotTemidayo: 6:43am On Aug 19, 2017
clemmonce:
I understand your drift.. I as person I like things being done very well... let us add value to what we are doing... What I don't like are bosses that feel they have to be involve in everything even things that don't concern them... They always feel without their presence things cannot move.. I love things being done well and following the status quo we need to improve on everything we do.. But perfectionist is a no no
Have you ever managed a group of employees before?

When you do, come and give testimonies.

Believe me, Nigerians need a new orientation about work.

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