BrightDeGea:
you are right bro but dont get me wrong i am not trying to push them away, i gave them an advice and motivated them to be real men, i am not wicked i just dont want them to be good for nothing besides its my advice that will make them to fight for the office of the governor tomorrow

BroZuma:


My guy this your sharp mouth nah because you dey recieving end...

erico2k2:

How do you k now your uncles and brothers expect you to sort them out financially? and you think having just o ne kid gives you guarantee that you ill be able to train him/her
Did anyone threaten you with who knows waht that you must train them?

Physicist:


They always asked for money. Barack Obama (former American President) had the same problem with his family members from Kenya. He wrote about it in a book. I understand not every Nigerian will fully understand the issue the OP raised. The problem is real for many people.

Nyceguy92:


Huhmnnn?
BroZuma, I no dey receive at all.
In fact, I have been giving and happily too.

A few years ago, I saw the need to put a cousin, just a cousin, in a better secondary school with boarding facility.
I just came back from Youth Service.

On December 24 of that year, I took him to a big market and bought every item that was in the new school's prospectus.
That trip left a huge hole in my pocket.
I saw him through school. He is now a mechanical engineer.

See, this thing is like a cycle:at some point, somebody looked out for you, so why won't you do so for someone else?
We are Africans, not Europeans.

Phut:


"Paint ... black"? Why do black people use this expression without a thought as to the history behind it? If you agree that painting black is a bad thing, that is a subconscious admission that that which you are (black) is a bad thing. How about "painting in a bad light?"

You are really funny ...If you check your complexion... you are not Black just saying based on the colour I was taught in primary school, No African race is black..except maybe the Sudanese....Like wise the "White"....Everyone knows what white colour looks like... So do not be angry when you hear such thing..

Buchi95:
Poster you're a thief!
Stop plagiarising people's post!!
Why didn't you give credit to the original writer from Facebook?

This is my intellectual property, you shameless thief!!

erico2k2:

Well I was thinking the same way you are now thinking when I was 19,now that I am a parent, my thinking is way past that, dont worry you shall remember this and laugh just like i am doing now.You can never be prepared when it comes to kids, you just try your best trust me.
The only sure thing is moral upbringing and thats the key plus its priceless.

ivolt:
@ sexybbstar you are only scratching the surface, Nigerian parents invest heavily both
materially and emotionally on their first borns, so expecting him/her to take care
of some responsibility is justified.

I have seen families where wealthy uncles even contribute to their nephews
empowerment. It is the Nigerian family code that is at work.

Take the US for example, some parents usually leave their kids to fend
for themselves after high school and many are even asked to move
out of the parents house, left with little choice, may kids have to take
up debt to finance their own education. This hardly happens in the Nigerian setting
where parents feel responsible for the child until he/she is successful except
the parent are indigent.
No wonder many american adults put their parents in senior homes
and only visit them during christmas.

I see your post as encouraging selfishness and attempting to destroy the ladder one
used in climbing up after benefiting from the same system.

When children are tired of the current system, parents will also stop
investing in post-high school life of their children, so they can focus
on the younger siblings.

In cases where parents contribute nothing to the child's success
or the eldest child is not financially buoyant, then he/she can
boycott any responsibility placed on him.

kratoss:


I know i dont have a kid yet, but i knw i have a plan for my life as i am not a teenager or a young kid... One fact i knw is u only get a kid wen u want it... U can stop with d number u have nw also n take proper care of them.... Their is no award for most kids,then why do dem plenty

Enoquin:

In Alicia Keys voice "I felt you, felt all the emotions behind the post"
First borns need to start being selfish. I am not referring to those that have the means to help, I am referring to those that do not and are being forced to.

Richy4:


You are really funny ...If you check your complexion... you are not Black just saying based on the colour I was taught in primary school, No African race is black..except maybe the Sudanese....Like wise the "White"....Everyone knows what white colour looks like... So do not be angry when you hear such thing..

Nyceguy92:


Huhmnnn?
BroZuma, I no dey receive at all.
In fact, I have been giving and happily too.

A few years ago, I saw the need to put a cousin, just a cousin, in a better secondary school with boarding facility.
I just came back from Youth Service.

On December 24 of that year, I took him to a big market and bought every item that was in the new school's prospectus.
That trip left a huge hole in my pocket.
I saw him through school. He is now a mechanical engineer.

See, this thing is like a cycle:at some point, somebody looked out for you, so why won't you do so for someone else?
We are Africans, not Europeans.

Osahon7:
IF I BECOME A NIGERIAN SENATOR, AM GONNA TO MOVE A MOTION THAT WILL CONSTITUTIONAL EMPOWER THE FED GOVT AND STATE GOVT TO CONTROL THE NUMBER OF KIDS EVERY FAMILY SHOULD HAVE.

THIS PRACTICE IS COMMON AMONGST ALL THESE POOR PEOPLE.THEY KEEP GIVING BIRTH LIKE DOGS AND THIER CHILDREN KIDS CONSTITUTING NUISANCE TO THE SOCIETY.
WHY GIVE BIRTH TO 10 CHILDREN WHEN YOU KNOW YOUR SOURCE OF INCOME IS VIA TAXI DRIVING OR BUS DRIVING?
GOVT SHOULD INTERVENE PLEASE!
KIDNAPPING,ARMED ROBBERY AND SOCIAL VICES STARTS WHEN THE FAMILY UNIT HAS FAILED.

Buchi95:
Poster you're a thief!
Stop plagiarising people's post!!
Why didn't you give credit to the original writer from Facebook?
This is my intellectual property, you shameless thief!!

Khonifer:


No. The story isn't peculiar to the op. You are probably from a good family that's why you're saying this. I also have a similar story. A 32 year old cousin, engaged for the past four years because his parents flat out told him he can't get married until his 5 younger ones are through with school. Yes. University and everything.

The funniest thing is the youngest is just in SS2

A lot of parents turn the 1st child into a parent. The same reason my 20 year old coursemate is soon getting married to a rich man she has no iota of feelings for. How else would her younger ones feed and get an education?

Buchi95:
Poster, why did you steal this post from my Facebook wall?

This post was originally made by me on 22nd of June. Trying to upload the screenshot here but not working.

Stop the freaking intellectual thievery!!!

Evaberry:
I'm cumming